Be good at using delayed gratification! Only by training children with "appropriate delayed gratification" and "appropriate dissatisfaction" can children resist temptation and overcome difficulties in the future.

Delay satisfaction and let children learn to wait.

In Emile, the French educator Rousseau said to his parents, "Do you know how to make your children suffer? This method is: obedient. "

In the doting of parents, children's desires will increase endlessly, and children's bad behaviors will break out at any time, which will make parents unprepared. So let children learn to "wait" and be satisfied in expectation, so that children will cherish this hard-won happiness more.

When a child wants to learn a musical instrument, even if the parents agree in their hearts, don't agree in a hurry, let alone refuse it bluntly. Instead, we should find ways to let children know about musical instruments first and determine whether they really like them. First, take children to experience musical instruments, watch others play more, and stimulate children's curiosity. Then, plan with children how to buy musical instruments and how to make a study plan. Let children learn to wait, strengthen their faith, understand their parents and be responsible for their choices.

Delay satisfaction and let children learn to share.

As children grow up and become part of the class group, they also have to face friends of various personalities. If a child is as headstrong, selfish, self-centered and unwilling to share with others as at home, then he will definitely look out of place. Being far away from peers and being criticized by teachers will eventually lead to psychological problems such as inferiority or rebellion.

Therefore, in daily education, parents should delay their children's satisfaction, infiltrate and share education, and let children gradually develop a peaceful attitude towards the surrounding things. For example, dinner has been served, the father has not come back, and the child is clamoring for it. Parents should not be satisfied immediately. We can say to our children, "Dad is hungry, too! Still trying. How happy we will be when dad comes back and the family eats together! "

In the process of waiting, children endure hunger and expect their father's return, which is not only a test of their patience, but also an opportunity to teach them to share and care for others. Parents should be caring people, seize the opportunity of education, patiently let their children learn to share, know that what they like is what others like, and feel the happiness brought by sharing; Learn to be considerate of others, so as to win the love and respect of peers.

Delay satisfaction and let children learn to resist frustration.

Many children are brought up under the agency of their parents, and when dealing with small setbacks in life, they don't even have the basic ability to resist pressure. When you encounter a problem, you are not thinking about how to solve it, but pinning your hopes for solving it on your parents. Always at a loss in the face of new problems and new environment.

Therefore, parents should create frustration scenes, learn to let go, consciously exercise their children's ability to resist setbacks and give them a chance to overcome difficulties. For example, if children encounter misunderstandings in social practice, their hard work will be in vain. Parents can say to their children, "Crying and giving up can't solve the problem. While doing your own task well, you should strive to show your greater value. " Of course, when children encounter setbacks, parents' encouragement and praise are also very important, because the process of children adjusting their psychological state is very painful and helpless.

Delaying satisfaction and cultivating children's good character is not an overnight thing. Parents should delay their satisfaction to an appropriate degree and let their children see hope in the resistance, so that children can have the confidence to persist in the final success.