At 9 o'clock last night, when I was preparing lessons, I heard a man cursing the child outside the door, as well as the child's rebellious voice and the sound of opening and closing the door. My heart was pounding.

The family across the street beat the children again.

I quickly put on a mask and went out to persuade. When my angry father saw me, he calmed down a little and closed the door.

Later, I heard the hostess shout, "You'll regret it all your life!" " Then, it is the sound of a kitchen knife colliding with a hard object. ...

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This couple is in their thirties, and their children are about 1 1 years old, one year older than me. A few years ago, since I moved next door to my house, there was a fierce quarrel next door, sometimes the sound of furniture colliding, and sometimes the crying of children ... Every time it made my heart ache.

Because they let me see myself.

My current nuclear family and family of origin.

My father often does this to me. As for me, I occasionally treat my boss like this. Although the frequency is very low, I am far less rude than this father to his children, but in retrospect, it is enough for me to bear the pain of gouging out my heart.

I have always hated my father's way of education, but sadly, after ten years as a mother and fifteen years as a teacher, strict education has still become something engraved in my bones. Although I never come out most of the time, as long as I am in a bad state, I will be restless and hurt myself.

Think about my rebellion and depression, think that I don't want to call my father now, just want to call my warm mother, that's all.

What comes out of the stick is never a dutiful son, but a rebellious son.

If there is a counterexample, it is because parents give their children more warmth and equal treatment in private, rather than the harshness that outsiders sometimes see.

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Then, I saw the article "Strict education is dangerous education" written by Yin Jianli in "The most beautiful education is the simplest". Every word struck a chord with me. Excerpts are as follows:

"Many so-called education experts, scholars and famous teachers can't get through their professional knowledge and wisdom. Although they verbally advocate concepts such as "respect" and "equality", in their logic, children are ignorant, reckless and irregular, while adults are decent, orderly and correct. Therefore, adults have an obligation to help children establish rules and eliminate problems and mistakes brought about by children's nature in the bud, and prevent problems before they happen. "

"'Stick teaching' is just a spiritual understanding, and it is the dross part of China's traditional culture, so it can't be elegant. It can be defined as: beating and scolding children is incompetent education and shameless education. "

"In recent years, some people have hyped the strict education of' Tiger Mother' and' Wolf Dad' into the traditional education in China. This not only discredits the traditional education in China, but also confuses a few parents, hurts some children and has no positive contribution to the progress of mankind. "

"The real reason why people can't put down strict education is that they can't put down inexplicable hatred subconsciously. This is why people who have experienced the education of beating and cursing since childhood are often supporters of stick education and often treat their children's teachers or parents severely. They think they are "educating" their children, but they are actually venting their hatred accumulated since childhood. "

"The so-called' strict education' has nothing to do with education, but a fig leaf for some personality defects of adults. People who plausibly advocate stick education are often moral hypocrites, morally hypocritical and even deceiving themselves, so that they can feel at ease when imposing various punishments on their children. "

"There is nothing wrong with children, just immature. If you always think that the child is "wrong", it is your own fault; If the child you meet is hopeless, it is because you made the wrong request or have been treating him in the wrong way. In my opinion, education is a matter of "peaches and plums don't say anything, and the willow blossoms are bright and another village", which needs to be solved by "sneaking into the night with the wind and moistening things silently". "

"Children are very fragile, and growth only needs encouragement and no punishment. All severe treatment hides some kind of harm. Parents should not only put down their sticks, but also put down their sticks in their hearts. No stick in your heart is more important than no stick in your hand. A tolerant and sincere education will always be the best, most touching and most influential for children. "

"Children who are often criticized learn to be harsh: children who are often beaten and scolded learn to hate: children who are often criticized easily become inferior; Children who are often restricted will become more and more rigid and stubborn ...' example is more important than words' is a truth conclusion in education, which has been verified by time and countless events. Strict education itself is also a demonstration. If adults often criticize and scold children, how to cultivate their friendliness and peace?

Any rude and harsh practices in education are groundless. It has no foundation and source in the educational wisdom accumulated by human beings for thousands of years, and it has no moral foundation in real life. Do you agree that beating children is a touchstone, which can test people's understanding level in education? "

"Everything in life, decent means can produce good results. This is especially true for education. There is no wrong means to achieve positive results. "

"Respecting children is a natural law, a command of God and the most basic law of education. Although the purpose of strict education is to build a magnificent palace for children, it can only create a mental cage in the end, trapping children in inferiority, irritability or cowardice, and causing lasting internal injuries to children. It is no exaggeration to say that it is a dangerous education. "

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The above words are full of words, be a mother and a teacher, remember and practice.