After reading the book "The Most Beautiful Education is the Simplest", my biggest feeling is that as parents, we have not strictly educated our children and set their time from our own perspective to influence their lives. Instead, try to conform to the nature of children and learn to solve the problems encountered in children's growth in the most appropriate and effective way on the premise of ensuring safety and not breaking the law. So, what is the most effective way to keep your mouth shut? The author's solution to some problems provides us with examples. We can learn from these examples, but each child's growth is different and the problems encountered are different. We should learn from our parents. Don't simply criticize or beat up problems, but use wisdom to solve them. So, study! Reflection!
Now I will list my gains as follows:
1. Give children the greatest freedom and freedom in childhood, and also give them the greatest trust. Don't do anything too much.
The book "Graffiti Walls for Children" impressed me deeply. Children can draw whatever they want, which can cultivate their imagination. Parents can't restrict their children just because they make a mess at home. Yin Jianli said, "Imagination does not need to be cultivated, infinity is cultivated".
2. When children get along with their peers, parents should adhere to the "three noes": no anger, no interference, and no fear of suffering.
3. Strict education is dangerous education, and strong parents are dangerous parents.
The "strict education" here is an educational method with beating, cursing, punishment and humiliation as the main means. In the future, we should encourage, affirm and praise children more, not to beat and scold, not to insult them. Don't be a strong parent, don't let children do everything according to their own requirements and rules, don't impose children's preferences or unfinished wishes on them, respect and encourage children's hobbies and help them play better.
4. Language is really an art. Parents, parents and teachers must pay attention to their own language on weekdays, take respect and trust as the bottom line, speak "subtext" well, and try not to let their own language hurt their children.
Parents should keep learning, improving and perfecting, and at the same time, they should not lose their temper, be unreasonable or nag. When we can't help losing our temper, the book gives us three methods: half an hour for the effect, waiting for half an hour; Pay attention to the ceremony; Mental evacuation. Try not to reason with children, but use life or create situations to let children understand this truth themselves. Remember that "the more parents like to reason, the less obedient their children are".
Parents need to learn too much!