Professor Peking University once said that it is a better education method to "revenge" children in time.
Educating children is a science. Children can't be educated casually. I take care of them too much, but I'm afraid the children will rebel. Too little attention, many parents don't know what to do, because they are afraid that their children will get used to self-indulgence and affect their development.
Karl Witt, a famous German genius educator, had such a thing when he was three years old:
One day, while a guest was chatting happily, the Wits' dog ran to the guest. Witt ran to grab the puppy's tail and tried to pull it out. The puppy barked painfully. Father saw it and said nothing. He grabbed Witt's hair directly with his hand. Witt painfully loosened his head, and Witt's father loosened Witt's hair.
Later, Witt's father said, Does it hurt to be caught?
Witt said: it hurts.
Dad Witt: Then you can't treat dogs like this.
The father's behavior is actually some kind of punishment, but it is very similar to the child's behavior. Let children know what consequences others will bring to themselves when they use his behavior, and then they will consider the consequences when they do things. Here, Witt's father used the method of "revenge" on Witt, did not give a long speech to the children, and did not educate them that "no one can do it". This kind of "revenge" behavior can easily make children understand that this is not possible.
Timely "revenge education" for children, parents adhere to the "three unaccustomed":
1, not used to crying when encountering setbacks.
Everyone's life will be full of ups and downs, regardless of size, there will always be. When children encounter minor setbacks and can solve them by themselves, parents should not interfere. Just like a child wrestling, if he can stand up, his parents don't have to help and comfort him.
You can't get used to being rude.
Politeness is the most basic in any situation. A person doesn't even know the most basic manners how to get along with others. Therefore, parents should educate their children from an early age to be polite to people and things, and don't let their children become "little bullies".
3, addicted to mobile phones can't get used to it
Some parents, as the name implies, take care of their children and accompany them, that is, the children play by themselves, and the parents ensure the safety of their children and then play with their mobile phones. Children need company from others. Parents don't play by themselves, but always watch mobile phones, which will lead to their interest in mobile phones. If they have more contact, they will rely on electronic products.
For children, don't always spoil and spoil. Parents sometimes have to harden their hearts and set good rules for their children from an early age, so that children will benefit when they grow up.