What are the skills of effective communication between class teachers and students?
Class teacher's work case:
There is a girl named Zhou Xiao in a class in Grade Three. At the critical moment when the third grade was about to graduate, she suddenly didn't come to class for several days. The teacher contacted the parents in many ways, but he couldn't get in touch all the time. He didn't know anything about asking his classmates. A week later, the ship returned to class. The careful class teacher observed the words and deeds and found that the boat looked very tired, trance-like, preoccupied, and his dull eyes were slightly sad. Zhou Xiao is usually introverted and withdrawn. Something must have happened.
After class, the class teacher invited the boat to the office. "Boat, why didn't you come to class these days? Are you sick? " The boat shook its head. "Is there anything I can tell the teacher?" The ship was silent. "Boat, the teacher knows that you are a sensible and emotional child and won't come to class for no reason. Look at you like this What happened at home? If you trust the teacher, you might as well tell me and let the teacher consider it with you. " "Teacher ..." Boat's eyes are a little red, awkward. "Boat, you don't tell the teacher, how can I help you? A few days ago, your mother came to school, and we also agreed that she would never leave you alone at home again. She should take good care of you and create a good learning environment for you ... "Before the head teacher finished, the boat's eyes filled with tears. "Teacher, my mother hanged herself. My father and I did this to her. " The boat landed on the table and began to cry. The head teacher was startled. She remembered her last conversation with her mother and realized something.
"Boat, you are a strong child, and your performance at school today proves it. Your mother can't relax at the moment. I don't blame you. The teacher knows best. " The class teacher enlightened and comforted the boat, which temporarily stabilized the boat's mood.
Zhou Xiao turned out to be a very happy child, and her parents doted on her. I got good grades and performances in all aspects when I was a freshman in senior high school, and I was admitted to a league school. But after entering the second grade, the situation has changed obviously. The ship is often late, the homework is not finished well, and the performance is declining. Although the teacher has educated many times, it has achieved little. The reason is that parents have a bad relationship and often quarrel and fight. On the third day, my parents went to other places to do business, left the boat at home, invited an old woman to take care of it, and obeyed the boat financially. Since then, the performance of the boat has gone from bad to worse, and even the phenomenon of skipping classes has appeared. They also made irresponsible friends in society and sometimes stayed out at night. The head teacher tried to contact the parents, but after a semester passed, the situation remained unchanged.
During the Spring Festival, the head teacher learned that Zhou Xiao's parents had gone home, so he went to visit them. Fortunately, after the work of the class teacher, Zhou Xiao's mother promised to stay at home and take care of Zhou Xiao. The situation on the ship improved, and he never skipped class again. However, boats that are used to letting themselves drift often cannot accept the simple and rude discipline of their mothers. One day, mother wouldn't let the boat go out, and mother and daughter opposed it. The ship actually called 1 10 for help. Mother was sad and angry, so she had to mediate through the class teacher, and the relationship between mother and daughter was eased. In the conversation with Zhou Xiao's mother, the class teacher felt that she was somewhat disheartened.
When I was a child, Zhou Xiao felt a sense of remorse and guilt about her mother's suicide, thinking that she was disobedient and hurt her mother's heart. This kind of psychological pressure will bring Zhou Xiao a heavy mental burden, which will not only affect her study, but also be detrimental to her healthy growth. How to free the boat from the shadow of mother's suicide?
The head teacher gave Zhou Xiao psychological counseling and education, and talked with her many times to make her understand that her mother's suicide was mainly due to menopausal syndrome, and she was depressed and could not bear any emotional and spiritual blow (it was only later that Zhou Xiao's father had an affair). And tell her that a person will encounter many setbacks, she should be able to face it bravely, learn to adjust her emotions and live an optimistic life. The head teacher also contacted Zhou Xiao's father, hoping to let Zhou Xiao get his father's care. After this incident, Zhou Xiao's father came to his senses and returned to his daughter. All teachers and class committees have reached a consensus that they should care about Zhou Xiao, help Zhou Xiao, encourage her to concentrate on her studies and distract him.
Zhou Xiao's gloomy mood gradually spread, his grades improved and people became more sensible. Finally, he successfully completed his studies and went to a higher school.
Comments:
This is an example of a student's psychological disorder caused by family factors. Due to the unscientific way of parents' education and insufficient sense of responsibility, the child's psychological rebellion and behavioral deviation have changed from a good student who is obedient and lively to a problem student who is arrogant, tired of learning and withdrawn. When the mother committed suicide, the boat with very fragile feelings was in a bad mood of extreme sadness, loss and anxiety, and was in deep remorse. If we don't help her to adjust from this emotion and get out of this shadow in time, it will not only be detrimental to her healthy physical and mental growth, but also push her to the same ending as her mother, with disastrous consequences. At this time, the boat needs care and understanding, needs correct guidance and help, turns the guilt of her mother into the power to correct her mistakes, and makes herself stronger, more mature and more sensible.
Personally, I think that as a qualified class teacher, I should do the following:
1, pay attention to emotional communication, and don't keep people away.
2. Listen patiently and don't interrupt at will.
3, learn to accept, don't blindly criticize.
4. Support and encouragement, not sympathy and comfort.
5, pay attention to guidance, don't command discipline.
What are the skills of effective communication between class teachers and students?
The students' work is complicated and trivial, and the class teacher is bitter and tired. However, the success of class management is not the hard work of the class teacher, nor is it the hands-on and strict supervision of the class teacher. Students will certainly become adults. Therefore, effective communication between teachers and students is not only the key to class management, but also an effective way to educate people.
First of all, communication must start with Xiu De.
The particularity of education not only requires teachers to be knowledgeable, but also requires teachers to be moral and lead by example. The so-called oral communication means that the class teacher should convince and educate people with correct theories and viewpoints; The so-called lead by example means that the class teacher should set an example with his own actions. In students' eyes, teachers are not only the restraints of discipline and moral norms, but also the representatives of parents and the models of human beings. They worship teachers with high moral character and regard them as' role models' to imitate their attitudes, tastes, and even their voices, smiles and behaviors. In a subtle way, some students form their own moral character from the teacher's conduct, improve their own quality from the teacher's prestige, and develop their own personality potential from the teacher's words and deeds. Therefore, the head teacher should pay attention to moral cultivation, improve his image, be strict with himself, be consistent in words and deeds, and be consistent in appearance. Only when he speaks persuasively and admires students can he influence and infect them and communicate with them psychologically.
Second, fully pour love.
This is the first condition to communicate with students. Only when you have every student in your heart can you truly understand students, and you can also love what students love, think what students think, worry about their worries, and regard their worries as your own. Only when students feel the ardent love of the teacher will they regard the teacher as the most trustworthy person, open their hearts to the teacher without reservation and tell you his deepest secrets. Teachers educate people with love, with emotion and with persuasion. Students will naturally accept your care and care, the relationship between teachers and students will be harmonious, and the psychological distance will be shortened.
For example, when a student who made a mistake is called to the office, he is not reprimanded in front of other teachers, but told to sit down and help him analyze the causes and consequences of the mistake heart-to-heart, then his confrontational psychology will be eliminated, his anxiety will be relaxed, and it will be easy to accept the guidance of the teacher. Only when the class teacher is emotional will the students be tempted. On the other hand, if the teacher scolds him to pieces, then he will be heartbroken and broken. Therefore, education must first communicate, and communication needs to start from the "heart". Teachers are full of love, honest with each other, and let students open their hearts.
Third, fully develop democracy.
The new curriculum standard requires that teachers and students in school education are no longer teachers and students, and should advocate the establishment of a new type of teacher-student relationship of equal cooperation and dialogue and understanding, and teachers and students should be on the same starting line.
First of all, teachers should put down their "shelves", take the initiative to contact students, live, study and work with them, chat happily and play games together, and discuss life and personal ideals together, so that students can feel your real existence, understand them and be lovely and reliable "friends".
Secondly, the activities carried out by the class should get rid of the traditional bad habit of "absolute authority of teachers" and fully carry forward the democratic style. For example, the selection of class Committee cadres, the determination of "three good students" and "excellent cadres" at all levels, and major class activities should allow students to give full play to their initiative, actively make suggestions, participate in evaluation, and state themselves and various reasons, rather than the result of "the teacher has the final say." This not only cultivates students' sense of ownership and participation, but also further harmonizes the communication between teachers and students.
Fourth, respect is a bridge of communication.
Respect is a kind of character and a full affirmation of the personality and value of others; Can resolve the bad emotions in others' hearts; Can inspire others to make progress. Education is also a kind of respect, respect and trust for students, and it is also a requirement for teachers' basic morality. Respect successful students and express congratulations, praise and encouragement for their success; Show respect for failed students, and comfort, encouragement and encouragement to failed students. Self-esteem is the most sensitive corner of a student's mind. As educators, we must respect and protect students' self-esteem and let them develop their potential in healthy development. If the teacher is a seeder, respect is a seeder, sowing confidence and hope, kindness and generosity in the hearts of students.
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How to communicate effectively with students
The head teacher is the organizer, implementer and coordinator of school education, the leader of class construction and the helper of students' healthy physical and mental growth. In order to play these roles well, the class teacher needs to communicate effectively with the students. How to communicate effectively with students, we might as well do the following three things.
Communication should be based on inclusive guidance.
When the class teacher communicates with students, if the negative emotions are serious and the students are criticized blindly, then serious teaching will only turn a deaf ear to the students. If you want to let your words go deep into students' hearts, the class teacher should first accept students, care for them, tolerate them, and give them a sense of closeness and trust, so that communication can get the desired effect.
Tolerance is to respect and trust students from the heart, but it does not mean to recognize what students do. The head teacher should treat students as equal people and admit the rationality of students' thoughts and emotions. Tolerance does not mean that the head teacher can't have his own opinions, but that the head teacher is willing to listen to the students' opinions and adopt a proactive communication attitude.
When communicating with students, the class teacher basically uses persuasion or preaching, always aiming at helping students solve current problems. Therefore, the class teacher often tells the students directly what the current problem is and how to do it. Whether the students can accept it is indisputable. In the long run, it is difficult to improve students' initiative and enthusiasm.
Therefore, the head teacher should also learn to guide students to actively understand the current problems, think about the setbacks and obstacles in their growth, actively analyze themselves, and help students manage themselves and grow themselves, instead of doing everything for them.
When communicating with students, the class teacher should ask more questions and comment less; Do more inspiration and less preaching; Encourage each other to talk more and talk less about personal opinions, so that we can discuss together instead of preaching. Remember, the ultimate goal of education is to cultivate students' sense of self-management and sense of responsibility, and turn "I want to learn" into "I want to learn".
Communication should be based on emotion.
People in a harmonious group will be healthier and more active. Zhang Hao was later transferred to our class. He has a strong sense of self and doesn't know how to get along with others. His classmates are alienated from him, and he knows it well, but he doesn't know how to solve it. In view of this situation, I talked with Zhang Hao alone, communicated with the whole class, and asked them to accept every child in the class. Knowing respect is the foundation of getting along, and wanting to be noticed is everyone's emotional need. My words were recognized by all my classmates, and everyone no longer rejected him and approached him actively. With students' understanding, tolerance and concern, Zhang Hao's moral concept, lifestyle and behavior have undergone great changes.
Communication should be based on appreciation.
Treating students with appreciation can produce positive results. The head teacher should hold lanterns to discover the advantages of students, observe the bright spots of students with a microscope, create opportunities for students to show themselves as much as possible, and enthusiastically praise each student's tiny progress.
Everyone needs praise. Good and timely praise is the source of motivation for people's progress. If students live in an atmosphere of mutual trust and mutual praise for a long time, they can develop a positive and healthy psychology and study life with a positive attitude.
The starting point and destination of the class teacher's work is the students. The head teacher should take every opportunity to communicate with students and be a "caring person" and "caring person" everywhere. Only by communicating with students more, can a class teacher understand the students' reality, grasp their ideological pulse and do a good job in their ideological work.