First of all, in front of the TV
If you find it difficult to find the right time to talk about "sex" with your children in your life, you are wrong. There are too many clues in life, about men and women, about sex, about differences. Television programs are an example. Whether it is children's favorite news, cartoons, variety shows or even idol dramas, we often see topics about boys and girls, good health and intimate relationships interspersed among them, some of which are positive and some are negative. At this time, parents can provide their children with appropriate sexual knowledge in a relaxed and humorous tone. There is no need to make a mountain out of a molehill Don't forget, you are still enjoying this program. At a small point, reminding to correct wrong information, extending important concepts, or connecting with life situations can not only provide facts, but also increase children's opportunities to practice self-judgment on these contents.
Second, reading and dialogue.
At present, many books about gender relations and sex education are not suitable for school-age children to read; In fact, it is easy for older children to browse more novels and cartoons containing sexual topics in bookstores, and the quality is mixed, which is difficult to filter. Parents are advised to accompany their children to find good books, and then read, observe and think together to gain more correct knowledge. When children have further hobbies and puzzles, it is the best time to discuss when they ask questions or start a dialogue. You can know what his main problems are, where these problems come from, and how well he understands them. At the same time, it won't be too embarrassing to discuss reading content or topics. However, remind parents to be patient and listen to their children carefully first.
Third, guide children to appreciate their own growth and build self-confidence.
The physical development of school-age children will gradually make them pay attention to their looks, their characteristics and whether they are liked by everyone. Especially at this stage, children usually form a strong and stable gender stereotype, and the idea that "other girls are …" and "boys just want to …" becomes an important indicator of self-evaluation. However, in the process of development, it is important to have enough nutrition, physical and mental health, the potential to develop and learn various skills, and at the same time establish
Positive self-independence and identity. Parents are advised to avoid preventing their children from talking about their health, and not to praise or criticize their children with gender indicators. On the contrary, we can encourage children in many life segments, guide them to see their own development, observe their own progress, rejoice in their growth, truly respect and appreciate themselves and others, and let them feel their own value and build their self-confidence.
How do children "safely" spend adolescence?
Children enter adolescence, with the maturity of brain and body organs, their life experience deepens, anxiety and curiosity are intertwined, and their psychology is extremely unstable. How to make children spend adolescence safely has always been a concern of parents. How to give them the right medicine? Let's have a look.
Personality performance of adolescent children;
Children who resist adolescence are extremely resistant. They often get excited, lose their temper and disagree with adults. This is because their self-awareness has begun to be established and they should do things according to their own wishes. Adults with a little restraint will have rebellious psychology.
Puzzlement between ideal and reality Adolescent children have broad vision, enhanced observation and improved sensitivity. They looked at the new world with curious eyes. If they find that there is a big difference from what they have learned in books, they will be confused between ideal and reality.
Sense of inferiority Because of the enhancement of self-awareness, they often look at themselves, and sometimes they think they are inferior because of their small defects in appearance and small failures in study, and they think too much about others, resulting in a sense of inferiority and becoming withdrawn.
Showing one's children in adolescence is very vanity. They wear gorgeous clothes, in order to show themselves, grandstanding among their classmates. Although this tendency is a normal phenomenon in adolescence, we should guide it correctly, otherwise it is easy to go astray in order to satisfy vanity.
Paying attention to the opposite sex Because of the stimulation of sex hormones, adolescent children pay extremely strong attention to the opposite sex. The opposite sex has become the central topic of students' discussion. Some children secretly read sex books, while others try to establish one-on-one communication between men and women.
In view of the above reasons, first of all, parents should understand that it is normal for children to have some changes in their daily lives, which is the embodiment of adolescent psychological changes in action. Parents don't need to pay too much attention and worry, and don't over-suppress some unrealistic thoughts and behaviors of their children. Otherwise, it will cause psychological estrangement between children and their parents and increase their psychological burden.
More importantly, parents should treat their children with love. If parents just scold blindly, it will aggravate the opposition between children and parents. As parents, they should take the initiative to talk with their children, care about their studies, listen to their ideals, praise and affirm their children, build their trust in their parents, understand their troubles and puzzles in the conversation, prescribe the right medicine and find out the correct way to eliminate their troubles. You should also contact the teacher in time, let him participate in class work and sports activities, divert his attention, and let the children live a full life every day.