1, teach children to deal with conflicts with peers. Teach children to repay evil with good. Reverse the child's thought that "people don't attack me, I don't attack, but attack me and I attack". For example, a child borrowed a watercolor pen from his deskmate without a watercolor pen in his drawing class. The deskmate is stingy and refuses to borrow it. Next time, my deskmate forgot to bring a red scarf. There are two children in our family, but they refuse to lend them to my deskmate. As a result, my deskmate was criticized by the teacher. For another example, when two children had a conflict, our children suffered a little loss and hated each other from then on. When the other party is in trouble and needs help, our children will not help anyway. These are all wrong! Tell your child that if others are not good to you, you will be bad to others. How are you different from others? You are a person who wants to do great things. You are different from others. Use your actions to touch others! Use your kindness to influence others. People around you will respect you and imitate you because of your generosity, and you are gradually changing the world.

2. Let children learn to empathize. In life, few people can feel the same. Empathy can make you keep your mouth shut and become a perfect person. I am a person with a strong sense of inferiority. People say I'm not at all. I've been miserable for several days. I was all thumbs in junior high school. When people say something about me, I can't always say it right. I thought to myself, next time someone says that about me, how can I refute him? After a long time, my classmates said I choked. I reflected again and learned to put myself in the other's shoes. Before you speak, think about how I feel when people say that about me. It hurts my self-esteem to realize that others are talking about me. As the saying goes, "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." If you don't like what others do to you, don't do it to others. Tell your children to think before speaking. If someone tells you what you want to say, will it hurt your self-esteem? If there is, don't say it. Just like my deskmate didn't lend you a watercolor pen, will he be more grateful if you lend it to him next time he doesn't bring a red scarf? If it were you, would you feel guilty for not borrowing a watercolor pen last time? This is the beauty of empathy.

3. Be a tolerant mother. It is inevitable that children will bump into each other when playing together. In Germany, children in primary schools just play together at school. Teachers seldom interfere with children. The teacher believes that the conflict between children is the performance of communication. Only by constant collision can children learn to keep their distance from each other. Don't scold a child just because he is bullied outside. "Why are you so useless?" ! He hit you, won't you hit him? "or" who hit you? Let's go get even with him. Dare to hit my son and see what I do with him! "Your attitude represents a petty attitude. If you don't know tolerance, how can you educate your children to be tolerant? Children have normal conflicts outside and do not need parental intervention. Tell your child, "If you don't fight, you can't talk about it. It's normal for your friends to be good and bad for a while. There is no need to take it to heart. If you really feel wronged, please invite him to play at home, and we will have a good talk with him to see why he doesn't like you. "