When children are in conflict with adults,
? Anne is a girl adopted by Matthew and Marina of Green Gables. Although Anne is an orphan without friends, she is also a strong, optimistic, lively and interesting child with straightforward self-esteem. When she first met Ma Lina's friend Mrs Linde, someone laughed at her appearance. Being humiliated, Anne took the worst way and gave Mrs. Linde a more direct response in person.
? When Ma Lina heard this, she stopped it, but Annie, who was wronged, ran back to her room and cried in her bed. When Mrs. Linde criticized Anne, Marilla said to her, "You really went a little too far just now." After Mrs. Linde left awkwardly, Marilla went to Anne to enlighten her and hoped that she would apologize to Mrs. Linde, but Anne resolutely refused to apologize. The next morning, Anne still refused to admit her mistake and didn't eat breakfast. Marilla told Matthew the cause and effect, and Matthew said discontentedly, "If I were you, I would lose my temper, too. Mrs. Linde is always so talkative and nosy! " But Matthew took breakfast and advised Annie, "I know you don't want to apologize, but Annie, can this kind of thing be stopped?" How to treat a sentence and end it properly? "
When Matthew and Ma Lina were dealing with this conflict, what impressed me the most was that they not only had a calm tone, but also put themselves on Anne's side, saying fair words for their "children", and did not only care about the adult's face to suppress the children, which virtually gave Anne some sense of security and built an emotional bridge for the next education. This kind of education has indeed achieved good results:
"Annie thought about it and said,' If it's for Matthew, I'll try. I was wrong, too, and now I admit it. "Later, I not only made a sincere apology to Mrs. Linde, but also won the favor of Mrs. Linde.
Anne once mistook red wine for sweet wine and got her friend Diana drunk. When Anne's friendship with Diana was about to be rudely stopped by Diana's unwitting mother, Ma Lina went to see Diana's mother to help Anne explain and plead. -this is also something that many biological parents may not be able to do.
When children are badly hit at school,
? A smart and handsome boy named Kilbert came to school? Bly, Diana likes him very much and has been introducing him to Annie. Other girls like to go around Kilbert, but Annie is different. In order to attract Anne's attention, Kilbert once grabbed the tip of her long braid and said sharply, "Carrots! Carrots! " Angry and wronged, Annie picked up the board and hit each other.
So Anne was punished by the teacher. On the blackboard above her head, the teacher wrote a sentence: "Annie? Shirley is a grumpy person! Annie. Shirley must reflect on her behavior! " This incident hit Annie hard, and she felt very wronged. When she got home, she cried and told Marina that she would never go to school again.
After listening to the whole story carefully, Ma Lina, although embarrassed, accepted Mrs. Linde's suggestion and gave Anne a buffer period for mental healing.
Ma Lina in the outing storm
? When Anne said that the school would organize a student outing, Ma Lina immediately agreed to Anne's going. Anne said shyly that the teacher asked every student to bring food to share with everyone, but she couldn't do it. Ma Lina immediately said that she would help Annie make some dessert. Anne's kiss rewarded Ma Lina's understanding and support.
A lot of things have happened. Two days before the trip, Ma Lina's beloved pin could not be found. Knowing that Anne had touched it, Ma Lina angrily questioned whether Anne had taken it. Annie said that she looked at it and put it back. Ma Lina couldn't find it again and thought Annie was lying, so he said, If you don't tell the truth, you can't go for an outing. Ma Lina felt that Anne definitely didn't want to steal it, but took it for fun, because only Anne entered the room besides herself. In order to go for an outing at will, Anne obeyed Ma Lina's lie that she accidentally fell into the lake with an outing.
After finding the pin, Ma Lina found that she had really wronged Annie and said sincerely, "Annie, I really gave up on you. It's all my fault. If you can forgive me, I will forgive you. From now on, I will love you more. Come on, get ready for an outing. It's only two o'clock, everyone has just gathered and hasn't set off yet! "
To give children real understanding and support, parents need to put themselves in their shoes; Love without connivance needs parents' vision and reason; If parents are wrong, apologizing to their children can close the emotional distance between them!
Parents give their children "gifts"
I admire Matthew and Marina for their great love and wisdom in giving Anne a present.
Annie is going to school. Ma Lina sewed three new dresses for her, only a very ordinary waist. It looks good, but it looks simple. Annie doesn't like it very much. She doesn't think it looks good. Marilla said, "I won't make you beautiful clothes, and I'm not going to encourage your vanity." Clothes are practical, simple and generous. " -This is a gentle gift from Ma Lina.
Anne got Diana's friendship after adapting to school life, and she was very happy. Matthew bought Annie chocolate that day, which made Anne, who was originally immersed in happiness, even more elated. -This is a distressed gift from Ma Xiuzhen.
Once, Anne took part in a group performance organized by the school. Matthew looked at Anne standing among the energetic girls, her eyes shining. But he carefully found that Anne was dressed too simply compared with other students-since Anne came to Green Gable, Ma Lina has been asking her to wear dark skirts, all of which are the same style, very simple and monotonous, while the girls around Anne are wearing colorful clothes. Matthew gave Annie a beautiful skirt. When Christmas arrived, Anne's eyes filled with happy tears when she received the gift and said, "This dress is like a happy dream for me!" " "-this is the most thoughtful gift!
? On Anne's graduation day, Matthew and Marilla both attended Anne's graduation ceremony. -This is a gift of sincere growth!
? When Diana's sister was ill, Diana's parents were not at home, so they hurried to find Anne. Matthew and Annie went to help, Matthew went to see a doctor, and Annie helped take care of it at home. It was already three o'clock in the morning when Matthew brought the doctor. At this time, Diana's sister's critical period passed. -This is an example of Matthew's kindness and enthusiasm.
Matthew and Ma Lina are indeed parents with educational wisdom and love. They also admire Annie from the heart, communicate with Annie sincerely, tolerate Annie's shortcomings, cultivate Annie's ability to do housework, temper justice with mercy, and be informal. Although they can't provide Anne with rich material conditions, the beautiful environment of the green gables they built and their kind conduct are the most precious wealth left to Anne.
? Anne of Green Gables deserves every parent's intensive reading.