Parents are children's first teachers, which are very important for their life development. Therefore, communication between parents and children is very important. I will talk about the following points on how to communicate with children: First, words and deeds are more important than words and deeds. Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish their own prestige. A parent who doesn't like learning and only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who knows nothing, a parent with bad conduct, vulgar behavior, selfishness and disrespect for the elderly, will not cultivate good children. Secondly, it should be noted that children in parenting education are very concerned about whether their parents have made great efforts for their growth. Although some parents stay with their children all the year round, they may not always communicate with each other. Most parents neglect parenting education on the grounds of being busy. Parents' parenting education should be ahead of their children's physical and mental development, so parents should devote themselves to their children's education, keep learning and improve their ability to educate their children, so as to win their respect and love. Third, create a good knowledge environment. Children's learning should have a good small environment, not high-end products, but atmosphere. When studying, students should avoid unnecessary family chats, get together with friends more, and try to tolerate shortcomings. Look at the child with a magnifying glass. You know, there are no perfect children in the world, even perfect children have their own shortcomings. Parents' unconditional trust in their children is an important basis for communication with their children. 5. Praise more and criticize less. Appropriate praise is a stimulant and lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember: praise and encouragement make children progress, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind. Sixth, when correcting children's key shortcomings, we must pay attention to maturity, choose the best place and opportunity, and finally ask parents to remember the following sentence: the premise of educating children is to understand them. Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure. How to communicate with children: How to cultivate their children and communicate with them unimpeded is a problem that every family and every parent are very concerned about, and it is also a very difficult problem in today's social environment. When communicating with children, parents need to adjust their psychology first, and hint to themselves: I have such a lovely child, we will grow up together, we will face many problems together, and we will live happier and more fun than others. Only in this way can we establish a good foundation for effective communication with children. Frankly speaking, the birth and growth of children today are all "sound and light", which is completely different from the reception system of parents when they were young. If parents still tell their children what to do with a single voice, they will find it particularly boring. Today, many children can watch TV, listen to music and do their homework at the same time. Because he grew up in a family environment with various household appliances, he has this habit and skill of overcharge. Such systematic stimulation is much stronger and more effective than simple language symbol stimulation. Therefore, if parents are still complacent and educate their children with the original education model, it will certainly not arouse their interest. On the contrary, even in the eyes of children, parents often become boring symbols; On the other hand, the endless stream of high-tech products profoundly affects children's living environment and thinking habits; Today's children also have the ability to accept international advanced consciousness, such as knowledge of sexual knowledge, which may be difficult for parents to talk about when educating their children, but children actually know a lot. The dilemma of communication is a realistic premise that every parent must face up to. Learn to design heuristic questions. Many parents often have a misunderstanding about communication, that is, as long as parents say something and children listen, this is communication. Due to the limitations of various factors in the growing years, parents are relatively poor in educating their children's language and thinking. For example, a child complained that his mother said six words to herself in one day: "Hurry up, or you will be late for school"; The second sentence is "You have to eat some breakfast anyway, or you won't be able to hold up the morning class", the third sentence is "Be careful when crossing the road and watch the car", the fourth sentence is "You must work hard when you get to school", and the fifth sentence is "The school lunch is not very delicious, but you are growing up, so you must eat more"; The sixth sentence "Do your homework first when you come home from school, and watch TV in no hurry". It's natural for a child to get bored by saying such things day after day, but the result is just the opposite. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with their children, learn to design questions, communicate with their children by asking questions, try not to use declarative sentences, and try to let their children speak. "Asking questions" is an advanced form of communication today. Parents should also have high skills in asking questions, and parents should strengthen their ability in this respect. The problem of communication should be specific. Parents have a habit of being earnest, but what they say is particularly empty. For example, "You must study hard". This kind of language expression is ineffective and useless for today's children's education. Because these words lack obvious operability, they can't be mastered as children, but they are easy to cause children's psychological anxiety. The positive way is to communicate with children step by step through specific questions and encouragement. It is easier to mobilize children's enthusiasm and grasp the direction of children's thinking and action. Divide children's action goals into many small steps, each step is a concrete and relatively easy-to-achieve goal, and let them experience the joy of success in each step.