There are laws for parents to take care of their children in the future. People's Republic of China (PRC) Family Education Promotion Law is the first special legislation on family education in China. Family education has risen from "family affairs" to "state affairs", opening the era of "taking care of children according to law". Parents have laws to follow in the future.

Parents can take care of their children according to 1 in the future. "Education is that a tree shakes another tree, a cloud pushes another cloud, and a soul awakens another soul." As a parent, you should know this better. We should pay attention to family education from now on.

From "family affairs" to "state affairs", parents should pick up the first stick in their children's life education.

As the saying goes, "parents are children's first teachers". Family education is the beginning of education, which is related to the growth of each child and family harmony, to the cultivation of socialist builders and successors, and ultimately to national development, national progress and social stability. The promulgation of the Family Education Promotion Law has promoted family education from the original "family affairs" to the current "state affairs" level. Legislation has given family education a higher status and greater development space. Family education is no longer a family matter, but a national event, which is related to the fate and development future of the country.

Since the reform and opening up, parents' educational thinking has been greatly opened, and the western encouraging parenting model has collided with the traditional preaching family education, and various educational methods have gradually become familiar to parents. Although parents' acceptance horizons are constantly expanding, they are increasingly confused about how to correctly choose personalized family education suitable for their children. Parents are like consumers standing in front of exquisite shelves, dazzled by all kinds of goods, but undecided.

In today's society, the educational contradiction has shifted from the traditional teacher-student relationship to the modern home-school relationship. At present, the contradiction between home and school is increasing, which is closely related to the long-term emphasis on school education and the neglect of family education, and the emphasis on teacher-student relationship and the neglect of parent-child relationship. In particular, some extreme incidents of teenagers reported by the media are mostly related to the lack of family education guidance. Grass-roots education managers reflect that family education is gradually forgotten by parents, and the field of overhead family education is bound to have many problems.

The best family education is to set an example.

There is a beautiful idiom in ancient books called "Orchid Garden and Yushu". According to legend, the children of Xie Anjia, a famous Eastern Jin Dynasty star, were all brilliant, and other dignitaries were extremely envious of Xie Jia. They repeatedly praised Xie Anjia's children as charming and charming, just like Yushu in Lan Zhi grew up in the court and passed down from generation to generation, which was endless. On one occasion, Xie An's friend asked him how to train his children into Lanzhi Yushu people. Xie An replied that the best family education is that parents do their best.

The concept that family affairs are state affairs is not original in modern society. This is what the ancients called the educational model of "isomorphism between home and country". By sharing the task of educating the world with each family, the family, the most basic unit of society and the living environment on which people live, has become an organization of moral education. Saint Amethyst's "It is the father's fault that the son doesn't teach" clearly proves that society shares the task of educating the family. The story of "Lan Zhi Yu Shu" reflects the value orientation produced by the educational model of "isomorphism between home and country".

On a winter day in the Republic of China, it was snowing outside. A father and his three daughters sang English songs and danced swan dances. Mother rushed over with an umbrella: "What are you doing outside on a snowy day?" Father smiled and said, "Swan dancing is the best in snowy days." I was one of the first people in China to cross the Antarctic by boat and see penguins. I just want them to keep fit, exercise their strong will and prepare for the future of new China. "The child is so small that he is not even ten years old. Will it freeze in such a cold day? " Father said, "How can you get sick if you freeze to death? Poor people get sick. They should know from an early age that the problem of China must first solve the problem of poverty. My daughters are not ordinary girls, they are new women who want to build a new China in the future. "

The father's name in the story is Song Jiashu. He has three daughters and three sons. These six children are three sisters, Song Ailing, Soong Ching Ling and Song Meiling, and three brothers, Song Ziwen, Song Ziliang and Song Zian. The education of the Song family from childhood finally created "one family in the world, one family in the Song Dynasty".

Love and example, return to the original intention of family education

The "double reduction" policy liberated parents who were dragged away by education. School districts and training classes are not the starting line for children, but family education is the real starting point for life. What is the best family education? Here, I will explain to you the family education composed of love and example.

Let the child relax, not like a frightened deer. The best way is to let the child live in an environment full of love and freedom and listen to his inner guidance. Children who lack care will also become insecure children, and inner anxiety and extreme sensitivity will become the labels of such children. Children who live in love will exude confidence from the inside out. They dare to follow their hearts, pursue everything they like, and feel that they are worth it. Adequate sense of security will not make them feel lacking in their hearts, and it is easier to become a person with temperature.

Whether rich or poor, the most important thing to raise children with a rich heart is to let them feel spiritual satisfaction and the love, acceptance, care and recognition of their parents. Parents' heartfelt love can give children more nourishment. This kind of nourishment will become the courage and confidence of children to pursue life in the days to come.

"In a family, only the father can educate himself, and the child's self-education can be produced there. Without the vanguard and exemplary role of the father, all conversations about children's self-education will become empty talk. " This is Tolstoy's classic talk about family education. A child is like a mirror of his parents. He will imitate and copy their behaviors and habits. Therefore, parents can start with family culture, collect, classify and sort out their ancestors' and their own old objects, old photos, family letters and so on. Design the compilation scheme of family history, and make it into electronic documents conditionally, so that children can understand family history, struggle history and hardship history, and let children bathe in a good family style. At the same time, parents themselves should set a good example, carry forward good moral quality in the family, and subtly shape children's quality. Only by setting an example can parents assume the role of "educators" and grow up together with their children.

We can't forget that family education is the first lesson in life, but it is only a link in life education. Therefore, parents should also provide space and support for their children's social interaction, and try their best to let their children have a preliminary understanding of school education and social education at home. The future is an era of sharing. Learning effective interpersonal communication and having the ability of empathy are the necessary qualities for a person to obtain happiness and wealth. Parents should find a spiritual home outside school for their children, support participation in beneficial community organizations, make good friends, learn to be a man from interpersonal communication, find the value of life, and overcome this deficiency.

Children are the hope of the family and the future of the country. When they entered the society from their small families, the main force to promote the development of the country was also assembled. Family education is the first lesson of every child's life, which is synchronized with school education and social education. Family education still has a long way to go in the new journey of accelerating the modernization of education, building an educational power and running a satisfactory education for the people.

There are laws for parents to take care of their children in the future. 2 "People's Republic of China (PRC) (People's Republic of China (PRC)) Family Education Promotion Law" was officially implemented on June 65438+ 10/day, 2022. This is the first time that China has made special legislation on family education. Family education has risen from "family affairs" to "state affairs", and parents have opened the era of "taking care of children according to law".

202 1, 1, August, 10, the draft was reviewed by the National People's Congress for three times, and the People's Republic of China (PRC) Family Education Promotion Law was formally voted on 10/0 on October 23rd. This law is divided into six chapters and fifty-five articles, which divides and stipulates the responsibilities of guardians of minors and society for family education from the aspects of family responsibility, state support, social coordination and legal responsibility. This is another heavy regulation in the field of education after the education law, compulsory education law and the new version of the law on the protection of minors. In Yuan Ningning's view, the Family Education Promotion Law embodies the two key words of "guidance" and "empowerment".

Yuan Ningning, deputy director of the Youth Affairs Governance and Legal Research Base of China University of Political Science and Law and legislative adviser of the Family Education Promotion Law: The first key word is guidance, telling parents how to be a qualified parent through legal means, and guiding you to educate children according to scientific methods and scientific concepts; The second keyword is empowerment. Admittedly, parents also need a continuous learning process. When encountering difficulties and problems, they can get corresponding help from our public system, learn relevant knowledge, and then improve their abilities.

Family education is the beginning of education, which is related to the healthy growth of minors and the happiness and tranquility of families. However, family education is private and personalized. When "family affairs" rise to "state affairs", how to respect the laws of family education itself? Relevant experts pointed out that from the name of the law to the setting of relevant provisions, the legislative intention is reflected.

Yuan Ningning, deputy director of the Youth Affairs Governance and Legal Research Base of China University of Political Science and Law, and legislative expert consultant of the Family Education Promotion Law: Let's take a look at the name of this law. From the time of first instance, it was called the family education promotion law, and later it was called the family education promotion law. The word "promotion" was added. In fact, its orientation is very clear, that is, our government has the responsibility to promote family education, that is, we should increase the responsibilities and obligations of the government.

Many experts believe that adding the word "promote" is a compliance and respect for the autonomy of family education, indicating that the family is the main body of family education, and the state and society provide support and help for the family.

Bian Yu Fang, director of the Children's Family Education Research Center of Beijing Normal University: For the first time, we hope that the legislation of family education is a law to help parents, which can help our parents become better educators, instead of saying that we will say that parents are not doing well and how to do it. Of course, parents should also take responsibility, that is to say, we help you assume the role of the first responsible person in family education and complete your corresponding tasks.

Experts revealed that in the first draft, it was clear that parents who refused to perform their family education responsibilities were punished with fines and detention, but this article was deleted in the follow-up review process. The measures mentioned in this law, such as criticizing and educating parents, admonishing and stopping them, are not so much punishment as rectification to help parents better carry out family education.

After the formal implementation of the Family Education Promotion Law, what should the relevant departments do if they encounter "unqualified" parents? The Regulations on the Promotion of Family Education and the Instruction Order on Family Education issued in many places provide experience.

In xuyong county, Luzhou, Sichuan, the first family education guidance workstation for minors involved in litigation in China, Liu and Zhang are receiving family education guidance. Because of the divorce dispute, their 13-year-old daughter is tired of school and has been playing truant. Her parents were in a laissez-faire state, and the teacher went to her home many times to persuade her to go back to school. Therefore, the presiding judge issued a "family education instruction order" to the couple and appointed two family education instructors to guide them.

Yao Bing, family education instructor, vice chairman of xuyong county Women's Federation in Luzhou, Sichuan: Today, this case is a case, but there are also some common phenomena. Many couples neglect the education of their children because of their relationship. Through our family instructors, parents and families can be guided, so that they can re-recognize their negligence and shortcomings in their children's education, correct their children's education in time, and let their children feel the warmth of their families again.

Although this family education promotion law is "moderate", it also stipulates that the public security organs find that parents have not implemented family education correctly. 202 1 10 2 1 The Qingjiangpu District People's Court of Huai 'an City, Jiangsu Province accepted such a case. The plaintiffs, Zhou and Zhao, divorced because of their disagreement, and both sides decided to send their newborn daughter to others for support. Introduced by a friend, the defendant, Mrs. Zhu, brought the baby girl back from Zhao. Afterwards, the relationship between the plaintiff and the plaintiff eased, and they regretted adopting their little daughter. They negotiated with the defendant many times to get their children back, but the defendant didn't agree. After the two parties appealed to the court, after mediation, the defendant agreed to send the child back to the plaintiff, and the plaintiff gave some economic compensation.

Wu Ran, President of Juvenile Family Court of Qingjiangpu District People's Court, Huai 'an City, Jiangsu Province: We found that they were not legally registered in the civil affairs department. According to the relevant provisions of the Law on the Protection of Minors in People's Republic of China (PRC), parents are not allowed to illegally adopt their minor children, so we issued the first family education instruction order to the two plaintiffs. We, together with the Women's Federation, have hired professional family education instructors to give them family education guidance, hoping that they can learn from this incident and understand the legal provisions, so as to perform their guardianship duties for minor children in the future.

Yuan Ningning, deputy director of the Youth Affairs Governance and Legal Research Base of China University of Political Science and Law, and legislative expert consultant of the Family Education Promotion Law: When you encounter difficulties, problems or even serious dereliction of duty in family education, our government will intervene. This kind of intervention can be divided into two aspects, one is soft intervention and the other is hard intervention. The so-called soft intervention means that when you encounter difficulties and problems in the process of family education and don't know how to solve them, you can take the initiative to seek help from the public service system of family education provided by our government. When you have serious dereliction of duty in family education, your child has, for example, committed a crime and has serious bad behavior. At this time, the government and our judicial organs should force your parents to receive relevant family education guidance.

Building a family education guidance service system covering urban and rural areas is the highlight of this legislation and the key to implementing the law. The Family Education Promotion Law mentions marriage registration agencies, infant care service agencies, medical and health care institutions, community parent schools and so on. Parents should be provided with family education guidance. The reporter saw in the interview that all localities are sending parents scientific family education concepts, family education knowledge and methods, and opening up the "last mile" of family education guidance services.

Recently, Jiangsu Women's Federation launched the "Three Holidays" community family education support action family education guidance model in the province, which was welcomed by parents. Lu Hongjuan, a citizen of Changzhou, Jiangsu Province, has a daughter who works in a kindergarten middle class. From 202 1, every week, she will take her children to the children's library in the community to participate in the picture book sharing meeting. The picture book brought to you by today's sharing session is If I Don't Go to School. Through the careful explanation and interesting interaction of professional teachers, children listened with relish and parents benefited a lot.

202 1, 1 1, the first counseling workstation for minors involved in litigation in the national court system was established in xuyong county court, Luzhou, Sichuan. At present, the 14 tutor jointly recommended by xuyong county Youth League Committee, Women's Federation and Education and Sports Bureau is on duty with certificates. They are judges, school psychological counselors, professional social workers, and staff of civil affairs, women's federations, discipline inspection commissions and other departments. This "protection net" supported by family, school, society and justice has begun to play a role.

The Law on the Promotion of Family Education clearly stipulates that education administrative departments and women's federations should coordinate social resources, promote the construction of a family education guidance service system covering urban and rural areas, and undertake the daily affairs of family education according to the division of responsibilities; Education, civil affairs, health, market supervision and management and other relevant departments shall, within the scope of their respective duties, guide and supervise family education service institutions and employees according to law; Conditional primary and secondary schools and kindergartens shall, under the guidance of the education administrative department, provide support for the family education guidance service site to carry out public welfare family education guidance service activities. The whole society should jointly build a family education guidance service system covering urban and rural areas.

Another highlight of the Family Education Promotion Law is to emphasize moral education and guide parents to pay more attention to the cultivation of minor children's morality, scientific exploration spirit and innovative consciousness, as well as the cultivation of good study habits, behavior habits and living habits in family education. The expert believes that the fundamental task of education lies in educating people. To cultivate qualified citizens with sound personality, we must give full play to the advantages of family education in children's moral education and personality development.

At Baohua Primary School in tianqiao district, Jinan, a student family education salon is going on to let parents know how to make their children find happiness in participating in housework. Salons like this have now become a brand activity of home-school education in Baohua Primary School. In recent years, Baohua Primary School has developed more than 100 courses aimed at the key points of students' growth, and nearly 40,000 parents have participated in the study.

While parents study, students also become "little gentlemen", rating and evaluating parents' learning effect, urging more parents to participate in it, and truly implementing students' family education.

Every weekend, Cheng Guoping, a Zibo citizen with the title of "smart parents" in Shandong Province, takes her children to her grandparents' home early. It is a compulsory course for two granddaughters to massage their grandparents' backs. Good family education not only helps the two sisters to develop a lively and cheerful personality, but also cultivates their moral quality of respecting the elderly and loving the young.

In July, 20021,the Central Office and the State Council issued the Opinions on Further Reducing Students' Homework Burden and Off-campus Training Burden in Compulsory Education. The Family Education Promotion Law promulgated under the background of "double reduction" naturally shoulders the heavy responsibility of implementing "double reduction". The Law on the Promotion of Family Education stipulates that local people's governments at or above the county level should strengthen supervision and management, reduce the burden of students' homework and off-campus training in compulsory education, and promote the mutual cooperation between school education and family education. Experts believe that strict management of off-campus training institutions and improvement of school teaching quality will help promote the policy of double reduction, but in a sense, parents are the key to truly implement the policy.

Bian Yu Fang, director of the Children's Family Education Research Center of Beijing Normal University: Let him learn Olympic Mathematics when he shouldn't study today, and sign up for so many classes when he shouldn't. I think more parents, the vast majority of parents in society, mean that I am doing this for the better development of my child, but he really doesn't know, so he has to study and receive family education guidance. We should realize that it is a very important task for him to learn the Family Education Promotion Law and grow up with his children.

There are laws for parents to take care of their children in the future. After the "double reduction", the Family Education Promotion Law 1 was officially implemented. How should parents "take care of their children according to law"?

"Double reduction" requires parents to change their educational concepts.

Parents should stop judging heroes only by their achievements, but let their children develop physically and mentally healthily and have a happy childhood; In this process, we should establish a good parent-child relationship, create a harmonious family education atmosphere, and let children grow up happily.

It is very important to fully respect children's psychological needs and learning needs and help children find education that suits them.

The Family Education Promotion Law clearly stipulates that parents or other guardians of minors have the responsibility to carry out family education. The state and society provide guidance, support and services for family education.

It can be seen from this regulation that although parents are the main body of family education, they are more the objects of guidance and service than the objects of management and restraint.

It only uses three flexible disciplinary measures for parents: criticizing and educating, admonishing and stopping, and urging them to accept family education and guidance when necessary. Only those who commit domestic violence, violate public security management and commit crimes will be investigated for responsibility according to the Law on the Protection of Minors and the Law on Domestic Violence.

Good parents don't depend on their educational level, but on their sense of responsibility. Accompanying is the responsibility, nurturing is the responsibility, and setting an example is also the responsibility. To fulfill the responsibilities of parents is to be responsible for the children's lives.

The second chapter of the Family Education Promotion Law puts forward specific requirements for parents, pointing out that parents should establish the sense of responsibility that the family is the first classroom and the parents are the first teachers, and assume the main responsibility of family education for minors.

In terms of methods, parents are recommended to adopt parent-child rearing, joint participation, camera teaching, subtle influence, kindness and kindness, respect for differences, equal communication and mutual promotion.

How to do it specifically? Parents can cultivate their children from the following three aspects:

The first is to cultivate good habits. Habit is not formed overnight, and it has gone through the process from passive to active, from heteronomy to self-discipline. Getting children into the habit of working can help them establish correct values and sense of responsibility.

Enhance independence; Developing the habit of exercise can effectively cultivate children's willpower; Developing hobbies helps to shape and cultivate a sound personality, develop in an all-round way and build self-confidence. Good habits make a good future, and children will gain a sense of accomplishment and happiness more easily, and their internal drive will be more sufficient.

The second is to cultivate reading ability. Books can broaden our horizons and thinking, and bring people rich knowledge, personality edification, spiritual pleasure and independent thinking ability. Therefore, cultivating children's interest in reading can not only enrich their extracurricular life, but also be an important task in family education.

The third is to cultivate planning thinking. Parents should consciously train their children to be masters of time. You can make a study plan with your child, arrange the time for study, entertainment and exercise, and cultivate your child's planning thinking ability. Let children fully understand their goals and plans and encourage them to stick to them.