Knowing that Bao Wenjing wanted to take care of the children alone, her mother always showed anxiety, explaining in detail what was in the refrigerator and how to use the food supplement machine. Bao Wenjing said she knew, and her mother asked, Oh, you will?
Bao Wenjing said, if there is anything, send WeChat. Mom's answer is only one: fart.
Later, when Bao Wenjing was taking care of her children, she had many grievances and questions in her heart, and she didn't want to talk to her mother again, because she felt that if she called her mother, her mother would blame her for not taking care of her children.
She said in an interview: "When I am nervous, should my mother comfort me, encourage me and tolerate me?" But she never considered me, and I felt very wronged. "
"My mother is my closest relative, and it will really stimulate me if my relatives belittle me."
As an adult, Bao Wenjing still feels wronged because of her mother's belittling. So how much injustice and inferiority should those children who have been "educated" have in their hearts?
Some people in Zhihu say that "without strike education, a strike is a strike".
Maybe parents will never know how much damage their blows have done to their children. In fact, it can run through the years powerfully, like a needle, like a throat.
Such children, even if they grow up to be excellent people, can't erase the negative impact of childhood shadows on life, even the lifelong impact. Children who grow up under the attack of education may also become parents who attack education after becoming parents.
Yan Yuan, an educator, once said: It is better to win a prize than to win one. Parents' attitude towards their children hides their future. We might as well know more about their advantages, recognize them and be patient. Maybe they are far better than we thought!
As parents, we can no longer be parents who attack children. If we really want our children to be excellent, strong and confident, we should accept and love them unconditionally, and this kind of love and acceptance will become the biggest battle shield in his life. When children are in a bad mood, you can play Rove Cleopatra with them. Rover Cleopatra has hundreds of themes, diverse styles and diverse ways of playing. When children are doing modeling, their hands are more and more flexible, their thinking is more and more active, their learning concentration is improved, and their parent-child relationship is getting better and better.