Oliver james, an English writer, has an influential book called Not Born This Way: How Home Affects Our Life. This book tells us that parenting style is the real reason that makes us similar to our parents or grandparents. What kind of person you will eventually become depends largely on your upbringing.
This view can be said to subvert many people's cognition, and we understand that it is very important for our own development and raising children. If we still think that some defects in our personality are inherited from our parents, then we can't change the status quo.
When we know that we are not born perfect, it will prompt us to change ourselves positively. Moreover, when we know the truth of the matter, we can avoid the harm of the wrong way of raising children and get rid of the negative factors of being born in a family.
Parents will directly or indirectly educate their children what is the "correct" way of words and deeds. For example, some parents will encourage their children to work hard. When their children face the exam, they will tell him: "Take the exam well and try to be the first!" " "Children are generally more motivated. Parents who think school is useless will unconsciously convey the view that school is useless to their children.
Children have been seriously imitating their parents' behavior since they were very young. Anyone who has raised a child will be surprised by his genius's imitation ability. As children grow up, they will still imitate their parents' words and deeds, and sometimes children will even completely copy some of their parents' behaviors.