In fact, educating children is really an artistic activity. If you don't understand education, even if you try your best, your child won't understand your good intentions for him. If you know how to educate, then educating children is like a natural thing, and you can grow up with them in the process of educating children. Now, Bian Xiao will share with you four wonderful tips for smart mothers to educate their children. Let's study together!
First, fully understand children.
Educating children is not nonsense. Sometimes mothers don't understand their children and often get angry because of their "mistakes". In fact, to educate children well, we must first start from the children themselves, and mothers should fully understand the children and understand the laws of their psychological development.
For example, when children are 4-5 years old, they like to imitate others. Of course, some special words can arouse children's interest, such as swearing. Therefore, when this child swears, many mothers think that he is uncivilized, burying his face in swearing and asking him to correct it. In fact, at this time, children don't know what mistakes they have made, because they don't even know what swearing is.
A clever mother knows her children. She knows that swearing by four or five-year-old children may be caused by the sensitive period of language. In fact, as long as she doesn't swear in front of the children and behave mediocre to them, the children won't find it interesting to swear and won't continue to swear.
Second, communicate with children in different tones.
It is normal for children to make mistakes when they are young. If the child makes a mistake, the mother always criticizes it, which not only makes the child angry, but also often backfires in educating the child.
Children are immature and often forbidden to do certain things, which will make them more curious. The more they are not allowed to do it, the more they want to do it.
So, mothers can change the way. Don't always use your own life experience to stop your child's exploration, but tell your child the danger of doing something and some of your own experiences in a gentle way, so that your child can really understand what to do and what not to do.
Third, establish rules with children.
Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang, so it is very important to make rules, but children are not rich in life experience and naturally don't know so many rules and regulations. It is not enough to teach children to relax and let them fiddle around. A mother must have principles.
Mothers can make rules with their children. For example, if you want to play with toys, you must finish your meal first. If you want to watch TV, you must go to bed before nine o'clock. If the child violates it, he should be given some punishment. Of course, this punishment does not mean beating and scolding children. For example, he can be punished for not watching cartoons for a day. Only when the principle is established can children's education be based.
Fourth, give children the opportunity to choose.
In fact, children are independent individuals with their own ideas and needs. Therefore, parents should not always help him arrange everything. Sometimes they can let their children make their own choices, let them know that every choice represents a kind of responsibility, and let them know how to choose and how to be responsible. After the child knows how to choose, the mother is relieved.
Important: A smart mother should know her children and educate them on the basis of full understanding. When educating, she should not condescend and put on a dignified appearance. Moreover, a smart mother should have principles and admit that children are independent individuals. Did you do all this?