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The confusion of parents' education of children ■ The confusion of parents' education of children and personality cultivation
★ Confused cases of parents educating their children:
Ms. Zhou's daughter is two and a half years old. She must wear her favorite clothes every morning. Kindergarten requires wearing garden clothes, but she just doesn't want to wear them. Every time her family came to persuade her, she barely put on her garden clothes and went to kindergarten. Parents are very confused about this. How to face a child's dress code?
★ Confusion of parents in educating their children, expert analysis:
Children's aesthetic development is a very important part of their cognitive world. Children have shown a preference for a certain color and style when they can hardly speak. Adults should first admit their children's aesthetic freedom and be happy with their sense of self-reliance in making independent decisions. At this stage, the child's imagination is extremely developed. They feel like princesses when they wear princess dresses, and superman when they wear superman clothes, regardless of objective reasons such as occasions or weather.
★ Parents educate their children's confusion and give parents three suggestions:
Parents' confused suggestions on educating their children 1. Respect children's opinions on color and style when buying clothes, provided that the price and occasion are suitable for the family. You don't have to impose your own aesthetics on your children. Sometimes children want to wear skirts in cold weather, so it is no problem to put a skirt over their pants.
Confused suggestions on parents' education of children II. Put away the old clothes at home, such as dad's shirt, hat, mom's long skirt, scarf, etc. Put it in a make-up basket for children to imitate and dress up at any time. This can not only meet the characteristics of children's love of imitation, but also gradually let children know that different occasions need to wear different clothes.
Puzzled advice for parents to educate their children 3. When the child's request is too high and unreasonable, resolutely refuse. When reasoning doesn't work, we can ignore it, but we will have a remedial discussion on this issue in the future. Don't take the method of beating and cursing.
As for kindergarten uniforms, this is not appropriate. Because children in this period have just begun to sprout self-awareness, they often don't know who they are. It will take them a long time to recognize the appearance characteristics of dozens of children around them. If there is no personalized clothing, it will increase the difficulty of children's group life.
■ Parents' confusion and desire for education
★ Confused cases of parents educating their children:
Ms. Zheng has a headache for her children's endless demands. Every time I take my child to the street or go to a public place, the child keeps buying this and that. This kind of problem has appeared once or twice. Recalling her childhood, she said: I only had one child? Doll? But I cherish everything. Now my son has a bunch of toy train models, racing models and motorboat models, but none of them seem to satisfy him. He likes all car models. He wants to buy cars of the same style in different colors and sizes. When he meets other children, he will keep clamoring for toys, but he will throw them away a few days after buying them.
In fact, Ms. Zheng is not the only one who is confused about parents educating their children. Faced with such waste and endless desire, mothers don't know what to do. Although I can afford to buy him all kinds of things, will I get used to being a child in the long run? You must get what you want. Question? Will there be any bad consequences when he grows up and enters the society?
★ Confusion of parents in educating their children, expert analysis:
This kind of education will certainly cause many bad consequences. But in the final analysis, the problem still lies with parents, because children can express their wishes without reproach, and the right to satisfy their wishes lies with parents. Perhaps many parents think that this is money education, but it is actually a kind of desire education with profound and extensive connotation. Children of different ages will have different desires, and early childhood is actually to lay the basic attitude of children towards desires. This is a very important stage of desire recognition, which determines whether children can correctly face various temptations in the future, including emotions, materials and many negative addictive things, such as cigarettes, alcohol, drugs and so on.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with desire itself, but satisfying desire is limited by time, place and quantity. And this is the difficulty of educating young children. If parents spoil or indulge their children and all their desires are satisfied, they will give him an illusion that he can get what he wants, which will hinder the growth of children. When a child finds out that this is not the case, the inner pain is far stronger than when he was a child.
★ Confused suggestions for parents to educate their children:
Confused suggestions for parents to educate their children 1. When children only pay attention to their own desires, they will reveal the desires of other family members. After several desires are put together, they will discuss the priorities of various desires with their children and finally seek solutions.
Confused suggestions on parents' education of children II. You have to make a statement before you go out on the street. For example, what not to buy, so that children have a certain psychological preparation. The advantage of this is that children will try to abide by the agreement, and once they break their promises, they will not pursue their parents. If the child's desire changes in the middle, flexible solutions should be provided, such as giving up the original desire or reducing a beloved activity. In short, it is better to be flexible without losing principle.
Puzzled advice for parents to educate their children 3. It is best to buy things for children for a reasonable reason, such as celebrating a birthday, rewarding a good behavior and so on. Many adults like to do whatever they want, which often makes their children scratch their heads.
Confusion suggestions for parents to educate their children Fourth, children are emotionally blocked because their desires are not satisfied, and sometimes there will be fierce words or behaviors. Parents try to stay calm, let their children vent, and don't be angered by their children's angry words and fight. Talk until the child calms down.
■ Parents educate their children about confusion and frustration.
★ Confused cases of parents educating their children:
Ms. Han is 36 years old and used to work in a foreign company. Her husband has his own advertising company. Have you been doing it at home since you had children? A stay-at-home wife? My son is 6 years old this year. They live in a 280-square-meter townhouse on the edge of Xishan Mountain. Their son, who grew up in a carefree environment, is going to primary school this year. However, the mother gradually discovered that her son could not face failure. For example, if he falls behind in the game with other children, or loses two games of checkers with his mother, he will cry and even make radical moves. Mother is very worried about this. Her children will face a lot of competition and failure when they go to primary school or enter the society in the future. What should we do?
★ Experts analyze the confusion of parents in educating their children;
Most children can accept certain failures and setbacks if they are physically and psychologically normal. Some children's endurance is worse than their peers or childish, which should not be considered as a problem, because the growth rate is always fast and slow, and the earlier the difference, the greater the difference.
★ Parents' confusion in educating their children. Regarding setbacks, I want to give parents some suggestions:
First, don't show excessive sympathy or sadness in front of children, otherwise children will infinitely exaggerate their behavior.
Second, describe his pain instead of punishing his behavior with violence, so that children feel that others feel the same way.
Third, seek truth from facts and praise objectively (judging people and things happening around children from the perspective of society rather than family). This will help to cultivate children's true self-confidence rather than false self-confidence.
Fourth, don't force your child to change the behavior he doesn't approve of immediately, such as don't cry, don't lose his temper and so on.
Parents' methods of educating their children correctly 1, combining soft and hard.
Some parents pursue appreciation education and give their children as much encouragement as possible. It is not advisable for their children to listen to the truth. Truth can be divided into big truth and small truth. No matter what kind of truth, the effect is not ideal. So in ancient China,
China people are good at disciplining children by family rules, and Chinese abroad also have some family rules to punish children. In the oriental mind, parents and children can't be equal friends, but there is still some majestic atmosphere between parents and children, and the combination of soft and hard is the most feasible. Otherwise, you will enter the strange circle of godchildren.
Xiaogang's mother is like this, combining hard and soft, reasoning with her children and being methodical. For the child's violation of discipline, he will be punished, and the child will also be punished.
2. the combination of Chinese and western.
The education of children in modern society needs the combination of Chinese and western education thoughts, that is, the combination of eastern education thoughts and western education thoughts, learning from each other's strengths and giving full play to their respective advantages. Oriental education is just rote learning, and its creativity is not strong; However, there are not many rules in western education, which completely emphasize freedom, innovation and doing experiments. In the educational environment of China, getting good grades is the first priority, which is a reality that any parent needs to face. After all, parents should consider their children entering a good university. But parents should properly cultivate their children's abilities, otherwise it will be difficult to adapt to the future society.
Children's test scores should be among the best in the class. Children go to English cram schools on Saturday and send them to popular science schools on Sunday to learn robot making and application. Children are more creative than other children.
3. Combination of gains and losses
Teach children that success and failure are possible, and consider the gains and losses. Don't just look at success, and don't just care about how much they get. Combine the gains and losses, and they will have a normal heart and treat all this with a normal heart.
Parents must know 45 famous family education sayings 00 1 Good personality is better than excellent intelligence.
The baby's mood is a reflection of knowing the world.
Talent, like natural flowers and trees, should be pruned.
For children, life is a school, and every grass and tree can be the object of research and exploration. Children's learning is comprehensive, not limited to reading, writing, arithmetic and various skills. Too hasty and slow education will destroy children's normal psychological development.
In any industry, the first step to success is to be interested in it, especially in children's learning.
008 education must begin with the psychological exploration of children's interests and habits.
Parents are educating themselves as well as their children.
0 10 parents are natural teachers, which have the greatest influence on children, especially young children.
0 1 1 Stimulating children's desire for knowledge and learning is far more meaningful than teaching limited knowledge.
0 12 parents should gradually cultivate their children's habit of thinking and solving problems independently, so as to build their self-confidence.
0 13 The main skill of teaching children is to turn what children should do into games.
0 14 A person's success = 1% IQ +99% EQ.
0 15 maternal love is the most sacred feeling in the world, and it should be because it is the least profitable.
There are infinite possibilities between 0 16 children, which need parents to explore and guide.
0 17 As long as teachers and parents are in harmony, the resultant force of education can be formed.
0 18 parents can't accompany their children all their lives, so they must cultivate their children's social consciousness and independent consciousness from an early age.
0 19 before reaching the age of reason, children can't accept ideas, but only images.
The process of parents educating their children is also a process of self-awareness and learning.
02 1 the art of education lies not in imparting skills, but in struggle, awakening and encouragement.
Old historical photos can't tell the secrets of Cixi warlords in the late Ming and early Qing Dynasties and the late Qing Dynasty.
The way to give full play to a person's ability is to praise and encourage him.
Parents are the earliest enlightenment teachers of all the words and deeds of children in life.
Children's rationality is constantly growing. Don't feed them, guide them.
As long as parents make good use of it, every detail in life can be used to educate their children.
Learning in life is the most effective learning method for children.
Personality cultivation begins in infancy.
If you really love your child, you should give it to him? Sail through the storm?
The distinction between imagination and display makes it easy for children to integrate into the story and get education from it.
Guiding children to tell stories in time is a wonderful way to keep their minds active.
03 1 Combining fairy tales to guide children to think and explore is more profound than simple reasoning.
Simple and concise fairy tales often contain rich knowledge and profound truth.
Rich imagination is more important than book knowledge.
In children's world, everything is the same as people, with thoughts and feelings.
Exercise is expensive, but diet is expensive.
Children make their own small toys. Although rough, they are far happier than ready-made exquisite toys.
Without consideration and trust, there is no friendship.
All education begins with our understanding of children's nature.
Parents are the first school for children to know the world and acquire knowledge.
Besides being patient, we should also pay attention to methods and skills in educating children.
04 1 children's humor is the most natural and frank human language, which needs parents' heart to discover and experience.
Parenting has its joys and sorrows.
No friend can match health, and no enemy can match disease.
Only symptomatic medicine can cure this disease.
The task of family education is, first of all, the education and study of parents.