The happiest state of a woman is to do what she likes and cultivate excellent children.

Li Meijin, an education expert, once said: "No matter how successful parents are in their careers, they are not as successful as educating their children."

Educating children is every mother's lifelong career. While educating children, they are also educated by children. Making a little progress and change for children is a great blessing in life.

When I was pregnant with my boss, I always hesitated between my future and my children. For a while, I thought about killing him for my future, but he was a piece of meat on his body after all, but I couldn't get rid of that hand, so I gave up my future and gave birth to him.

It is not worthwhile to say that I am too emotional, but for me, I can owe any debt, but I can't owe my life debt, and I can't pay it back in my life.

Since he came to my side, it shows that we were predestined friends in previous lives. I have no right to stop him from coming into this world, whether it is good fate or doomed love.

Dabao was only one year old when he was born. In order to earn money to support my family, I had to leave him at home to be taken care of by the elderly, and I went out to work with Lao Qian (her father). At that time, I was still young and didn't understand education. I thought I would be an excellent parent as long as I gave my children a good material life.

It was not until my child went to the kindergarten middle class at the age of 5 that a phone call from the teacher woke me up and made me have to reflect on the harm that the wrong education has brought to my child in these years.

The teacher said to me: "In fact, children have no concept of material things. For them, the companionship of parents is the most important thing. Only his mother can give him a sense of security. Your child is very smart, but too withdrawn to play with other children. "

Dabao's state reminds me of my childhood, and then I decided to go back to my hometown with my old money to earn more money. If children are not well educated, it is the biggest loss for parents.

The lack of maternal love for four years makes Dabao's character a bit strange. He likes to go out all day and not come back until dark. Once he almost ran away, scaring his grandmother to death. This accelerated the process of my return to my hometown.

After I came back, it was difficult to get along with Dabao for a year or two. I tried my best to get him into the learning state quickly, but the effect was not great.

Later, reading Li Jianli's book "A good mother is better than a good teacher" made me discover my mistakes. I often use discipline to make him obey me and even beat him. This is the key to the deterioration of our relationship. Although people came back, the wrong education made each other's hearts farther away.

As mentioned in the book, parents should respect their children, guide them, trust them, understand them and give them opportunities to grow up slowly. Every child is an independent individual and has his own ideas. Parents should not interfere too much.

It is better to change yourself than to change your children. I put down my anxiety, controlled my emotions, picked up books and pens, and showed them to him over and over again. Although the effect is a bit slow, our relationship has become harmonious bit by bit.

In the first half semester of senior high school, in order to let Dabao get along with his friends better, Lao Qian and I opened a child care center. Although it only lasted for two years, Dabao has changed a lot in these two years.

In two years, he changed from a poor student in his class to an excellent student, from unsociable to helpful, from sloppy to clean and tidy, from indifferent to himself to responsible. ...

Although he is still a child under the age of ten, many of his behaviors surpass those of adults. At that time, many students took him as their goal and learned from him.

He also has many shortcomings, such as playing mobile phones and having a little temper, but it is the nature of every child to be playful, and adults can't be completely self-disciplined, let alone a child.

Last year, Dabao and I would lie in bed and chat every night. In a chat, Dabao said to me, "Mom, do you know why I loved going out when I was a child?" Because I went to see you, everyone else had a mother to pick me up, but I didn't. My grandmother lied to me every day that my mother came back in the middle of the night, but the next day I woke up and my mother didn't come back ... "He cried.

I cried for a while and then said, "I finally got you back, but it wasn't what I expected." My mother is very beautiful and gentle, but you hit me and scold me as soon as you come back. I know you want me to study hard, but I can't stand your way. You make me afraid ... "

I listened to Dabao's story quietly, with mixed feelings in my heart. I am ashamed to recall the way I treated my children two years ago. Maybe this is a mistake that every uneducated parent will make. I hate iron not turning into steel, but the more anxious I am, the more extreme I am, and the less satisfactory the result is.

After hearing Dabao's story, I could only hold him tightly and apologize to him: "I'm sorry, it's all my mother's fault." My mother hurt you. Please forgive my mother? " As I spoke, my cheeks were wet with tears.

I don't know how long it took, Dabao smiled and said, "Mom, I forgive you now, because you have become gentler than before. Speak your mind tonight and I will forgive you! "

I'm even sadder when I hear that. I found that I didn't have a nine-year-old child who understood the truth. Their ideas are always so simple. Just give them a ray of sunshine and they will become brilliant.

After the in-depth conversation that night, my relationship with Dabao became better and better. We supervise and encourage each other. He goes to school and I write. There is no such thing as a chicken flying and a dog jumping.

Now, he is in the fourth grade and his grades are among the best in his class. His handwriting is also very good, and more importantly, he is kind, honest and sensible. I didn't mean to ask him, he brought it.

After breakfast yesterday, my father-in-law told us to carry firewood up the mountain, followed by Dabao and his sister-in-law's second child. We talked and laughed while working, and we were very happy.

Dabao said to me, "Mom, I find that you are getting more and more childish now, especially when you talk, but I like it very much."

I don't know whether it is happy or sad after listening. Anyway, as long as Dabao likes it.

During the break, he also took the initiative to share with me the educational videos of Zhou Wenqiang he saw in Tik Tok, which benefited me a lot. More and more, I feel that my child's thinking is far beyond my thinking. He has been educating me, guiding me, and letting me know myself and change myself.

After helping for more than an hour, his brother went home to play with his mobile phone. He wanted to leave, but he looked at me and asked, "Mom, do you want me to stay or go?"

I smiled and said, "I want you to stay and help. Can you stay? Go back when you are tired, it's okay. "

After a while, I turned around and found him still behind me. I asked him why he didn't leave. He said, "I can't let my mother work alone. My mobile phone is definitely more important than my mother. "

I was so moved that I couldn't speak and gave him a big hug. Later, I told him to go back, but he didn't leave.

After Dabao came home, I moved firewood and recorded the dribs and drabs when Dabao and I were resting, which left me with full memories. I hope it will be sweet in the future.

Now if someone asks me, "What is the most important thing in your life?" I will definitely answer without hesitation: "Old people, children, writing."

It is my duty to educate children and support the elderly, but writing is my pleasure. Only by satisfying these two points can my life be meaningful!

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