As the saying goes, many traditional parents in China have given up self-education because they want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. They sacrificed all their economic time to accompany their children, thinking that it was a good duty for them, but they didn't know that giving up self-education would really destroy them and themselves.

First of all, I think parents in China should learn to be imperfect parents and accept imperfect children.

It is human nature that parents want their children to be excellent. However, many parents demand perfect and successful parenting. They can create a particularly clean environment for children, so that children are completely in the process of learning, and think that this is the best parenting education.

Even if these children are admitted to excellent schools, it is still a failed teaching case. This kind of too smooth education will make them escape setbacks and make their children lose their independence.

Secondly, giving up self is a kind of persistence, and they also rely on their children's education to make up for their own shortcomings.

These parents seem to have given up on themselves and put everything on their children. However, this is an attachment in itself. Putting your future entirely on your child's future will inevitably add a lot of pressure to your child.

I think parents should have an independent personality first, so that they can set an example to educate their children to have an independent personality, let them learn to face things alone and let them grow up healthily.

In addition, parents give up themselves and regard their children as a product and investment.

Parents put all their energy and time into their children when they give up their education. Children are their products and investments. Parents raise their children not by kindness but by blood.

Both sides are independent individuals, and they should not impose their demands on each other in any form, let alone control their children's lives in the name of love. This abandonment of self-education is an unbearable pressure for children and an excessive and extreme attachment for parents.