We have always believed that children are built by adults; Accepting this concept also means that we will have nowhere to play the arrogance caused by inferiority and oppression. Human childhood is very long. Probably no animal has such a long childhood as human. To put it short, it may be zero to six years old, and to put it longer, it will probably be twelve years old. You can't leave your mother at the age of twelve. According to the law, a child's real adult age is eighteen. During this period, children are in a very weak state, and adults must help them grow up. Helping children grow up does not mean that adults shape their spirit. In that case, the overall level of mankind will decline. Children don't need the kind of "indoctrination" of adults, they need the preparation of conditions, and children will absorb it themselves. Following this law of development, children will develop perfectly. The process of human growth is actually the process of psychological growth, not the process of intellectual growth, which is attached to psychological growth.

To love children, we must let them be full of the spirit of exploring the world. Q: Every parent will love his children, but how to really love them deserves serious discussion.

If parents don't love their children enough, many parents will protest and defend themselves, saying, "There is no such thing. I love my children very much. I sacrificed a lot of energy and time for my children. I have done everything for them ... "Why do people keep saying that they love children, but children feel that they have no love since childhood?

My parents said, "I love my children very much, and I have sacrificed a lot." This is within the consciousness. In life, we will find such a child who goes down the stairs without looking, and goes straight on. The child grew up under the excessive care of his parents or the elderly, and he has no way to measure his ability. This so-called love deprives children of their ability to distinguish, defend themselves and stand on their own feet. This kind of care is actually a kind of care for adults' self-psychology and ideas.

If you love children, you should let them stand on their own feet; If you love children, you should make them respect themselves. If you love children, let them be full of the spirit of exploring the world.

We often see this phenomenon. Once a child begins to be independent, parents will say, "This child is so stubborn!" ""Why is the child so disobedient? "In fact, children have to grow up! To grow up according to your own will, the child's will begins to contradict the parents' will, and you must learn to understand the needs of children's growth.

How can children be loved when they grow up? Give children the opportunity to grow up, let them feel your love, and provide conditions and help for every detail of their development and life. These must be based on your understanding of children's life development, which is love. Many parents know nothing about their children's growth. He always starts from his own growth experience, or from his own interests, and never knows how to start from the interests of children. For example, we never think that children's crying is great, and even think that it helps digestion. In fact, a large number of children's spontaneous behaviors have been stopped by adults. If it continues for a long time, we will find that many children are deprived of the right to grow up by their parents, and the opportunities for mental development are getting less and less. China has a saying: The only child is the little emperor. I especially disagree with this view. I don't think there is a little emperor in China. At least one thing, the emperor deserves great respect. Our child is not respected, and he is deprived of many rights. Some children in our kindergarten have a strange phenomenon after entering the park. They can't eat, go to the toilet or do anything. They have to rely on others to do everything. This age is the age when children like to do things by themselves. Without the development ability of hands, it will have an impact on the growth of children's minds and other aspects. At the parent-teacher meeting, we will say, "Because we love children so much, we helped them do it." Do we love ourselves too much or children too much? The reason why adults do things instead of children in this way is that they are afraid that children will bring trouble to themselves.

Children can't stop their activities for a minute from the age of zero to six, especially before the age of four. His touching, grasping, grasping and twisting are the requirements of his life development and the needs of his development in all aspects. This does not mean that he began to learn mathematics and Chinese characters to develop his mind. These seemingly meaningless activities are all the contents of children's all-round physical and mental development. If children are not satisfied in this respect, it means that they will not be smart, promising and happy. There is not a one-and-a-half-year-old child who does not like to eat by himself. But can children? Adults will find it too messy, too dirty and too troublesome. Even if children fight, they cannot have these rights. Children's own development is reduced and replaced by others' will, opinions and behaviors. In this way, children's attention is finally attracted to the outside, deviating from the track of their own and life development, and children begin to pay too much attention to others' views, expressions and hints ... Without personality, they lose their creativity.