Xiaoli is often scolded by her parents when they quarrel. Xiaoli hates such a family, especially her parents. Although under normal circumstances, when parents don't quarrel, several people can coexist in Wan Li in a clear sky. However, these swearing words that jumped out of parents' mouths, like knives, suddenly jumped out every once in a while and suddenly plunged into a small force, which made him very painful. Xiao Li is disgusted and getting tired of going home. After that, the middle school didn't finish, and the schoolwork declined and plummeted. Finally, he dropped out of school and chose to work outside.
For Xiaoli, the depravity of her parents is the most painful memory of her childhood. Xiaoli said, "Those are my own parents. How can they have the heart to say such ugly things? At that time, I was still a child, just a little older! " It can be seen that some children are unfilial, and it is not all their fault. It is likely that parents always say things they shouldn't say, which has caused the bitter fruit of their children's unfilial.
? Parents always say these three words, and children are likely to be unfilial to the first one when they grow up: a derogatory term is warm in three winters, and a bad name is cold in June. Children are very soft-hearted. What they need is encouragement and trust. They want energy from their parents, not some derogatory words. If parents often talk about belittling children, children will be slow to respond and feel dull, and they will feel insecure and sad when they are alone. When this feeling becomes a good habit of children, children will be separated from their parents when they grow up, and it is difficult to honor their parents from the heart.
The second sentence: sarcastic words Sometimes, parents may not mean it, so they tell their children some sarcastic words. In the eyes of parents, it was just a joke, or an unintentional move. However, it seems likely that children are different. Children may think that their closest parents look down on themselves and make fun of others, which is really sad. Once children receive such data signals, they write down their parents' sarcastic remarks, such as "Other children are better than you, how can you be as stupid as a pig!" Children always listen to such words, and it is difficult to honor their parents when they grow up.
The third type: child violence, like a torsion spring. You put pressure on him, and he can bounce. Some parents believe in this kind of parenting education, so they always say something violent in front of their children to shape their rights as parents at home. At the same time, parents are actually trying to arouse their children, and they can be active, diligent and active.
But helpless, parents should overestimate the child's psychological endurance and forget that it is just a child. Once the psychological state touches the high-voltage line in the child's heart, parent-child communication will collapse. Even if the child does not express it, such a crack is difficult to repair. When children grow up, it is easy to become unfilial.