Later, she wouldn't let me comb her at all. She wants to comb it herself. She couldn't comb at all, so she tied the handle to it.
I can't watch it. Can't comb. How can you go to school like this? What I'm thinking is, if I go to school like this, the teacher will definitely think: this child's mother doesn't care about the child, her hair is like that, and she doesn't comb her hair ... her husband doesn't want anything, let her comb it herself. If you don't let her comb it herself, she will never comb it.
In order to avoid quarreling, and unwilling to comb my hair and destroy the parent-child relationship, I chose to turn a blind eye. What my husband said is also reasonable. If she is not allowed to comb her hair, she will never learn. I care about my image in the teacher's mind, not making my children independent.
Now that the child's hair has been combed very well, I don't have to worry about it.
And what clothes to wear, I used to give her a choice, but now she makes her own decision. She once had a big fight because the collar of the dress she chose was too big and there were no sleeves. She likes that skirt and has to wear it. I don't think that dress is suitable for school. ...
Children eat clothes that can't be washed out, and erasers are bought one after another; I don't know how to throw the trash can in the packaging bag after eating snacks ... I can't help nagging, and it doesn't matter. Take care of your emotions first, shut up first, and then learn to speak well. No child likes to be nagged.
There is also homework. I used to check my homework every day. When I had a question that I couldn't understand, I talked to my children for a long time. She still doesn't understand, and she will get emotional. It is said that the child is in a bad mood. At the beginning of this semester, I tried not to check her homework. I just asked her: Have you finished your homework? As long as it's finished, it doesn't matter. I was surprised to get the first place in the first monthly exam. Later, some time before the mid-term exam, my husband and I quarreled. It is estimated that the child's psychology has also been affected, and the exam results have come down again. ...
It is said that education is not to fill a bucket of water, but to light a fire.
Help children lead their dreams and give her a vision. Will she improve some autonomy? And a success diary. Let the child write down what she feels successful and beautiful today every day. Will it help her improve her self-confidence?
I didn't help my child insist, I just wrote for a while. Still have to insist!