For her daughter Cece, Bi Sheng Nan can sacrifice everything, give up everything, quit her job, sell her house and even abandon her marriage. Bi, together with Bi Daqian, Sisi's grandfather, strictly disciplined Sisi, implemented a high-pressure policy, and paid more attention to Sisi's daily life and education. A sissy doesn't eat green vegetables, but she can fly into a rage and force her daughter to eat them. Do homework, keep a diary, and force it to be completed; Learn from Grandpa Cece's way, and tie the mother and son together with a rope to run, but they can't finish the prescribed standard. For some time, focusing on key points, school districts and striving for the first place has become the goal of Bi's efforts. As a result, there is little communication between husband and wife, and contradictions are increasing, which almost leads to divorce. Under the influence of the high-pressure policy and family environment, Cece not only failed to get the first place in the academic examination, but also suffered from childhood depression, broke off relations with her mother and refused her mother, and the whole family almost collapsed.

We should really respect children and make friends with them. Children are independent individuals. No leaf in the world is exactly the same, and no child is exactly the same. Every child has his own personality. Children in modern society, in particular, have a strong sense of individuality, autonomy and independence. If we follow the traditional way of education and practice high pressure and stick together, it will inevitably distort the growth of children. Respecting children means treating children as real people, not as their own private property and learning machines. In fact, every child nowadays is a "child prodigy", with sound mind and rich soul, but without adult experience and knowledge.

To respect children, we should pay attention to protecting and developing their nature, instead of killing their nature according to the wishes of adults for no reason. We should be good at discovering children's personality characteristics and hobbies, and actively adapt, guide and develop. Cultivate children according to their appearance. It's not that I don't want to be the first, but that I can't deliberately pursue the first. It is a good wish to expect children to succeed and daughters to succeed, but we can't suppress and crack down on children's own growth laws, and we can't encourage them. If the child is a dragon or a worm, there is nothing we can do. We should accept all the realities of children's growth and don't always use fantasy to educate and train children. Every parent should be rational, have a normal mind, and really understand what is the happiness of children.