Keywords: understand things clearly; Material wealth; Distinguish between good and evil
Few people in the world will blame themselves for loving their children too much. Most parents try their best to give their children more love, but forget to teach their children to love themselves and others. As a result, many children are xenophobic and xenophobic. If they are not satisfied, they will lose their temper, hit people, take it out on animals, and even kill their parents and partners to solve their worries. In order to cultivate children's sound personality, they must be educated in love from an early age.
1. Reasons for the lack of "education of love"
Family, school and society pay insufficient attention to the education of love itself. Including parents doting or indulging their children; Schools attach importance to academic performance and neglect ideological and mental health education; There are still some factors in society, such as the cold reception of love.
2. "Love education" strategy
2. 1, give full play to the role of "family is the first classroom and parents are the first teachers"
"Education Implementation Outline" clearly points out: "Noble moral character must be cultivated from childhood, starting with dolls. It is necessary to carry out moral enlightenment education in a simple way when children are sensible; In the process of children's growth, they must be persuasive, sensible, and guide children to distinguish between right and wrong and distinguish between good and evil. " For a family, children are the future, and the growth of children is a family event. The education of love should run through the whole family, so that children can accept and spread love in the moisture of love.
(1) Parents should give their children full love and rational love.
Parents should provide their children with a harmonious, safe and pleasant family atmosphere, which is the opportunity to express their views. Don't spoil your child, let him do something for his parents and provide timely help when he is in trouble, instead of completely replacing him. Parents should give their children full love, never control their children in the name of love, and rob them without love. In that case, children can easily form egoism, only know how to satisfy their own wishes, be indifferent to the suffering of others, and even gloat.
(2) Parents should set an example for their children with their own words and deeds.
Parents are role models for their children. They can start from caring for their families and gradually transition to caring for others and society. For example, parents take their children to visit grandparents, buy delicious food for the elderly, and chat with the elderly to go shopping; Participate in charitable donations; Go to the zoo to feed small animals or something.
(3) Pay attention to the emotional cultivation of children.
Create a pleasant atmosphere for children. If children are unhappy, they can be distracted, and parents should not bother and scold them, break intact things and so on. Over time, children will show behaviors such as trampling on toys, abusing small animals, and even having evil thoughts. Therefore, parents should attach importance to their children's emotional communication, guide their children's positive emotions and prevent them from accumulating dissatisfaction.
2.2, give full play to the role of kindergarten in teaching and educating people.
Learning to survive, learn to learn, and learn to care is the foundation of being a social person. Love is a noble inner experience, but it is not innate and can only be formed through nurture. In kindergarten, children can be educated in love from the following aspects.
(1) Warm parent-child experience activities-feel the teacher's love like a mother.
Freshmen entering the park is a major event in children's life. At the beginning of each year, we carry out happy experience activities for new students entering the park. Two days before the start of school, freshmen in small classes will be divided into groups and experience kindergarten life accompanied by their parents. The teacher organized more than a dozen children to play games, drink water, go to the toilet, play with toys, make the bed and so on. Let the children feel that the teacher is leading the scene, and let the children feel that the teacher is like a mother all the time. Feel the warmth and happiness of kindergarten collective life initially. Parent-child experience greatly shortens the anxiety period of freshmen entering the park, and it usually takes only 2-3 days to stabilize the mood of small classes, which parents are very satisfied with.
(2) An infectious musical image-transmitting love to children's lives.
Music is the most emotional art, and infectious music can fully tap children's emotional factors and develop children's appreciation ability and moral consciousness. We combine the education, knowledge and interest of music teaching to stimulate children's feelings of love while mastering music skills. For example, songs such as My Good Mother, I Love My Kindergarten, and Little Doll Fell Down cultivate children's feelings of loving relatives, companions, the collective and the surrounding environment; Another example is the song "Little Crow Loves Mom", which fully shows the sincere feelings of the little crow who loves her mother. When my mother is old and weak, I don't forget the kindness of her mother's upbringing and feed her worms bite by bite. When many children sing this song, their eyes are glistening with tears.
(3) Activities of life, birthday and growth-inspiring and shaping children's love.
Life is a topic that children often talk about. We should use children's curiosity to tell them "where I come from" and how I grew up. Through life education, children can initially realize the birth of human beings, the preciousness of life, and how to take care of their bodies. Activities such as caring for mothers, caring for disabled people, what to do if friends get sick, birds being good friends of human beings, saving elephants, protecting giant pandas and offering love to disaster areas have also been carried out, which has inspired and shaped children's love.
2.3, introspection, self-esteem, self-love from me, let love return to society.
Parents love their children, but they often fall into the quagmire of doting and pampering. They are afraid that their children will suffer, so they teach them: "Whoever moves your finger, you will kick him", and they also say that this is called "I won't commit crimes unless people attack me". If people attack me, I will attack. " Under such "education of love", where can children have tolerance and love? Children always have to grow up. After all, it is not enough to have the love of parents and family, but also the love of peers, people and society.
As the ancients said, the beginning of life is good. The same nature varies from upbringing to upbringing. As a receptor, children's body and mind reflect the structural components of adults and society. "Only when everyone gives a little love will the world become beautiful." In order to make children live in a beautiful world, we should not only give them rich material wealth, but also cultivate their ability to love, which is the sacred responsibility of all parents and even the whole society. We should start from ourselves, be introspective, self-respecting, self-loving, ready to help others, learn to be tolerant and forbearing, cherish and sympathize with the weak. At the same time, increase publicity, promote caring for people and things, and form a fashion of "being proud of love" in the whole society, so that everyone can feel love and urge everyone to give their love and realize the return of great love to society.
3. Conclusion
Students need love education, and society calls for love education. Maslow's self-realization theory, a humanistic psychologist, emphasizes "perfect humanity", and its connotation is to give full play to people's potential of friendship, cooperation, knowledge, aesthetics and creation. He believes that the achievements of self-actualizers are closely related to the concerns of childhood emotions and other factors. If childhood emotions encounter obstacles, such as losing love, security and respect, it will be difficult for children to develop towards self-realization when they grow up. In other words, a healthy personality means that you can accept and give love. If we love children, we should shape their healthy personality, carry out "love education" and let them have the ability to love. Let's work together to give our children a space for love, which is more important than giving him any wealth.