Spoiling is an incorrect and inappropriate way to make children form unscrupulous behavior habits. So doting is really not a good thing, and children are prone to problems. But now there are many precious mothers who especially love their children, especially the following points.
1. Children do what they want. In fact, many treasure mothers know that this practice is not correct, but their behavior often runs counter to their own ideas, knowing that they are wrong, they will still follow their children. In fact, this is also because treasure moms spoil their children too much. Because I spoil my children too much, I am afraid that the conditions put forward by my children will not be met, and I am in a bad mood. Finally, I have to compromise with my children. On weekdays, no matter what the children want or want to do, the treasure mothers are satisfied one by one, which is one of the initial manifestations of doting on the children.
Everyone should have seen the scene to be described next: when a child fell by himself, he didn't cry at first. However, when the mother came to the side for emergency care, the child burst into tears. Then one of the reasons expressed in this example is that giving children too much attention will make them feel more vulnerable. So when children do some small things, or when some small things happen, there is no need to pay special attention to children. If you pay too much attention to everything, it will only make your child more dependent mentally. After that, no matter what experience, children may not be independent. So this way of indulging in love is also very undesirable.
3. Everything is for children. Many treasure mothers always use their children as an excuse to help them do everything well. Some things are really beyond children's power, and it is understandable for treasure mothers to help their children do these things well. But there are also many things that children can accomplish independently and smoothly, such as eating, dressing, wearing shoes, brushing their teeth and taking a bath by themselves. But often these things are arranged by the treasure mothers, leaving no chance for the children. Ma Bao always thinks that children are not well dressed and have a dirty bath, but the question is, when will they learn and do well if they are not allowed to try these things? Therefore, arranging everything for children is also a major manifestation of doting.
No matter how smart and wise parents are, they will lose their rationality and even do particularly unreasonable things in the face of disputes between their children and other children. It is inevitable that there will be some small contradictions and frictions between children, but treasure moms are often unreasonable because they are distressed that their children have been wronged, blindly accusing each other and rarely criticizing their children's faults. And this kind of performance is a kind of doting, which is likely to make children unreasonable in the future.