Many parents usually choose to scold their children when they make mistakes, but this way of solving the problem will only lead to: the children are frightened and full of fear, and have no mind to think about why they are wrong, or the children are angered by the parents' scolding and just want to yell back, regardless of where they are wrong. However, if parents can change their ways and treat their children calmly when they make mistakes, then children will listen to you carefully, and there will be less fear and resistance, which may achieve educational results. And this way is what we often call "education in a low voice".

What is low voice education?

Educating children quietly is the opposite of educating children loudly. It is this kind of education in a low voice that will be more effective when dealing with things. This is because:

● Educating children in a low voice can make parents think more calmly, and this good mood can also better communicate with children, so that children's fears and rebellious psychology can be reduced.

Criticizing children in a low voice can not only make them listen to their parents carefully, but also make them accept their criticism in a calm mood. On the contrary, parents who educate their children with high notes will not only fail to achieve the educational function, but also make the parent-child relationship more and more tense.

A deep voice can drive away anger. When people's mood fluctuates greatly, their minds will become unclear and impatient, but when they speak in a low voice, they will think calmly and drive away their anger.

Parents are children's first teachers, and parents have a great influence on children. If parents often use a grumpy attitude to solve problems when they encounter things, the child's personality will become the same as that of parents. So how should parents "whisper" when educating their children?

1, criticizing the child for lowering his tone.

When parents encounter their children's mistakes, they need to think calmly first, try to stabilize their children's emotions, and then talk to their children, so as to effectively solve the problem. A deep voice can not only make people more rational, but also let children put down their fears, which is also good for communication between the two sides.

2. Use the right tone and wording

I believe it is difficult for many parents not to criticize their children when they make mistakes. They just want to remind their children when they make mistakes, but before criticizing them, parents can calm down and think about their words and tone, so that they will avoid quarreling during the conversation and the children will try to think about their own problems.

3. Explain your expectations to them.

Sometimes, parents can tell their children what you expect of them in a calm tone, such as: What mom wants you to do, it will be better ... A series of sentences will do. You can tell your children what will happen if he does what he wants, and so on.

4. Don't hurt children's self-esteem.

Many parents will personally attack their children after they make mistakes, not to say that they are stupid or to vent their bad emotions, but this kind of self-esteem damage is very bad for children and may affect the development of their personality. For every child, he wants to be respected by others, including his parents. This respect will make the child feel confident.

I believe that every parent wants their children to become talents, but hating iron and not turning into steel is not an education of beating and cursing, so parents should learn to deal with their children's problems with calm mood.