You want to get your lost feelings back. I tried my best to touch each other, but all I got was cold eyes. Give two suggestions: 1, give space moderately, chase up and kill down. It will only increase the pressure and hate you more. 2. Don't betray yourself to please each other.

People's emotions are generated and run in the brain, which is inevitably restricted and interfered by many factors inside the brain, thus deviating from the value it reflects to some extent. This deviation of emotions is the relative independence of emotions, which is mainly manifested in the following aspects:

1, asynchronism in time If the value pattern changes, it will take some time for the corresponding new emotions to form and develop. In other words, the emergence, development and disappearance of new emotions can't keep up with the emergence, development and disappearance of new values, which needs to be delayed for a period of time.

Step 2 measure differences

If the value changes, it is difficult to keep pace with the intensity of emotion. For example, some women don't hate their beloved man very much after being hurt or abandoned by him; On the contrary, some people get angry just because a few words are not speculative, and they will regret it afterwards.

3. Limitations of the method.

The changing way of value relationship is infinite, but the reflecting way of emotion is limited. People sometimes don't feel good about some complex and implied value relationships and their changes, showing a state of indifference. For example, when people are hurt by some toxic substances, they often don't feel it; People are sometimes kept in the dark when they are criticized; When the purchased goods are "gently" slaughtered by others, people may also thank him for his "preferential" price; When faced with extinction, people may still enjoy it.

Emotion is not completely passive to value, it can produce a certain degree of reaction, mainly as follows:

First, emotion can prevent, inhibit, induce, transfer, strengthen or induce people's need for a certain value to a certain extent, and they can choose their own living environment and development direction relatively independently. People sometimes consciously suppress their lust for a certain value, and over time, this lust may really basically disappear.

People's objective demand for this value has indeed changed or shifted; People are usually willing to take the initiative to help those who feel good subjectively, and take the initiative to establish a mutually beneficial relationship with them, while avoiding those who feel bad subjectively, and even deliberately interrupting the existing mutually beneficial interest relationship; People who work or live in a certain place are unhappy, sometimes they will resign or move, and they can quickly adapt to the new life and working environment.

Second, driven by emotion, people can react to things and add value to them. This is the fundamental difference between human beings and other animals. Of course, this kind of reaction can't be arbitrarily and infinitely imposed, but it can only be conditional and relatively limited, and it is subject to the decisive role of value on emotion as a whole. People's value creation activities driven by emotion must strictly follow the basic law of value and be carried out within its permitted scope.