Attribution rule
0 1 Ensure that children grow up in a healthy family environment.
Every parent wants to create a healthy family environment for their children, but it is not so easy. For example, some parents spoil, spoil and obey their children, which leads to unhealthy living habits. Some parents often quarrel in front of their children, and broken and long-term separated families make their children lack a sense of belonging. ......
If family changes are inevitable, parents should pay more attention to their children's comfort and guidance, and try not to take wrong practices such as neglect of discipline, doting and being too strict, let alone take it out on their children because of family breakdown.
Law of hope
Always let children see hope.
Parents pin their hopes on their children, but some parents turn this hope into mental pressure, so that children can't see their hopes. For example, some parents have high expectations for their children, but they always find fault with the gap. The child got 99 points, but parents have to investigate why they didn't get 100 points. This kind of harsh high standards and strict requirements often backfire, killing children's hopes and discouraging them.
When children do well, they should be affirmed in time and tell them that they are doing well and "great". Even if the child doesn't do well for a while, he should be good at letting the child see hope with encouraging words. This is to use the law of hope to motivate children.
administrative rules
Parents have the responsibility to discipline their children before they are underage.
Some parents love to say to the teacher, "I will give you the child in the future!" " Other parents usually ignore their children because of their busy work. These are all wrong. In the process of children's growth, the role of parents is irreplaceable by anyone. Children are born with the feeling of relying on their parents. Parents give their children the education, companionship and care they deserve, and children will feel safe and supportive. When they encounter problems, they will ask their parents for help.
Therefore, parents cannot shirk their responsibility for discipline for any reason. However, this kind of discipline should be based on kinship, humanized, scientific and rational, and children should not be regarded as private property, regardless of and respect for their thoughts and personality.
Sound laws
Listen to the voices of the children.
Parents treat their children equally, give them the right to speak, listen to their voices, and children will speak their true thoughts. If adults don't respect children's ideas and ignore their voices, over time, children will be afraid to tell the truth to their parents and don't like to communicate with them. Moreover, parents are children's teachers and role models. If parents don't listen to their children patiently, they will follow suit, refuse to listen to others and don't know how to respect others.
Everything related to children, such as moving, transferring, participating in extracurricular activities, taking exams and competitions, must be discussed and explained with children first. Even if you can't listen to their opinions completely, you should feel that your parents have asked for their opinions.
Example rule
Words and deeds have a great role model for children.
Children's upbringing, interests, hobbies, etc. Most of them come from the growing environment, parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, teachers and so on. It will have an impact on children. In addition to role models in the family, parents should also pay attention to the influence of social relations and frequent occasions on their children.
Parents should also pay attention to their children's interpersonal communication, such as who their idols are and who their good friends are. If you find that your child has made bad friends by mistake, don't arbitrarily stop them from coming and going. You should know the situation first, and then help your children. Children need friendship and are afraid of loneliness.
Principle of seeking common ground while reserving differences
Respect children's views on the world and try to understand them.
Children and adults often have different views and have many unconventional fantasies, which is the loveliness of childlike innocence. If adults think that children's ideas are strange, throwing cold water on them will stifle their imagination and curiosity, and they will be disappointed because they can't understand them.
On the other hand, only naive children dare to talk nonsense. It is necessary to combine the "sound method" to encourage children to dare to express themselves, actively affirm their own ideas, and patiently explain some opinions and statements that are divorced from reality or will cause trouble. .
Structural law
Teach children to understand the boundary between morality and law from an early age.
It is not difficult for parents to do this. Legal education is integrated into social life and school education. Children are edified in all directions from childhood, and there will be moral bottom line and legal bottom line in their hearts, which will often affect their parents in turn.
Parents should lead by example and set an example for their children to obey the law. Parents are advised to look for materials from life to help children understand what is immoral, what is legal and what must be avoided, so that children can understand the boundaries between morality and law from an early age.
Consequence rule
Let children know the possible consequences of their actions.
Sometimes, if a child is in trouble or wants to do something unconventional, adults will not be persuaded to criticize or stop the child without knowing the consequences and harm.
To convince children, parents, teachers and other adults should first think carefully about the cause and effect of everything, and then have a good talk with their children. They can start with the good or bad consequences and explain in turn whether they should do so, so that children will understand.