The concept of "Trinity" is the specific content of "Three" in the growth law of "430" education, which is applicable not only to children's education, but also to adults' personal growth. Building it in my education system and dividing it into three parts is also an accumulation and encounter in the long journey of personalized education exploration.

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Suddenly one day, I felt that there was something wrong with my education.

It was the early summer of 20 17.

In those two years, I used psychological and emotional acceptance more in education. Twenty years ago, we strayed into the children's education and training industry, from the earliest intelligent and rational education to slowly learning to accept children's emotions and improve their academic performance. This is the result of our pursuit of extracurricular cultural training.

In practice, I have been learning all kinds of theories and practical techniques of psychology, and integrating them into education, and I have tasted the sweetness.

In the past, psychology mainly came from self-study in books, but by 20 15, there were more and more training courses related to psychology in society, and the network also gave birth to YY classroom and other learning platforms, which accelerated my understanding of psychology at once.

I am keen on psychological theory and various consulting techniques: sandbox games, hypnosis, dream interpretation, image dialogue, family therapy, psychological painting, music therapy ... I got a bunch of certificates.

Relying on the unique extracurricular training conditions, I studied and experimented on my own acre of land. I not only integrated various psychological counseling methods into every classroom teaching, but also rented an extra room and made a sandbox game room. At that time, I had only a few dozen students, and inserting a classroom in different classes could solve the class problems. However, I didn't hesitate to double the rent of the house and add more than 10 thousand yuan to improve the sandbox game room. I just hope that when children are busy with their studies, they can relieve their psychological pressure, smile, integrate into their own hearts and take a good life path as students.

From then on, children can play with dazzling sand in the classroom every week. Of course, we also integrate writing and other courses into it. Weekly classes give every child a chance to open his heart safely, and clear water will also have a chance to flow into their hearts.

A few years later, a pupil chose to study psychology in a university. During the summer vacation, he came to my place as an intern. Seeing other children playing games in the sand table, he said, I understand. The unconscious game in the sand table in those days is now integrated with the psychological theory I have learned. I haven't studied sandplay therapy. I can read children's words and deeds.

The integration of a large number of psychological counseling techniques and education can help children learn more about their hearts from their unconscious play and make the teaching plan more accurate. In this way, many children are more likely to get out of psychological difficulties, and all kinds of learning problems are solved.

However, the effect of some students is not ideal. After their repressed emotions are released, they can't put them back in their own bottles, and they constantly need others to carry, manage and follow them. Parents' changes can hardly make them change, but take a step back.

Parents will die, and it takes time to embark on the road of change. If parents must be completely changed, children can properly consider their studies, and then every day, teachers' complaints and homework problems drive their parents crazy in minutes.

I can understand these children very well. Their intelligent and adventurous personality is often very strong, but the realistic type of managing themselves step by step and the adventurous type of challenging difficulties and daring to climb are weak. They are eager to fly high, but the difficulties in learning directly drag them to the ground and can't move. Some of these children still have different degrees of sensory integration, difficulty in concentration, and lagging development of basic learning ability. Others have poor physical fitness and yawn after studying for a while. There are also generations of children who are confused physically and mentally. ...

Although our courses give them a chance to release their body and mind once a week and see the light again, the next very realistic week of school study will haunt them so that they can't move freely and get stuck in their throats and breathe freely. Their exuberant fire of life is nowhere to be lit, and their pursuit of respect and freedom is nowhere to be found, so their resentment is doubly released to their parents who have just begun to put down the high-pressure education method and are still wandering on the road of parenting.

Both sides can understand how to break the dilemma.

During that time, I was a little confused: was my educational achievements of more than ten years just accidental? What the hell went wrong? Is my road to education crooked?

In the past 20 years, it doesn't matter whether there is a back door or not. With a heart to help children and parents, I struggled all the way in education: "Where is the house and where is the car? What should the children do?" The initial intention of education is always the same.

Looking back at children who have been exposed to early education, this situation is extremely rare.

I remember a sophomore boy came to my place for training for a while. Mom has changed a lot, from being strict and simple, mainly beating and cursing, to being able to guide patiently. However, children have not changed much, and they can still throw away their studies and homework like a burden they don't want to pick on their shoulders. School teachers keep complaining to their parents, and anxious mothers can only complain to me.

I will call the children:

"Do you think mom has changed?"

"Yes," he replied.

"Do you want your mother now or your old mother?"

"Now, of course."

"Mom has changed, can you change some and take good care of your study? Or I'll let your mother change back. "

"I don't want my mother to change back ... and then ... I'll change!"

After the talk, I made some specific plans for children's learning problems. After that, the boy's awareness of learning improved a lot.

Simple conversation can immediately solve difficult problems, on the one hand, because children have been subjected to many spiritual shocks and nourishment in our classroom, on the other hand, it is also the absolute trust between teachers and students. The child understands that the fierce mother has become a gentle mother, mainly because of our credit. If he doesn't give in, as a teacher, it is entirely possible for me to change my mother back. In contrast, it is worthwhile for him to change something himself.

At that time, although not everyone was as simple as the child above, they were generally more reasonable, realistic in personality and weak in intelligence and adventure. Therefore, when they consider problems, they will pay more attention to rules and the needs of others.

Listening and docking emotions, this basic technology and concept of psychological counseling is really good, and it does not violate the consciousness of integrating into education, which is exactly the same as the educational concept of "freedom and love" in the new era. But in practice, it is difficult for ordinary people to control. It needs parents, a hard day's work, teachers' complaints and Xiong Haizi's disappointments to calm their emotions and continue to do so, otherwise the children may be more confused physically and mentally.

I know that parents must be changed before children can be changed, which is emphasized in psychology. But parents are human. How can the concept of injecting bone from childhood be completely stripped at once? Of course, I also know that if we wait for the flowers to bloom, how can the children's problems be solved at once unless it is cold in a day? But children's learning problems and teachers' complaints will not be delayed. ...

Anxiety, thinking, circulation, gradually, clear up:

It's not that my education has deviated from the direction, but that this generation of children is different from before!

I remember a pet behavior trainer in a variety show said that a new phenomenon was discovered in recent years, and some behavior problems that dogs often have in front of their owners disappeared when they arrived at the trainer. Therefore, they set up relevant coping courses so that owners can take their dogs to parent-child classes.

This is because in recent ten years, people who have pet dogs have used it to relieve their mental anxiety and improve their happiness index, so they have over-satisfied their dogs materially, interfered with their own needs and development, and led to more emotional disorders and many bad behaviors.

The problem of dog education is still changing with the times, especially for people.

The problem is locked, and all that remains is to find new countermeasures. After a while, suddenly one day I realized that education needs three in one:

Rational analysis and judgment, emotional perception and physical perception require joint efforts to move forward.

A large number of psychological and emotional acceptance methods are introduced, and only emotional perception and rational analysis ability are compared, but physical perception is not included, let alone helping to locate correctly. Although I used to pay great attention to children's health, I have been studying the relationship between study and body, just passing by.

There are many theoretical schools of psychology, and the relationship between body and mind has also been discussed and practiced. For example, somatization disorder is the physical discomfort caused by patients' mental problems, and various schools have related technologies to treat it.

But our students are not patients in the psychological sense, and rarely have such serious psychological problems as somatization disorder. Just like everyone has a cold and fever, students who belong to normal people will also have psychological headaches and brain fever. I'm not a counselor, I'm just a teacher. I don't study psychotherapy, but discuss how to carry out mental health care.

Because my body belongs to deficiency of both qi and blood and deficiency of both yin and yang, it has been going downhill since I was forty or fifty years old. With the growth of age, the body that takes medicine and injections all the year round is losing money. In order to continue my beloved education, I spent a lot of money and energy on medical care. For more than ten years, I have been stumbling and trying to integrate various health preservation methods, and my body has been adjusted to the level of sesame blossom. In addition, the personal growth work is done well, and the methods of teaching others are practiced first. Judging from the four types of personality, both personal growth and team harmony are constantly improving. Physical and mental health care together, the body naturally exerts its greatest potential, making me younger and younger in all aspects. My parents jokingly said that I was "inexperienced".

I will also use some psychological counseling skills I have learned to solve some physical discomfort of others. Once, a young friend went to the hospital to give birth to a baby, which was delayed. The expectant mother posted a message in the WeChat circle of friends, saying that her stomach hurts badly and she can't eat anything. I rushed to the hospital immediately after seeing it, and soon hypnotized her to eat. She also hypnotized herself with a few tricks I taught temporarily, which eased the pain of childbirth.

For those children with ADHD, sensory impairment and other learning disabilities, for many years, I have been looking for various health care methods to help them improve their physical fitness, strengthen their nervous system and solve various behavioral and learning problems.

I remember a second-grade boy many years ago, and his mother found me through others, saying that the children studied very hard and the school hoped that the children would repeat the grade. I know that just repeating a grade without improving my learning ability can't solve the problem at all. After face-to-face consultation, I found that this boy not only feels poor integration but also lags behind in language development, so it is difficult to have complete and fluent sentences when he speaks at ordinary times. So, I did all-round conditioning for him from sports training to learning basic skills training to psychological counseling, as well as pedicure, essential oil massage and other health care methods. Two months after the summer vacation, children not only improved their learning ability, sports ability and self-control, but also often made fluent sentences when they spoke.

In my nearly 20 years of teaching career, similar cases have occurred from time to time. In order to find a way for parents of children, there are often no "local doctors" like me. When I met a teacher who never found fault with students, I gave an overall plan based on my own feelings and beliefs, as well as years of personalized adjustment and learning experience.

With the accumulation of cases, on the one hand, I have more confidence in the results of the overall conditioning, on the other hand, I am also very surprised when the results really appear: the brain and body are integrated, and the power is huge, which cannot be underestimated! .

So I believe that the relationship between body and mind can be adjusted and controlled. Most people are here, and their physical and mental problems are far from reaching the level of somatization disorder defined by psychology. However, between the two major sites of mental health and mental illness, there are still many areas that are "not sick" or "minor illnesses". Anyone can do it before it happens.

Adding a foot to a two-legged stool and integrating my thoughts and feelings into my body will make the whole educational system I have integrated and followed in the past 20 years more powerful and stable.