Parents who want to control their emotions and can't effectively stop their children from talking back often have poor self-control and are inevitably rude and impatient when educating their children. However, this improper handling method often hurts their children's hearts.

Reward and punishment are moderate.

Calm in case of trouble, appropriate rewards and punishments. As parents, no matter how big a mistake a child makes, don't be impatient. Ask the ins and outs of the matter first, and then decide how to deal with it. Don't engage in joint punishment or turn over old scores. Before rewards and punishments, we should explain the truth and convince the children thoroughly.

Active understanding

Take the initiative to understand the child's intentions. When the child refutes you, you should ask yourself, "What's the matter? What does this little guy want? " When you understand the child's intention, you will understand why the child suddenly becomes so rude. Considering the problem from the child's point of view helps parents to ease the atmosphere and emotions.

Change the way you speak.

Remind children to change their way of speaking. Parents should simply say "Don't talk back" to their children. How about saying, "I understand how you feel, but can you say it in a different tone?" Or say, "I don't like you talking like this. You can convince me slowly with your reason." If the child is angry, parents can also say, "I know you are angry now." Wait until you calm down, okay? "

teach by precept and example

Pay attention to words and deeds, children have strong imitation ability. If parents often talk back to their loved ones and have conflicts with the elderly, the strength of disciplining children can be imagined. Therefore, parents should set an example, do things peacefully on weekdays, and respect their words and deeds when they meet their elders, so that children will naturally listen to instructions and stop talking back.

♀? Reduce doting

Reduce the behavior of doting on children. All parents know the harm of doting, which may cause children to talk back. Only by removing the habit of doting on children can we reduce the phenomenon of talking back. The whole family had better be on the same side. If the child is disobedient, it is obviously unreasonable to talk back and make trouble. Everyone ignored him, isolated him and let him bear the consequences. When he becomes reasonable and obedient, he should use encouraging words and deeds to strengthen his transformation.