This may be unacceptable to many people, and it may be bold, but I think it is not only the face value of love at first sight, but also the feeling of the whole person, because when two people's magnetic fields are very close, they will have an inexplicable goodwill, which will make you cover each other with a layer of pink gauze in the whole relationship, and the goodwill will last well.
Of course, reason is still the most important and core thing in a love. The fundamental purpose of love is that two people are happy together, grow up better in love and be themselves better. If a love makes you lose your happiness and courage, it is undoubtedly a very unworthy thing, so economic independence and ideological independence are a girl's rational thinking attitude in another love. Don't get lost in sweet candy, it's important to give up on yourself. If marriage is a prerequisite, children will generally be considered. Only when you have a certain economic foundation, your future life will be safer and the pressure of having children will be less. Imagine if our children's diet, food, clothing, housing, hobbies, training courses and traveling abroad will increase our expenses after we get married and have children. We may be a little financially nervous, but are we willing to let our children suffer?
The divorce rate is very high now, not to mention the breakup rate.
Most people don't marry their first boyfriend or girlfriend, so after breaking up with their ex-men and women, they are more or less suspicious of love and have less confidence in themselves. If I can be sure that you love me all my life and will accompany me to the end for whatever reason, then I am willing to pay for you without any troubles. The question is who has the confidence now. When I'm not sure+I don't know if it's worth it, I will naturally choose safer.
In the past, people only knew the people in a village or even a town. Nowadays, people can meet people from further afield and see life in places they have never been. When we know that there are many choices, we will become more demanding, because everyone thinks that they deserve better choices, and many women are very capable of making money by themselves. Women can make their own money. Even if their income is increasing, their consumption level will increase. At this time, it is difficult for her to accept that the quality of life will decline after marriage.
In feudal society, due to male chauvinism, women were required to obey men absolutely. Women can't show their faces Women cannot be strong. The more weak a woman is, the easier it is to arouse men's desire for protection and conquest. Therefore, women do not need to support a family, but only need to silently take care of their children and do housework in a family. Women are virtuous without talent, and women also regard weakness as beauty. If a woman can't shoulder the heavy responsibility, it is allowed at that time. Of course, women's status is relatively low. This is also an inevitable trend. If a woman is too strong, she will be regarded as an alien in that era.
But now it is a socialist society. With the development of society, women can have the same educational and living conditions as men and live in the same equal environment. As an adult, women can basically be independent and join all walks of life freely, and have made certain achievements. They stand out from all walks of life, not only becoming stronger, but also becoming beautiful. Therefore, strength and beauty are not mutually opposing individuals, but can be compatible. Women's efforts and achievements have been recognized by society and many men.