If we don't put the scientific family education theory into practice as soon as possible

Guide, the consequences are serious.

Second, high expectations are biased in the process of family education.

(A) high expectations and improper family education content

Expectations are high,

Mainly refers to some parents can't from the child's talent,

Learning base

Based on the foundation, age characteristics, specialties and other actual conditions, in order to realize their ambitions.

Desire,

It is unrealistic or difficult to ask children only by subjective wishes.

Current requirements.

There is no good or bad learning foundation for children.

As long as the requirements are met.

How many points,

Failure to reach it will be punished;

Children don't have one aspect.

Talent or specialty, but forcing children to work towards a certain goal, such as learning to draw and learn the piano.

Otherwise, you will be treated abnormally.

Wait a minute.

These are high expectations and education.

The content is not

During the performance.

Some parents can't tolerate any mistakes made by their children.

Wrong, once you make a mistake or don't like your parents' wishes, you will play the family law and go to hell to pay for it.

Wait, it's also a sign of high expectations. Children are children after all. Children sometimes make mistakes.

Mistakes, even serious ones, are inevitable. As parents, if there is no room for children,

If a child makes a mistake and asks him to be a "saint", he is not worthy to be a parent and family member.

Court education will definitely go wrong. High expectations, divorced from the reality of children, often happen.

It backfired. It's easy to turn good things into bad things. What is expected is the survival of family education.

Existential idealism is harmful to family education.

If expectations for children are high,

And the educational content is inappropriate,

The harm will be greater.

It's huge. For example, some parents do not pay attention to stimulating and guiding their children's interest in learning and do not help them.

Zi Lizhi,

Inspire children's enthusiasm and spirit of struggle,

And it is mandatory that children must

What you have to learn, or what indicators you have to achieve, or what schools you have to take, otherwise it will be affected.

Punishment. These unrealistic demands are like "square bags" hanging over children's heads.

Sword "

It often causes great psychological pressure on children.

Even have children.

Have a strong rebellious attitude.

At this rate,

It will make children feel that they are not learning well.

It's a bad thing, not a goal, but a mental stress. Over time, it will make children

Mental breakdown, completely lost the fun of learning, and embarked on the road of "broken cans and broken falls."

Or there are other problems.

(B) High expectations and improper family education methods

In contemporary China,

A considerable number of parents have high expectations for their children.

Desired value,

However, in family education, we pay little or no attention to educational methods.

Only by love

The child hurt her daughter's sincerity in raising the child. Spoil, spoil and "hate iron and not produce"

Do not produce steel. "

Severe punishment after losing his mind is often the two extremes of his education mode. exist

Usually it can't be strict, and there is no positive guidance. We just indulge and spoil.

What he did, once he found the problem, he hated it and gnashed his teeth, thinking that it could not be solved without severe punishment.

The hatred in the heart can't reach the psychological balance, so it loses its reason and leads to tragedy. this

This way of education is not to love children, but to harm them. Some parents are holding their children.

Have high expectations and love children very much.

Usually make every effort to meet the material needs of children.

And other requirements, give whatever you want. As a result, the child was spoiled and stopped listening to criticism.

Opinions, eating is not bitter, only pursuing eating, wearing and playing, unwilling to learn and not enterprising; have

Some parents don't let their children do some housework, even when they are teenagers, they don't even let their children's clothes.

Don't let it wash itself,

Let the children dress for a long time and reach out.

Live by pampering and pampering.

When I grow up, I am full of femininity, not only my actual working ability is low, but also my life.

Management ability is also lacking or lacking.

High expectations, divorced from the reality of children and the normal growth law of teenagers;

Improper educational methods,

It will also lead children astray or push them to a dead end.

Combine the two into one.

I'm sorry, it's just worse for the growth of children. This kind of education

This method is extremely unfavorable to the healthy growth of children.

Smart parents,

Know the art of educating children

Parents' expectations of their children should be appropriate or more in line with objective reality.

International,

Should be based on children and adolescents,

The growth law and actual situation of young people are constantly children.

Point out the development goals,

And put forward reasonable requirements.

We should pay more attention to the educational methods for children.

Art, methods and effects should be strictly required, patiently persuaded, and children should be allowed.

Children make mistakes,

Children should be allowed to correct their mistakes,

Sometimes we have to make mistakes for our children and correct them.

The timing, conditions and time are wrong; Teach children to be patient, not just emotional.

Don't lose your mind, give priority to encouraging children, supplemented by criticism and punishment;

When encouraging, we should not only see the children's strengths and progress, but also point out the goals.

Stimulate children's enthusiasm, mobilize children's internal factors, and let children forge ahead and work hard by themselves.

Instead of being a nanny, take care of everything; When criticizing and punishing, we should also pay attention to ways and means.

Respect for children's independent personality, it is best to use the method of heart-to-heart, explain right and wrong, and give it to children.

Children have the right to speak and are allowed to defend themselves. You can also suggest that children learn from it.

He improved his ability to distinguish right from wrong by setting a bad example.

Never use your fist irrationally.

Add up the ways to punish children.

Educating children should focus on attacking the heart,

Therefore, we must master the children.

Children's psychological state and trend.

Educate children,

We should respect children's individuality and independence,

As a child's bosom friend,

We should also safeguard the dignity of our parents,

Otherwise, children cannot be educated well.

Son.