What will you do if the baby doesn't listen? Stop? An ultimatum? Have you used these tricks many times? The results are also easy to guess, and most of them end in failure. So what should we do? First of all, we should find out the "combustible substances" that lead to the difficult situation between parents and babies, and then find ways to effectively alleviate the stalemate and fierce conflict between parents and babies.
Analysis of characteristics of 2-year-old infants
When the baby is about 2 years old, great changes are taking place in both physiology and psychology, which often makes people feel that the 2-year-old baby is uneducated. So what are the characteristics of a 2-year-old baby?
Rebellion emerges, and you have to do everything yourself.
When the baby is 2 years old, due to the continuous growth of various abilities, he can already walk, run and talk, so he often feels: "When I grow up, I can do everything by myself." I have to do everything myself, but I often don't do it very well, which makes my parents nervous.
For example, the baby may ask to wear clothes or shoes before going out, but he wastes a lot of time because he is not skilled. After wearing it for a long time, he still can't wear it well. At this time, his parents must be anxious and reach out for sponsorship, but the baby stubbornly wants to do it himself. After a long time, his parents may lose patience and nag, and the child will cry because of injustice, and then a parent-child farce will be staged …
When repeating the above plot, the caregiver will naturally feel that the 2-year-old baby is really too difficult to deal with, and when it is not noisy, it looks like a cute little angel; But once personality is initiated, it is like a "little devil", which really makes people afraid to learn.
Attachment psychology &; dissociative anxiety
Parents have just left for a while, and the baby has a runny nose and tears to wipe his face. What's going on here? Do we have to stay together? Parents may often feel that their children are attached to you while resisting, and will cry as soon as they leave you.
At the age of 2, it is the time for the baby to have "attachment", so at this time, the baby will have "separation anxiety" for the closest person (parents or important caregivers). He sticks to his parents or caregivers like a piece of rubber candy, and he doesn't want to leave for a moment, otherwise he will cry endlessly. This kind of "attachment" has broken parents' brains and even going out has become a big problem. At this time, parents often consider whether they should send their baby to a nursery. There are also some babies who have weak language skills at this time and will only express their emotions by crying. Even if parents try their best to reason with him, he will still cry, so he often gives parents the impression that it is difficult to communicate with a 2-year-old baby.
Difficult to get along with others
Even if a 2-year-old baby goes to kindergarten, it is usually a difficult role for teachers. Through inspection, it is easier for us to create a situation in which a 2-year-old baby grabs a classmate's toy and occasionally bites or pushes others. Why? In fact, this has something to do with the baby's psychological changes. The baby has just entered a strange environment from a comfortable home, and it is inevitable that there will be discomfort. He is the only child in the family and will take it for granted that "everything is mine!" " "Seeing what others have and wanting to have it yourself is the characteristic of a 2-year-old baby, which often makes parents and teachers feel very embarrassed.
Three ways to get along with a 2-year-old rascal
The baby's psychology and actions change around 2 years old. With the development of intelligence and language, babies begin to have some ideas of their own, but because they don't have the practical experience and ability to handle things by themselves, they often have some actions that are not easy for others to understand, causing troubles to their parents and increasing conflicts between parents and children.
Knowing these changes and knowing the baby's movements is the basis for parents to get along with their babies. Here are three ways to get along better with your baby.
Method 1: Story teaching
"Reasoning with the child, can he understand?" Many parents may question it, but don't underestimate the child's ability! It usually works well to talk to a child in a language he can understand. You might as well try telling stories to guide children and try to communicate with them actively, which may have unexpected results.
Method 2: Consistent teaching mode
If the children are already in kindergarten, it is necessary for parents to communicate with the school teachers more. Parents can record their children's situation at home, and then bring the records to the school to discuss with teachers, and establish a teaching model that is as consistent as possible between family teaching and school teaching, so as not to make children feel at a loss, and at the same time, it is easier to grasp their psychology and actions and guide them.
Method 3: Keep the principle.
"Give the child what he wants! Save him from crying all the time and let everyone collapse! " Many parents will take negative solutions, such as concessions to meet their children's needs, so as to calm their children down quickly, but this will make them more willful. Therefore, parents should have a correct educational concept: love their children, but don't spoil them, and have principles when they are naughty. When the child is noisy, tell him what he can understand. It is wrong to do that. If the child insists on it again and again, it is a metaphor that he is crying and crying and has to go to McDonald's for dinner. That's weird. He's testing your patience. As long as he succeeds once, he may do the same thing next time. I suggest that you might as well make it clear to your child in advance: what are the itinerary today? Is there a McDonald's? This will not let children get whatever they want.
What should parents do in the face of shy babies?
Many parents complain that 2-year-old children are shy. When they meet strangers, they hide behind their parents and are often afraid of appearing in public. Is there any way to make children generous?
2-year-old children are not particularly afraid of life. Children's fear of being born has a lot to do with their parents' parenting style. 2-year-old children are curious about their surroundings and love to explore the world. However, because they have just learned to speak and walk, they may be more sensitive when they are surrounded by strangers or just enter a strange environment. In addition, they have a certain dependence on their parents, so they will stick to their parents tightly.
The solution is simple. As long as there are familiar people to accompany children and help them get familiar with the environment, trust will soon solve the problem that children are too afraid of life.
In addition, many psychologists worry that their children are ill and don't often take them out, which is also a reason why children are afraid of life.
Establish that parents can take their children to play outdoors at ordinary times and get in touch with children of the same age, so as to cultivate their children to get familiar with the new environment quickly and avoid their fear of life.