With the development of economy, today's children are less confident and not good at communication, which leads to the stagnation of learning and even is seriously detrimental to the development of personality. Parents seek various solutions. Next, let's take a look at the solution of golden rainforest research.

Golden Rainforest has been engaged in children's learning ability education for more than 20 years. In the process of communicating with parents and teachers related to the Golden Rainforest, I have repeatedly talked about the importance of self-confidence to children.

There is a widespread concept of children's education, which is called "good children are praised". Compared with the immediate education of our parents when we were young, now more parents tend to praise their children a little more, and all kinds of praises such as "good baby" and "you are really amazing" are endless. It has formed a kind of praise theory which contains the feelings of caring for children and is mixed with many educational characteristics of China. However, the children educated in this way have not cultivated more self-confidence. Accompanied by this, more parents complain that "children's ability to resist setbacks is too poor!"

Therefore, these praises did not bring good children. Why on earth? How did confidence come from?

The Joint Inspection Unit of the Golden Rainforest Research shows that this involves two points:

First of all, "successful learning" is the basis of "confident growth"

Second, "praise" does not mean "appreciation"

One of the purposes of the Golden Rainforest is "academic success and confident growth". These simple eight words are actually the foundation of self-confidence growth.

The source of self-confidence is successful experience. Only when you have a successful experience in one thing will your inner strength be aroused, so that you can truly gain self-confidence. Imagine that you know you can't do something well, but your elders keep saying "you can do it" and "mom believes in you". This is actually not a compliment, but a silent pressure. Everyone has a self-evaluation system. In fact, children also know what they are not good at (such as some homework and some sports), and the evaluation they get from childhood is "You are the smartest" and "You just need to work harder". Then the easiest way to deal with these things is to "escape", and only "escape" can preserve the self-esteem of the "smartest person".

So how can we have a good successful experience?

Golden Rainforest Child Psychologist said: In order to succeed in one thing, besides external objective factors, you need to have your own ability to succeed. Improve one's ability through repeated training. In fact, the so-called "good boy is praised" emphasizes an appreciation attitude, rather than a simple and specific "praise" behavior. Praise is an act, and appreciation is an attitude. In the atmosphere of "appreciation", children are more willing to try something again and again, so as to improve their ability in the process of repeated training. With good ability, it is easier to get a successful experience, and a successful experience brings a child real self-confident growth.

This article was published by Golden Rainforest.