Everyone's life is unique and has its own mission and significance. Inherent personality traits are destined to bring you a unique life experience. But based on different goals, it may not only bring you pleasure and satisfaction, but also create countless troubles and difficulties for you.

Therefore, avoidant personality will not prevent anyone from becoming a winner in life, but only depends on what specific criteria we use to set our goals in life.

For example, if you must turn over the standard of earning 10 million yuan a year, marrying Bai, being both civil and military, and having excellent academic performance, your life may be accompanied by more great experiences such as disappointment, failure, hardship and pressure. However, if you take doing your favorite job, living with people in two of a kind, finding fun outside of work for yourself and growing up happily with your children as the winner's goal, you may have more happy experiences in your life.

Accept yourself first, then find something that can make you feel happy, happy and satisfied, and do it, and you will become a winner in life. Approach-avoidance conflict, also known as positive conflict and negative conflict, is a kind of psychological conflict, which means that the same goal has the mentality of approaching and avoiding individuals at the same time. This goal can meet the needs of some people, but it will also bring some threats, which are both attractive and repulsive, and make people fall into psychological difficulties.