Widowed education refers to parents' lack of education. Because of busy work and lack of time, the role of father seems to be absent in the process of children's education. The family is complete and widowed, leaving only the role of mother.
Deception education refers to the fact that the father usually ignores the children and suddenly comes here one day, disrupting the whole plan and regulations of the mother, neither playing the role of education nor disrupting the education of the mother.
The above two ways of family education are the lack of father's role. In addition, many fathers like to say these three sentences to their children, and the more incompetent the father is, the more he likes them.
One: I have no money.
Xiaoya doesn't have to take piano lessons recently. She was relieved and relaxed, but her mother was very sad. She insisted on playing the piano for three years and gave up when she said give up. I'm sorry.
Are you saying that Xiao Ya doesn't like piano? No, he is very talented at piano. He is unhappy every time he takes piano lessons, but every time he pays tuition, his father will say, "Qian Qian needs money every day. Girls are all losing money, I have no money! "
When her father said this, Xiao Ya felt that she was a sinner in this family, because her mother was also criticized endlessly by her father.
Number two: Go to your mother.
My Father-My father loves me like a mountain. My father loves me so much that I sit on the sofa every day, as heavy as a mountain. Although this sentence seems to be a joke, it tells a lot about dad's state in the family.
"Dad, where are my socks? Dad, I'm hungry. " Go find your mother. "Finally, the conversation between the child and his father evolved into" Dad, where is my mother? "So saying' Fuck you' often means that dad has poor living ability, low status at home and is incompetent.
Three: Look at other people's children.
Usually, the mother is a "nagging" role at home, and she is very concerned about the children's major events, whether it is food, clothing, housing and transportation or learning. Therefore, she often compares her academic performance with other children, and the children also know that her mother cares about herself and knows her own situation.
Dad is different. He is usually busy at work and knows nothing about his children's life and study. If he comes home and sees his child's report card, he will say, "why did you do so badly in the exam?" Look at other children ",which will directly hit the children's self-confidence, and feel that their efforts have not been rewarded, thus giving up on themselves. Such a petty father is doomed to be incompetent.
What effect does what dad often says have on children? The more incompetent my father is, the more he loves to say these three words. Experts say that children often say these three sentences, all of which are useless, insecure, fragile and low in adversity quotient. Without a father like Dashan, children naturally have no tough character.
What role should dad play in family education? 1 silent and warm
Dad should be the silent but warmest supporter behind the children. Whether in material life or spiritual world, the father should be the hardest support for the child. If he has no money, he must work hard to earn money and give his children the best material life. In the spiritual world, silence gives children the greatest support.
2 High-quality companionship
The reason why there will be education on widowhood and corpse cheating is because dad doesn't spend time with his children, even if he is busy. This kind of companionship doesn't let you play games around your children, but high-quality companionship, wholeheartedly playing toys, playing games, reading books and so on.
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