A middle-aged woman in her forties was sitting opposite Ni Ping, crying her story in tears.

It turns out that she participated in When You Find Your Son Who Has Been Away from Home for Six Years.

Her son, a college student studying medicine, was already working. But what caused this highly educated adult to resolutely run away from home?

My son left his parents cruelly and gave up his stable job. He hasn't contacted his family for six years. What is the secret?

Mother's story opened a mysterious veil for us.

It turns out that this mother has been bullied by her mother-in-law since she married her husband's family. She didn't want to be humiliated, and she couldn't resist.

My son's excellent grades have really improved his mother's position at home, and her mother-in-law's attitude towards her has also greatly improved. She is more eager to devote herself to children's education.

At the college entrance examination, my son was admitted to the medical major as he wished. Before her son graduated, she found a job in the county hospital for her son, who went directly to the hospital after graduation.

Everything is so smooth, everything is going according to my mother's wishes.

My son doesn't have to submit resumes everywhere like other college students, and it is difficult to find a job, but at the same time he loses the right to choose.

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However, the son's work is not satisfactory. Because of his introverted personality, he doesn't get along well with his colleagues. In addition, many of his colleagues are graduate students. He is very self-abased, feeling that his education is too low and his skills are not as good as others, and he also wants to take the postgraduate entrance examination.

But when he told his mother his thoughts, her mother reacted strongly and resolutely disagreed. He was helpless, so he had to continue to work and live a depressed life.

Finally, one day, my son couldn't bear the pressure. He wants to fight, get rid of his mother's control, and be the master of his life once and for all.

This is the Spring Festival of the year, and it is also a day for family reunion. My son stayed at home until the fifth day, and left home with his bag on the sixth day. Since then, I haven't been back for six years, and I haven't worked with my family, not even a phone call or a letter.

The son's departure, as if from scratch, suddenly brought this competitive mother to the brink of collapse, and all hopes collapsed in an instant.

The mother looked for her son everywhere in despair, but there was still no news. My mother cried frequently at the scene of the program, realizing the mistake of her education method, hoping to find her son and sincerely apologize to him.

But when the people in the program group found their son, he refused to go to the scene to recognize his mother.

All the commentators are saying that my son has gone too far and is a bit unfilial. But I was thinking, how much damage did his mother do to his mind, so he did such a rude and unreasonable thing?

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Since childhood, mothers have always used their own thoughts to demand and control their children, never paying attention to their hearts, and never thinking about whether these requirements are what children want.

Children listen to you when they are young, even if they are rebellious, they have no resistance. And when you grow up, it will cause the sky to fall.

Once he escaped from the prison pet, it was a relief for him. How can he easily go back to the prison pet?

My son didn't contact his family after six years of escape. Even when the "Waiting for You" program finally found him, he didn't want to come back, indicating that he had no love for his family and his parents, and should be more disappointed and resentful.

I wrote an article the other day. Why can't children feel your love? Many parents think that they love their children very much and spend all their energy and money on them.

But why don't children feel it and even take that kind of love as a burden? That only shows that you love in the wrong way, completely ignoring that he is a thoughtful person.

Fortunately, through the follow-up report of the program group, we saw that our son had returned home and brought back his daughter-in-law and a grandson for his mother, which was a happy result. However, the relationship between mother and child still needs a long process to repair.

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Some time ago, a mother jumped from the upstairs with two young children in her arms, leaving only a long suicide note. I think you should have heard of it on the Internet.

I think many people have read that suicide note. Apart from anger, sympathy and regret, have we thought deeply about why this mother ended her life so easily and why she took her two children so cruelly?

Because she is so desperate, only death is the complete liberation.

From the suicide note she left, we can know that she was abused by her husband and treated unfairly by her in-laws and family. What is more tragic, however, is that instead of being comforted and struggling by her parents, her experience once made her tolerant and forbearing.

Some people don't deserve your tolerance, and your kindness and atmosphere may be just cowardice and bullying to him.

She said that she didn't agree with her husband's family and raised children in a very different way. Children who stay in such a family will not get a good education. She said that she left everything her husband gave her, so she also wanted to take everything she gave her husband, including the children.

It's like we've never seen each other in our lives, no affection, no love, we walked completely clean, and we really did our best.

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I have to admit that this mother suffers from severe postpartum depression. But long-term humiliation and parents' indifference are also one of the main reasons for her final suicide.

The original ecological family gave him the concept of marriage: "Marry a chicken with a chicken, and marry a dog with a dog." "Married daughters are like spilled water" can't be taken back.

Her own mother is often subjected to domestic violence by her father, which may have formed a shadow in her young mind.

She lives in hot water every day and has no way out. She believes that only death can save herself.

When I was a child living in the countryside, it was common for couples to beat and scold. Some people even "learn from each other" as usual.

I remember, the most comforting sentence I heard was: "Don't be sad, there are couples who don't struggle together." It is conceivable that the phenomenon of domestic violence in rural areas was so common at that time.

I have seen several cases of wives drinking pesticides or hanging themselves, and some people really can't save them. I think that the original ecological family must convey the same thoughts to them as the mother who jumped off the building. If there was still a trace of affection and a trace of longing for life, they wouldn't have done such stupid things.

What a terrible thing it is for parents' thoughts to be imposed on their children. This may control the child for a while, but it will also make the child lose his mind, which will only make the child farther and farther away from you and even disappear from your life.

A child's life comes from his parents, but from the moment he is born, he is an independent individual and a natural person protected by national laws.

Parents who are still using your mind to control their children, it's time to wake up, and don't do anything that will make you regret for a lifetime.