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Can't children become talents without struggle?
Viewpoint:? No, "don't knock tools" has been a traditional education method in China for thousands of years, but the disadvantages of this simple and rude education model are obvious.

Reason: Children who are often beaten and scolded by their parents are prone to the following problems:

1, inferiority, lack of confidence

Stick education can easily dampen children's enthusiasm and self-confidence. Parents always beat and scold their children because of their faults and shortcomings, which will make them have wrong cognition. No matter what I do, I can't meet my parents' requirements and expectations. No matter how hard I try, it's useless. In this process, children will feel more and more inferior, doubt all their judgments and all their thoughts, and over time, they will feel sorry for themselves. Children who grow up under the education of sticks often show inferiority and self-confidence in their bones.

2, cowardly or violent extreme character

Under the threat of "sticks" for a long time, some children will unconsciously think that you are an authority and dare not question it. Even if what you say is wrong, they will believe that you are the truth because they are afraid of being beaten, thus forming an extremely cowardly character, particularly sensitive to external things and afraid of people. But some children are still beaten, unaware of their mistakes, or they have not made mistakes. This kind of experience will sow the seeds of hatred and violence in children's hearts. After he has the ability to inflict violence, he will be more willing to use violence to solve problems. This is very terrible.

tell a lie

Lying is the instinct of human beings to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Some parents, once they find that their children have made a mistake, will copy the guy to avoid being beaten. They often force children to lie against their will. If they cheat, they will cheat, because if they cheat once, it will reduce their physical pain. Over time, they will form the habit of lying and say that their children will not lie. You are all wet.

Conclusion: The education mode of not beating the abrasive not only leads to the above problems, but also may make children feel disgusted, rebellious and indifferent, and some children may even have revenge psychology, which will bring great consequences to their growth. Even if this educational model can cultivate a "genius", those without a sound personality are also geniuses. In short, in order to make children grow up healthily, parents should change the education mode of teaching by beating, respect their children from the heart, convince others by reasoning, and create a good growth environment for their growth.