Every parent can't stand their children being hurt or bullied. "Protecting calves" is really understandable. They think they love their children.
In fact, parents come to beat their children to vent their inner anguish and vent their anger for their children. He didn't expect that this way of "love" was wrong, and the education brought to children was many times worse than that of "protecting calves", and the bad influence would be printed in children's minds. But such parents have no idea at this time.
Moreover, if another parent sees an adult actually helping the child fight back and hit the child, it will be even more angry. As soon as he comes up, both parents may "start work", which is even worse for the children. Parents are the first teachers of the children.
Maybe you think it's all for the children, but you don't think deeply and rationally that the education brought by the wrong behavior will affect the children's life, which will be worse than "scratching".
The correct way is to control your emotions. Apologize to the child who was caught with the baby first, and check for scratches. If the child is seriously scratched, it is recommended to take the child to the hospital for examination and treatment accompanied by parents.
Next, still hold back your anger, pull the parents who beat your child aside and infer that the final result will be that parents apologize to your baby.
The advantages of this are:
1, let children deeply experience that parents are not reckless and impulsive, but can control their emotions even if they are angry, which will set a good example for children.
2. Let children realize that it is wrong to hit people and catch people. If they do something wrong, they should dare to bear it and apologize to the children who are caught. Children know right and wrong.
3. Although the parents of the other party are irrational and hit their children back, both parents and children are very concerned about the injuries of the arrested children, but they have also carefully examined them. It is recommended to go to the hospital to show their children and so on. This move gives children a good demonstration: no matter how big the contradiction is, children's safety is the most important, so that children have learned from an early age not to be impulsive, but to deal with problems wisely, decisively and correctly. Let the children deeply understand what they have "provoked", and they should bear, not escape, and let the children learn to take responsibility again. The cultivation of responsibility consciousness comes from the dribs and drabs of life.
4. Avoid the practice of children discussing with their parents, reasoning and asking their parents to apologize to their children, so that children can receive the most correct education: solving problems is not by "fists", not by quarreling, not by losing their temper, not by "tit for tat", but by managing their emotions and communicating through exchanges. If the child is hot-headed and does something wrong, adults should apologize to the child. Children learn to deal with problems wisely there, instead of relying on "violence". Solving problems by "violence" will only go on in a vicious circle, which is not good for yourself and others.
So, how do parents deal with a simple child fight? How to control your emotions? It has a far-reaching impact on children's education. On-site practice will bring profound education to children, which is more useful than reasoning with him a hundred times.
What will you do if you encounter such an event?