Parents of our generation often "talk about sex", which directly led to the lack of sex education in our childhood.
But the terrible thing is that the bad guys will not let the baby go because the parents' education is not in place.
According to the statistics of the United Nations, 10% of girls in the world have been sexually assaulted to varying degrees, while the figure for boys is 0.82%. This amazing proportion is about the same as the number of people in a kindergarten class (20-30), and there may be a baby who has been sexually assaulted to varying degrees.
Some psychologists said, don't deliberately avoid children's sexual problems, and suggest that parents guide their children to learn sexual knowledge in a natural state. At the same time, sex education for children should be started in kindergarten.
In order to change the current predicament of sex education, the most important thing is to change the concept of teachers and parents.
The daughter was curious and asked, "Mom, where did I come from?"
What I told you then was:
"There are many tadpoles in the boy's body, and there is a small house in the girl's body. Whoever runs to the small house first wins. After the first tadpole goes in, the door of the house closes.
Then in the small house, the tadpoles grow and grow, and finally they grow into babies! This is how you were born. "
After listening to my explanation, my daughter said, "I also have a small house in my body, but I am still young and will have a baby when I grow up." "
Parents should treat children's questions correctly, spread sex education to children clearly and clearly, and carry out correct sex moral education for children.
1. How do boys have sex education?
Father is the best person to educate boys about sex.
How many fathers think that sex education is a mother's business, but how many fathers can understand the hardships of mothers taking care of their children?
In the process of sex education, dad is also an indispensable role, but in many families, it is difficult for dad to talk about sex with his children, but in fact, if mom and dad help their children with sex education, it will bring better results.
Remember to see such a story:
A father found his son curious about genitals, stared at him all the time in the shower, and searched online for how to make JJ thick and big. He chose to take a bath with his children to help his son understand what genitals are.
After taking a few baths and explaining it, I found that the child was no longer so curious about genitals, so I asked his father for advice if there was any problem. He is really a great father.
In fact, the father also did a lot of ideological struggles before he started. He was a little embarrassed to take a bath with his children, but he was much calmer when he thought of taking his children to take a bath often.
At the same time, some sex education knowledge has been prepared to help children understand the genitals and their functions and functions.
However, not every parent can calmly explain to their children. More importantly, when children are curious, they should quickly divert their attention and let them not think about sex.
Maybe the child didn't think about it at that time, but the child's curiosity about sex will not stop. Instead of letting children explore by themselves, it is better for parents and children to study and understand together.
2. How do girls have sex education?
Jacky Cheung once said:
"Once I took off my clothes and took my daughter to take a shower. She was three or four years old at that time. I explained everything she asked. "
Therefore, sex education is nothing to be ashamed of. Please take off your "colored glasses" about sex education, look at children's curious questions from their perspective and tell them your knowledge about sex education. If you encounter unexplained things, you can tell them and we can explore together.
Once in the hospital, I saw a father constantly scolding a 15-year-old girl, calling her disrespectful and shameless, and losing his face. My daughter listened without saying a word.
A middle-aged woman was squatting beside the girl, wiping her tears. It should be her mother.
I really want to tell this father that it is not the child's fault, but she is still precious.
In the movie Juno, Juno, a high school student aged 16, got pregnant unexpectedly. She decided to give birth to a child to a family that can't have children, and then told her father and stepmother about her pregnancy and future plans.
Although the family was surprised, they were all calm. Juno's stepmother quickly took out a pen and paper and began to plan to supplement her with vitamins and make an appointment for a doctor's examination, hoping Juno would be healthy.
Juno's father decided to accompany her to meet the adoptive parents of the future child, for fear that she would be cheated by adults. Her stepmother also told Juno that it was not a bad thing, but a gift from God. Later, something happened to Juno. Dad stressed, "You know I will always love and support you. No matter what kind of trouble you are in. "
After watching the movie, a mother said, This movie reminds me of things I never thought of before.
If I have a daughter in the future, I will definitely show her this film. I hope she will always trust me and tell me everything. I believe I will help her solve the problem together.
Finally, parents are advised to give sex education to their children as soon as possible, otherwise the older the children are, the harder it is to talk.
Parents should also create an open environment at home so that children can freely express their feelings and concerns.
When children ask questions related to "sex", even if you are unprepared, there is no need to avoid them. The correct way is to explain your views openly and express your values to your children.