The word "tiger mother" probably became popular from a Chinese mother's book "Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother". Although this book received mixed reviews when it was first published, it is generally associated with paternalistic discipline, and it feels that "tiger mother" is to use power and strength to limit children's high-level performance in all aspects. In Hong Kong, if a mother arranges her children to attend interest classes from morning till night, asks her children to learn skills beyond their age prematurely, practices their children's studies rigidly day and night, and asks them to be taught in a prestigious school, she will definitely be called "Tiger Mother".

But in my opinion, she can only be called "panic mom" For the sake of children's future, equipping children without a clear plan is equivalent to constantly adding weapons and protective equipment to children. In fact, on the journey of life, not every skill is needed by children. Many additions and excessive panic are just a burden for children.

Before sharing my views, I still spent some time to understand the "tiger mother ancestor" and its subjects. Let's not discuss the content of the rules she made with her children (in fact, she made them herself). I found that she disciplined her children systematically, planned and knew how to take. Compared with "panic mom", it has a clear goal, knows how to distinguish and trains children to choose the right equipment. Of course, all this must be based on mutual communication and trust with children. If parents push this plan hard before they know their children, it may be counterproductive.

To be a planned mother, we must first understand what kind of environment the child will face, cultivate the child with appropriate methods, and even study happily so as not to make the child feel a little pressure. For example, when learning to write, many parents are afraid that their children's writing ability will lag behind others, so they ask their children to write rigidly every day. However, some parents will train their children in a happy way, doodle with them and play with clay glue in their spare time. Although children won't learn new words in this process, their finger muscles will be exercised, so when they write, they will be like a duck to water.

Some parents have become "card collectors" since the birth of their children. Large and small activities and even an "attendance certificate" have become one of the links that parents equip their children with. When I was promoted to primary school, I copied this stack of certificates to my favorite primary school. When primary schools limit the number of pages of study files, they will shrink the certificate into ten pages to test the teacher's eyesight. In fact, if parents understand the admission standards of primary schools and trust the professional judgment of schools, there is no need to do similar things in a panic. If a child performs well in a certain aspect and wins one or two representative awards, it will certainly add a lot of luster to his learning files. Otherwise, think about how many heavy and meaningless study documents the school has collected. What is the decisive impact on the acquisition? Therefore, planned parents will first understand the admission standards of their favorite schools to see if they are suitable for their children. For example, how do students study during school hours, whether the learning style is appropriate, where are the characteristics of the course, and whether they are interested in the fields that children are interested in. Don't be passive, just cooperate with the admission requirements of your favorite school to urge your children. In fact, further thinking, school selection is just a matching game. Schools are choosing suitable students, and parents have the right to choose suitable schools.

Parents with plans, the most important thing is to know how to "block" their children. I believe my plan is most suitable for my children, and I will not add extra pressure to my children because of other people's situations or doubts. Many parents are afraid that their children will lose, so they follow suit and participate in many extracurricular activities. I met a lady who spoke good English class and signed up her children. The most bitter result is the children, whose playing time is occupied by extracurricular classes. In fact, do children need all the skills in life? I can play the violin, but he can't. So what? He has something to admire. Relatives know the parents of a famous musician who raised their children to play the piano. If he had other interest classes besides piano, I believe his grades would not be as good as they are now. Cultivating children in areas of interest is more systematic and less stressful than throwing stones into the forest. Self-questioning is a bit like a tiger mother, who arranges children and has high demands on them, but my biggest requirements for children are morality, personality and self-care, and the rest are avoided as much as possible. When arranging interest classes for children, I often tell teachers that they don't need to learn too fast, take exams or win prizes. It is most important for children to study easily and keep interest. Although sometimes I still feel pressure in parenting, I should also know not to transfer the external pressure to my children. As long as you know how to plan and protect children, tiger mother's children will be very happy. Mom authorized to reprint the original source, tiger mom, happy child.