But this method treats the symptoms rather than the root cause. With the strengthening of the concept of parenting, parents now begin to talk to their children, and it is more popular to persuade their children when they are crying: Look, you are not doing right ... Stop crying, did I tell you? .....
However, after the child's temper comes up, he will lose his dominant consciousness. You said the church was weak and pale. The rules and reprimands you make for your children will also be ignored.
When a child is emotionally dissatisfied, angry or sad, he may just need a hug, don't preach, understand him from his point of view, support him and encourage him.
In L's "Mom is Superman" program, there is a scene, uh-huh, stepping on the floor barefoot. At this time, there is a sharp toy on the floor. I didn't see it at that time, so I stepped on it and cried.
At this time, Huo Siyan was not in a hurry to check Uh-huh's injury, but asked: What did you step on? ?
However, uh-huh ignored her, so she went over and picked up a sharp toy to show her. At this time, uh-huh, I couldn't bear to watch it and threw it out.
Huo Siyan carefully looked at Uh-huh's foot and had the same comfort: "It hurts too much, it really hurts too much!"
When Uh-huh's mood stabilized a little, Huo Siyan said to the child with caring words: I stepped on something, which hurts. Let's look at that thing, but we can't throw it away angrily. If we put it aside, we may guess. If you step on such a dangerous thing, you must take it to your mother or teacher and throw it in the trash can or where you can't step on it, otherwise you will step on it again.
Then Huo Siyan stepped on the toy and said, It hurts. I can totally feel the pain you just felt.
When Uh-huh's mood returned to normal, he asked three questions: Do you know where I was stabbed? Can you feel my pain just now? ? Do you feel sorry for me?
When the child throws away the toy, the mother doesn't give the child reason for the first time, but lets the child vent as much as possible, and then gives him reason after the child's emotions calm down, which will also make the child understand the truth.
If Huo Siyan reasoned with the child when he was crying, the child wouldn't listen.
Many times, parents always try to be reasonable, hoping that the other party can really understand themselves, let alone a talkative child. 、
Reasoning is also a two-way communication process. If only one party outputs in one direction and the other party has no chance to speak, it will cause a sense of depression to children.
Talking to a child also requires skill, so you should understand him and share his feelings.
Even sometimes you don't have to talk, he knows what he should do.
Therefore, when children are dissatisfied, what they need may be a hug or an understanding. We should support and encourage him more, and tell her the truth when his mood is stable.
Recommend a set of picture books about the emotional rebellious period of a baby who can't control his temper-"My Little Rebellion Period".
This set of picture books is specially tailored for children aged 2-6 to help you get rid of your small temper easily.
The protagonist in the story is in a rebellious mood. They began to have their own ideas and wanted to explore the whole world according to their own meaning.
They are impatient, greedy, curious and grumpy ... at this stage, all the children's behaviors are shown.
Humorous stories, exquisite illustrations and concise language have improved children's interest in reading this book.
By telling stories, children's various discomforts and performances are presented on paper, so that children can see "themselves" from stories and get reflection and growth.
If there is a baby in your family who doesn't like cooperation, loses his temper and says "no, no, no" all day, and you don't know how to deal with it, you can choose this picture book.
Use fairy tales to help children get through the rebellious period better.
A complete set of five books, only in 59 yuan, the average one is less than 12 yuan, which is quite cost-effective. In order to help 2-6-year-old rebellious babies with excessive temper, choose this set of books.