1. Why are parents incapable? Parents should be honest with their children about their family situation and admit that they are "incompetent". I often tell Hao Bao that my mother can't do it because her mother didn't work hard enough in high school. How are all the good students in her senior high school entrance examination now? Because my mother was afraid of hard work, she chose to go home after graduation and work in a comfortable and comfortable environment. My mother worked hard when she graduated from college, and now she has bought a school district in Beijing. Let children understand the role of learning and the meaning of suffering through parents' cases.
I'm sorry I gave birth to you, but time is irreversible. I'm really sorry that such incompetent parents gave birth to you. It is your misfortune to be reborn into this family, but can it be changed? What if I can't change? Do you want to copy your parents' incompetent life? You are still young, your life is up to you, think for yourself!
3. Who did your rebellion hurt? If you don't study, is it rebellious and hurts your parents? Parents have jobs to support themselves, and they can also provide for the elderly with pensions in the future. You don't have to support them. Whether you study or not has little to do with your parents, and your rebellion does not affect your parents. Did your parents benefit from your success? Even if you are admitted to a good university and have a good job, your parents will be old or even gone when you succeed. Can they share your success? I can't. So you have good and bad. Who are you studying for? Add it yourself. You know whose life you wasted because of your rebellion.
Conclusion:
The rebellious period of children usually ends at the age of 17- 18. However, if parents stick to the general direction, pay less attention to blame and respect understanding, the rebellious period will not be too obvious and may soon pass.
Parents should communicate with their children more when they are growing up. Fathers might as well tell their rebellious stories to their children like friends, and mothers should do more logistics support. Both parents can help children through this stage together, so that children can have a healthy and upward attitude to face life and study.