Trap 1: Character education is not a moral lesson.

Trap 4: People who teach character should be perfect role models.

Children don't look at what we say, but at what we do most of the time. Even when they criticize, they will attack us with our own actions. "You did the same!"

Thank God, this makes us humble and willing to bow our heads and admit our imperfections, which is also a bridge to establish a good parent-child relationship. Children don't need a forever right parent, not to mention that we won't always be right, but if there is a person who is willing to grow up together, he can feel respect, treat himself as a person, have the possibility of communication, and are not a perfect dummy hanging in the sky, which can bring a harmonious parent-child relationship.

Trap 2: A person's heart can be changed through personality teaching.

Trap 3: Character education becomes behavior habit cultivation.

Trap 6: Character education has become a utilitarian purpose.

Simple language has no power. If you can say that millions of people have no love, it will become a clanging cymbal. Only life can change life.

There is a saying in education that one cloud pushes another cloud, and there is also a saying in church that life affects life. Our life is like a swift river. Everyone has different substances in the river, whether it is good or bad. The intersection of the two rivers is bound to have an impact. Is the impact good or bad?

The rest is like, pretend. The people respect me with their mouths, but their hearts are far away from me, and obedience is better than sacrifice. What does everything ultimately want? Is it a superficial form? Heart is the most important, life is the most important. No matter how fast or slow you walk, don't lose the core thing, then you lose the meaning of doing it. If you grasp the core thing, everything else can be mended, but if something goes wrong inside, no matter what the outer shell looks like, it will be deformed.

And if you do it for other purposes, the root cause is wrong.

Works of art have a purpose, so do we. Life is to glorify God and benefit people. If you deviate from the main idea, everything will change Even if there are so many departments in the hospital, it is still a holistic treatment, which affects the whole body. So do we. When we go back to the creation itself and find our own track, we can set everything right. Once emptiness is chaotic, darkness goes out, light comes, and light and darkness are separated.

Trap 5: use personality and grade children to criticize and judge.

Trap 7: emphasize love and acceptance, but ignore deliberate cultivation and carving.

The biggest feeling after listening to the class is that both children and ourselves are actually looking for unconditional and completely accepted love, but if there is comparative criticism and purposefulness, it will become stale. If the relationship is wrong, it will taste bad. Children first feel accepted and loved, and then there is the possibility of change.

Jesus is a good example. He attracts us with love instead of forcing us to change. He brings changes to life because he feels love.

What we need to do is to strike a balance between truth and love. If there is only truth, it will become cold. Like many churches, we can't see grace, but it is a cold rule. But if there is only love, we lack wisdom and balance. We should be as smart as snakes, but as docile as pigeons.

Character education, rather than life shaping, brings out the true face of people.

At the moment when sin entered the world, we all lost the image of God's glory. Soul fragments are displayed on everyone just because we can't see each other clearly because of pollution. All we have to do is find these small pieces of pollution, polish them bit by bit, and then the whole body will gradually become shiny.

I talked to Wan Yue not long ago. She said that the biggest difference between her studio and other studios is complete acceptance. No matter what kind of children you accept, it is easy to see the changes in their lives.

In the process of raising children and teaching others, we are also educating ourselves and telling us to be modest, grateful and learn to love.

Because I haven't married and had children, I haven't had a clear consciousness, but I was reminded today and suddenly felt that I should start with self-cultivation. When I have children, ta will set an example. I think what qualities children have to start from themselves.

I think the same is true of interpersonal communication. Many principles are common. Relationship comes first, things come second, emotions recede, humility comes down, mutual respect is given, and space for complete acceptance is given.

Beautiful mountains and rivers, beautiful rivers and seas, how beautiful your name is in the whole land.