Mass material stimulation

One of the major characteristics of human nature is to satisfy needs with materials. When this demand cannot be guaranteed in time and in full, negative emotions will arise.

-Outline of Economics

2 1 century, the greatest success of parents is the success of educating their children. In the current China society, this view has also been recognized by the vast majority of people and has become the mainstream discussion in our time.

It is based on this point of view that education experts point out that the most valuable investment in 2 1 century is the investment in educating children.

There is nothing wrong with this view. However, according to our usual understanding, investment is always associated with money, especially when our material living standards have been greatly improved, parents' investment in their children began to stay at the almost rampant material level, and in this kind of investment, the material stimulation given by parents to their children became more and more distorted.

The so-called material stimulation refers to the use of material means to make the stimulated person get material satisfaction, thus further mobilizing their enthusiasm, initiative and creativity. Because material is the first demand of human beings and also the universal demand of human beings, the material-oriented incentive model has become popular in the workplace in recent years and has received quite good results.

In this way, parents who have seen the powerful role of material stimulation in the workplace have begun to transplant this model into family education, hoping to complete the positive guidance for their children.

So we can see that in many families, young parents frequently use material stimulation as bait from the birth of their children, hoping to guide their children to develop in the direction their parents hope by satisfying their material desires.

This phenomenon is very common in families in China, and we can often hear this sentence pattern.

"If you are admitted to a key school, then dad will reward you ..."

"If you get the top three, then mom will buy it for you ..."

"If you play this song well, I'll take you ..."

Such words frequently appear in our families, and we can even say without doubt that the phenomenon of using material stimulation as a means of children's education has become the normal state of family education in China.

The means of material stimulation is simple, but the reason why this model will become the norm is that this model is indeed reasonable.

As far as the child's nature is concerned, it is obviously inhuman to let him control his inner desires in front of high-end toys, exquisite food and beautiful clothes. Therefore, if parents do not give proper protection in this respect, or parents do not pay enough attention to their children's desires, the result will inevitably lead to unpleasant negative emotions in the process of children's growth.

Such a result is not only unbearable for children, but also unwilling for our parents. When material stimulation exists in the form of incentive mode, it can not only satisfy children's desire for material things, but also become a means for parents to implement education, which is naturally easily accepted by thousands of parents in Qian Qian.

However, plans that seem to have the best of both worlds often lead to two-way problems. When our parents combine the material stimulation and incentive mode, it means the beginning of a new dilemma in family education.