Ban Zhao once wrote a famous article "Women's Commandments" to teach women, which has been passed down to this day and has become the code of conduct for ancient wives and women. This is good advice that a woman must read all her life.
The requirements for women in this book are as follows: 1. In ancient times, women were born for three days, stayed in bed, made tiles (zhuān) and fasted. Under the bed, it can be seen that he is humble and weak, and his master and servant are also. Get the tiles, know your hard work, and be on duty. Zhai told the first king that Ming was a teacher and sacrificed with him. The three cover the usual ways of women, and etiquette norms teach them.
2. Being humble and respectful, putting others before oneself, being good and inexplicable, being evil and not saying anything, being ashamed and dirty, always being afraid, is called humility and weakness.
3. Go to bed late and do it early. Don't be afraid to stay up late, do private things, don't worry about drama, do what you should do and sort out your handwriting. This is duty.
4. Doing exercises with positive color, focusing on husband, being quiet and self-controlled, and not funny, drinking for the ancestors is called the following sacrifice.
The Women's Commandment is divided into seven articles, starting with "inferiority first", which shows that women always have to obey the rules. The article said: The ancient woman lay under the bed three days after she was born, and let her play with bricks and offer sacrifices to her ancestors. Lying under the bed means that women are inferior to others. Playing with bricks and tiles means that women will study housework and work hard in the future. Sacrificing ancestors indicates that women will bear the heavy responsibility of sacrifice. These three are common ways for women and are also codes of etiquette.
How can we be "modest"? Humble and weak is humble and weak. Women should be modest and patient, and sincerely respect all people and things. Give the good things to others first, and you can be modest and backward. Do good deeds without publicity, and do wrong things without shirking responsibility. Suffer humiliation, often afraid that you are not doing well enough. This is all humbleness and weakness, as well as the temperament below people.
Women should be diligent, go to bed late and get up early (it is recommended to go to bed around 10 at night and get up around 5 am). Taking care of the housework by yourself, not afraid of hard work, doing things seriously, is a sign of hard work from beginning to end.
A dignified face, quiet manners, quiet self-esteem, no casual jokes, such a temperament can worship ancestors. The offerings are clean and tidy, and they are placed squarely on the altar to worship the ancestors. 1. The way of husband and wife, participating in Yin and Yang, reaching the gods, believing in the vastness of heaven and earth, is also a great festival of human relations.
2. If the husband is not virtuous, there will be no royal wife, and if the wife is not virtuous, there will be no husband. A husband does not obey his wife, his dignity is abolished, and a woman does not serve her husband.
The second article of the Women's Commandment is "husband and wife". The way of husband and wife is a great festival of human relations, which has a profound theory of yin and yang and reaches all things in the world and the universe. Husband and wife are a big festival of human relations. The so-called "believing in the righteousness of heaven and earth" is of great significance and far-reaching influence.
A husband has no virtue and cannot lead his wife. If a wife has no virtue, she can't serve and assist her husband. If a husband can't lead his wife, he loses his dignity, and if his wife can't help him, he loses his morality. Therefore, the education of men is of course important, and the education of women's ethics is more urgent and necessary. 1. Yang takes strength as virtue, Yin takes softness as utility, men take strength (qiáng), and women take weakness as beauty.
2. There is a saying: "If people are born like wolves, they are still afraid of embarrassment (wāng). Having a daughter is like a mouse, but I'm still afraid of its tiger. 」
3. Self-cultivation is disrespectful, and avoiding strength is not smooth. Therefore, obedience is a great gift for women.
4. Husband respects, but it is also lasting. Husband is not it, it is also called wealth. Perseverance, Zhi Zhi foot also. A well-off man, Shang Jing.
5. Husband and wife are righteous close relatives and kind.
"Respect for prudence is three" says that Yang takes rigidity as virtue and Yin takes softness as ability. Men value strength and women value weakness. Therefore, as the saying goes, "If a man is born like a wolf, he is still afraid of his embarrassment (wāng) (weakness and cowardice). Having a daughter is like a mouse, but I'm still afraid of its tiger. That's what it means.
Self-cultivation means respecting and avoiding strength, and self-cultivation means respecting and avoiding strength. This is a big gift for women. So what is "respect"? "Respect" is an attitude of persistence and humility. Persistence is contentment, and only contentment can last long. "Shun" is nothing more than tolerance, and the essence of tolerance lies in humility and humility.
In daily life, it is not difficult to find that couples will inevitably have holidays for a long time because they have been together for a lifetime. Unconsciously, words will become more and more intense, which will lead to arrogance and even contempt for their husbands. This is disrespectful, and it is also caused by ignorance and dissatisfaction with the degree of behavior.
Sometimes, when a wife thinks she is right, she argues with her husband and has a big fight. The so-called "small quarrels happen every day, and big quarrels are three or six." It's okay if it's not noisy. The louder the voice, the more angry it is until it is difficult to clean up. In fact, a wife should know how to be modest and humble, and know how to use softness to control rigidity. Disciple Rules says: "If you are patient with words, your anger will disappear. Masculine people are often not afraid of the wicked, but of the good. If the wife can put down her figure and whisper softly, family harmony can last for a long time. Therefore, the problem that you can't see when you look up can only be solved by looking down. Wife should be able to talk to weathering rain, and wife should be able to accept all rivers.
The friendship between lovers lasts forever, so why not? Husband and wife grow old together, why not get along for a hundred years? 1. A woman has four lines, one is her virtue, the other is her words, the third is her capacity, and the fourth is her merits.
You don't have to be different to have virtue. There is no need to argue what a woman says. A woman's face doesn't have to be beautiful in color. A woman's job doesn't have to be skillful.
3. Being quiet but not moving, being restrained but not chaotic, being ashamed but not moving, being quiet and not moving, this is called female virtue.
4. Don't say ugly words when choosing words, but it's not boring when you say it. This is a woman's word.
5. Wash away the dirt, put on fresh clothes (xié) and take a bath in time, which is called a woman's ability.
6. concentrate on spinning, don't laugh, (xié) eat and drink together to serve guests, which is called a woman's job.
7. These four are women's virtues, but they are all indispensable.
It's easy, but it's intentional. The ancients said, "Is benevolence far away?" ? I want benevolence, and benevolence is the best. "This is also called.
The fourth chapter of Women's Commandment is "Women's Behavior". Women have four lines: female virtue, female speech, female appearance and female merit, which are indispensable virtues for women. So is the virtue of a woman extremely clever? Do women have to be glib? Do women have to dress up beautifully? Is it necessary for women to be skilled? The answer is no.
Being quiet and chaste, behaving serenely, being able to keep chastity, having a sense of shame, and having statutes in words and deeds are the virtues of women.
Women's words are very important. Choose the content of words, speak well, put an end to bad vulgar language and don't speak ill of parents. Observe the reason and timing when you speak, and only say it when you should, so as not to cause others' disgust.
The key to keeping a woman's appearance is neatness and cleanliness. Dirty clothes should be cleaned in time, dried and ironed neatly. Brush your teeth, wash your face and take a bath on time to keep your body clean and dry. Dress dignified and decent, and be "expensive and clean, not expensive and extravagant, follow the rules and be called home", which is the appearance standard of women.
Women's work: concentrate on spinning and weaving, and don't like to play and laugh. It is a woman's job to cook delicious and healthy meals, take care of her family and entertain guests from afar. 1. Husband is heaven. Heaven can't escape, and my husband can't leave.
2. The female constitution says: "Being proud of one person is endless. A frustrated person is forever. " From the words, the husband can't help but be tempted.
3. Courtesy and righteousness live in the west, there is no way to listen, no evil sight, no smelting capacity, no waste decoration, no party to see the portal, which is called positive color.
4. If my husband is quiet, he will lose his hair when he sees and hears that Shaanxi lost. When he comes out, he will be graceful, say the wrong thing and not look at him. This means that he can't concentrate on positive color. (Shaanxi lost, uncertain. )
"Women's Commandments, Focus 5" points out a truth, a woman will always marry only one husband. A husband is a wife's paradise. We live in this world. When do we leave? This is the same reason that a wife and a husband will never be separated.
The Women's Constitution says: "If one person is proud, he will never finish, and if one person is frustrated, he will never finish." . If you want to get your husband's sincere respect and trust, there is no better way as a wife than to concentrate on positive color.
What can I do to "concentrate on positive color"? Keep etiquette and righteousness, be pure and kind, and never look at or listen to those who do not conform to etiquette and righteousness. Put an end to all pornographic and violent songs, dances, plays and all kinds of information. Look straight, don't glance left and right, look evil at people, and don't listen to inappropriate words. In addition, "you can't dress very slutty when you go out, and you can't dress too casually at home." Don't make friends with people with bad conduct, and don't indulge in the glitz of the outside world. All of the above are manifestations of "focusing on positive color".
If your behavior is frivolous, your eyes and expressions will be erratic. It's very artificial to have long hair at home, bare chest and back, and wear heavy makeup when going out. Say what you shouldn't say and see what you shouldn't see. This is that you can't "focus on positive color."
Only by concentrating positive colors and avoiding evil thoughts and behaviors can we prevent marriage from getting into trouble, be happy and be together forever. 1. Aunt's heart can't be lost.
Although my husband loves clouds, my aunt doesn't, which is called self-destruction. But what about my aunt's heart? Obedience is better than obedience.
3. Gu Yun didn't mean to, but it is right to obey orders. Obedience is better than ignorance. Do not violate right and wrong, fight for right and wrong. This is what Yi called Song.
Some people say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal mystery and very subtle. So where is the secret to solve this mystery?
We know that even if the husband loves his wife deeply, his parents-in-law don't like this daughter-in-law, which is morally harmful to the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, the daughter-in-law can't lose the heart of her in-laws, and she must strive to get the true love of her in-laws.
So what should we do? The answer lies in the song cong. "Qu" means humility and humiliation, perfect compromise, gentle admonition, and "Shun" means obedience. What the parents-in-law say is reasonable, yes, but still obey. Nothing my parents-in-law say is reasonable, but I still have to obey my wife. What the director puts forward here is the virtue of women, the virtue of respecting the elders and the virtue of bearing the burden of humiliation. The so-called reasonable requirement is training, and the unreasonable requirement is tempering. Don't argue right or wrong here, for breath.
But obedience has "righteousness" and the principle of right and wrong. Obedience is a humble attitude, but when what the elders do is unjust, the younger generation should say, "I kissed, my voice was soft, my voice was soft." . Afterwards, I can protest politely, when my in-laws are happy, or even with tears in my eyes. 1. A woman is proud of her husband, and menstruation loves herself. My aunt loves herself, and my uncle's sister respects herself.
I don't think my reputation has been ruined. One is my uncle and sister's heart, and I can't lose it.
Everyone knows that you can't lose an uncle and sister, but you can't ask them for relatives. It's also a cover
4. Harmony between people in the room is slander, and separation from the outside world is evil.
5. "Yi" said: "If two people get together, they will break off. A word stinks like blue. 」
6. Husband and wife, respect the enemy, be kind to others, and be kind to others. If you are a humble and obedient person, you can rely on righteousness to do good and help with kindness.
However, if you want to win the hearts of your uncle and sister, you'd better be modest and obedient. Modesty is the handle of virtue, and obedience is a woman's journey. Both reactions are enough to make peace.
A wife can get her husband's love, which comes from her in-laws' love. In-laws love their daughters-in-law, which stems from their brothers and sisters' love for their daughters-in-law, so they must live in harmony with their relatives. As the saying goes, "people in the room are harmonious and slander others, while those who leave outside are evil." This is the reason why everything goes well at home. I ching said, "if two people unite, their profits will be cut off." From the same heart, it smells like blue. " This is about-harmony is precious.
Husband's brother and sister-in-law, although not related to themselves, have deep blood relationship and affection, and they are relatives respected or loved by women. A good woman who is modest and obedient will certainly live in harmony with her husband's family.
The essence of "harmony" is "humility and obedience", humble attitude and submissive temperament. Modesty is the essence of virtue, and meekness is the virtue of women. Only in this way can we live in harmony with our relatives and be calm.
Conclusion: The seven commandments of women are regarded as "immortal words" and have a far-reaching influence in the long history of China. The speaker's earnest words, as far as today is concerned, are deeply rooted in the good intentions of the whole class, and are really the most authentic words she left to later women, from the heart.
Women's education is related to personal happiness, the virtue of future generations, the prosperity of national luck and world peace. I sincerely hope that this article can awaken people's cognition and conscience about women's education, and let them prosper the world and create peace together.