Gao Yan value: In addition to natural beauty, long-term maintenance and care make her look younger than her peers.
Fashion: Long-term shopping has cultivated super-sensitivity and excellent ability to distinguish fashion.
Broad horizons: Thanks to her well-off family, she and her husband have eaten all the high-end restaurants in Shanghai and often travel around the world with their children. Broad horizons, decent manners and appropriate clothes will increase your aura, keep calm and form your own unique temperament.
Potential elite qualities:
When Luo Zijun begged Chen Shengjun for the last time in the cafe and heard him say "I love Lingling hopelessly", Luo Zijun left a sentence: "You once told me!" And then resolutely leave. Shut yourself in the house for two days and start planning your future.
According to the court agreement, Chen proposed to replace the house to make up the difference of 200 thousand yuan, which made a big fuss for the people. At the reminder of Tang Jing, Zijun agreed to get 500,000 yuan compensation within two years. In the face of Chen's parents' emotional offensive, Zijun did not give up his principles; On the loss of housing price difference, Zijun did not continue to entangle with Chen.
Luo Zijun handled this relationship and follow-up issues neatly, without any sloppiness, cutting off the past and facing the future.
In the high-end brand clothing store, Michelle, a college classmate, has changed from Party A to Party B; The so-called impulse is the devil ... between sensibility and rationality, Zijun firmly shifts his thoughts to rationality. Zijun knows exactly what he wants. What she wants is the custody of the children and proof that she has the ability to work and raise the children. What are these sarcasm and embarrassment before this ability is proved?
There is an old saying: let others go and go yourself! Rational mentality, let Luo Zijun start nirvana rebirth.
Going out of his comfort zone for the first time: In order to get custody of his son, Zijun immediately sought the most basic service work. Zijun was directly brushed in the first job search, and after the second supermarket convenience store was inexplicably dismissed by customers, he was not discouraged and depressed. With the help of He Han, the experience advantage of buying luxury goods made her get a white-collar position in the service industry.
In life, it is difficult for most women to do this. After several interviews, they usually go home. Although I am not a princess in my life, I already have a princess's heart. The princess in the sky suddenly became Cinderella on earth. The huge psychological gap is unbearable. Most women are just like Luo Mu said: Don't divorce anyway, put this long-term meal ticket on the stand. Obviously, the counterattack in the plot will come to an abrupt end in life!
Going out of my comfort zone for the second time: In order to get rid of the entanglement of Laojin, I resigned decisively without finding a next home. Instead of continuing to develop in the same industry, I went to a more challenging industry and completed a qualitative leap in my life.
In life, this series of changes, job hunting and job hopping, not to mention the lack of material support from family members, are impossible for a single mother who is nearly 40 years old. You know, after the age of 35, people's minds are solidified, their working environment is fixed, and their life circle is shaped. People are always full of fear of the unknown world. What's more, middle-aged people have long lost the enthusiasm of young people. Coupled with family worries, the cost of children's growth education, and the time cost that must be invested in raising children, so many concerns make me unable to make radical decisions.
Walking on the edge of the comfort zone and looking at the possible future, most people will hesitate and finally miss an excellent opportunity to change their lives. For middle-aged people, getting out of the comfort zone requires not only foresight, but also the courage to live and die, and the courage to be desperate.
Luo Zijun resigned for the first time and faced two job choices: high-end department stores continued to sell shoes; Su research company.
Continue to sell shoes: Zijun is easy to handle. Originally a sales champion, plus she knows the psychology of luxury consumers, this job is just like Zijun said, with a good working environment, no pressure, and taking care of children, which really fits Zijun's life. Plus the ex-husband's living allowance, work and life should be easy. Even Chen thinks this situation is the most perfect.
Research company: Xiao Bai, a novice, works hard and often works overtime, but there is huge room for future development.
He Han's words: Work is like playing chess, one step at a time, three steps at a time, depending on the overall situation. His analysis helped Zijun see the pattern of the problem. Zijun did not blindly follow his heart. After careful consideration, he chose a research company. She doesn't like this job, but a platform that is extremely beneficial to her personal growth.
In life, are we tempted by immediate interests? Or choose a direction with better prospects in the future? This ability to choose needs constant study and exercise. Many times, due to the limitation of our own mode of thinking, we can't make a more favorable judgment on the future.
Perhaps, many people will say that Luo Zijun can make such a choice because she has a He Han around her.
What does He Han stand for? He represents an idea with high vision and depth, which you don't have in your daily life. Where can we get this idea? That comes from our usual reading habits, studying more and thinking deeply. Now there are various learning articles and online learning in the official account of WeChat, where you can also find positive friends, who may be the future greetings around you.
In the research company, Luo Zijun took advantage of Su's mentality of "offering sacrifices to bodhisattvas" and chose a more powerful platform for his future development-Miss Wu, an enhanced version of the female version of He Han. Zijun's efforts, positive working attitude and continuous improvement of self-worth have won the favor of nobles. It turns out that her behavior has created a strong link in her personal career.
Working in a luxury store means that Zijun has left Chen's protection and started to live independently. Teacher Wu's appreciation of Zijun's works means that Zijun no longer needs the protection of He Han and Tang Jing, is completely independent in the workplace, and begins to establish his own strong personal relationship.
At work, I often hear many similar complaints: I can't get the appreciation of my boss, but there are always swift horses and Bole doesn't. Instead of waiting to be discovered by Bole, it is better to be a clever swift horse and run to Bole's eyes. The boss who really does things is talented, hates flattering employees and appreciates down-to-earth subordinates. Once they meet the right opportunity, they will generously lend a helping hand and provide them with a broader space.
Zijun was able to join the information group because of her attitude and distinct principles of being a man, which was recognized by Teacher Wu. Zijun has a precious good character-sincere and unpretentious, which is why Tang Jing is willing to do anything for her.
Tang Jing left school and entered the workplace, struggling to survive in this treacherous environment, and Zijun's character is a pure land for Tang Jing, which is why she is willing to protect it. In life, Zijun showed sincere care and love for his mother and sister. Even Chen said to Lingling, "Zijun is simple and needs me to protect her, but I'm human and I'm really tired ..."?
At work, we are all afraid of meeting disobedient colleagues, especially those who stab people in the back in the face, and even more exclude those who have calculation, and always involuntarily move closer to aboveboard people. Throughout history, through the ages, what really makes people go far is a person's good character.
Imagine a person with strong rational thinking, independent spirit, strong professional ability, hard work, high value, elegant clothes, integrity and sincerity, enthusiasm and kindness, and clear principles in life. Such a person, whether at work or in life, or among friends, will become the object that everyone is eager to communicate with, and his career and family will be successful!
A smooth life is of course a beautiful life. But the life that has experienced storms, crossed stormy waves and finally saw rainbows is the most perfect life.
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The First Half of My Life: A Classic of Daughter Education
(Zuckerberg once said: completion is better than perfection, thanks to Xiaoqing's proofreading, which makes my article more perfect)