So how did the emperor raise children? Let's take the successful emperor Li Shimin as an example to see how he educated his children, whether he succeeded or failed.
In April of the seventeenth year of Zhenguan, Prince Li Chenggan may have been the emperor's successor for too long, but he was just a successor. Seeing his father's power and prestige, everyone obeyed him. He was envious and jealous, and his mouth kept watering. When can I be so great? So I had an idea. The more I think about it, the more unbalanced I feel cheated. Although it can be said that one person is above ten thousand people, in the eyes of the wise, he is only one of the biggest puppets. My father's old fox minions must have laughed at themselves more than 10 thousand times in the dark, and I don't know when the old man will be called by the king of hell, so I simply made a rebellion, of course, cricket. In other words, the children of the royal family were deprived of their civil rights, similar to today's newspapers leaving the father-son relationship, but the political damage was greater, and leaving the father-son relationship may not deprive them of their political rights. However, the expulsion of royal citizenship also ensured the lifelong deprivation of political rights, leaving a tragic situation in which people and money were empty. Therefore, it is easy to impulsively say that I am young and energetic, and I am not happy to be the emperor's father. Who do you expect to be loyal to?
Alas! The ancients said, endure for a while, avoid worries for a hundred days, endure for a while and be calm. You are too impulsive and brave to eat hot tofu. You have read that countless great fathers gave you the wrong name, but you are also recognized as the smartest and burly prince in Li Shimin, so you should bear Gan Kun firmly. Finally, I couldn't stand the temptation of power and played tricks with my father.
Since then, the great leader Li Shimin has re-examined the issue of leadership qualifications. Is he clever but disobedient, or weak but obedient? This really troubled the leader for a long time, because both kinds of people have their own fatal wounds, but after Li Chenggan, the prince who wanted to "rebel rationally", he finally made up his mind to appoint Li Zhi, the son who obviously didn't adapt to a little weakness in the brutal political struggle of the law of the jungle, as the prince, although he knew that being weak in the political struggle and being soft on women was actually an opportunity to defeat his political enemies.
So later, he personally denied that Lee Tae, the most learned prince, and Li Ke, the most capable prince, were princes, and finally determined that Li Zhi, the ninth son who was the kindest, the weakest and the least suitable to be an emperor, was the heir of the emperor. This is a bit funny. Anyway, for a smart person like Li Shimin, you must do something puzzling. Nothing you can do can stop it.
In this world, sometimes you don't understand. You can only do things that are obviously inappropriate. I have no choice. Whether it is sad or happy, only the parties themselves know. It is estimated that there have been many political violations in this situation.
After Li Zhi, who is careful and kind as the grandson of his mother, the empress dowager, becomes a prince, Li Shimin's first task is to train him to be a qualified * * *. Li Shimin, who has spent his life in officialdom, knows that this is the arena of the jungle. If you are not careful, you will be eaten by your opponent as a snack, so political enlightenment has become a top priority. The emperor's family education is finally about to begin, and his parenting experience will be made public.
Of course, you didn't expect the emperor's parenting experience to be so awesome. In fact, he is similar to the ordinary people's adopted son method, although it is not as low-end as the "stick policy", thinking that there is a dutiful son under the stick. However, the most commonly used method in Li Shimin is strict discipline. He thinks he dotes on his favorite fourth son, Lee Tae. Finally, following in the footsteps of his mother and brother, he was demoted for competing for the throne.
In this way, Li Zhi's example officially began, because Li Zhi was also brought up by Li Shimin.
During the dinner, Li Shimin interminably said to Li Zhi: "Farmers' uncles planted rice seedlings, sowed in spring and harvested in autumn, how much sweat they shed and how much meat they lost before they ushered in the harvest season. As managers, we should cherish the strength of the people, do not seize the farming season, let them reduce the burden of corvee, rest and do nothing, and let them work with peace of mind. Only by not delaying the farming season can we fill the national treasury and have a mouth to eat. Do you think food comes out of your pocket? " Li Shimin said to Li Zhi seriously. One of the great charms of Tang poetry is "Who knows that every grain tastes bad". Hehe, what a great central "three rural policies"!
When Li Shimin and Li Zhi were riding horses, Li Shimin lost no time in saying to him, "When riding horses, we always like to gallop away, and we can't wait to see the Chang 'an flowers all in one day. In fact, riding a horse is also learned. Horses and people have a strong rest, so we must love them as ourselves. It is also a conscious animal. Don't tell it to death and make it exhausted, so that you can have a horse to ride, let it serve you and save your strength. "Ah, what a vivid metaphor. You are good at using the little things around you and cutting into the little things in life. It is very appropriate to be small and broad. It is the same as another great parenting teacher, Liu Bei, who taught Dou, the son of a fool, "Don't do evil for trifles, don't do good for trifles".
The following is Li Shimin's greatest parenting experience and his most attractive sentence.
When Li Shimin took Li Zhi on a boat trip, he said to him while it was hot, "Of course, traveling by boat is very comfortable for us. Due to the thrust of the water, the boat can swim freely on the river and enjoy the beautiful scenery and anecdotes on both sides. This boat is like a monarch, water is for the people, water can carry a boat, and it can also overturn it. You will be the monarch who will take over the revolutionary burden from me in the future. You must deal with the relationship between water and ship, and do a good job of mermaid and water. " Alas, what a good revolutionary ship is at the helm. Sailing in the sea depends entirely on the helmsman Li Shimin. You are a qualified helmsman. Of course, the water won't upset you and make you capsize in the gutter. You are willing to send you to the other side of success to realize your eternal reputation, because the people also benefit from it!
Hehe, this dragon Li Shimin is also very angry. It must have a strong lung capacity. Isn't this kindergarten teacher's parenting education? Li Shimin is also a monarch who attaches great importance to education, because he can find time to demonstrate education in this way.
Then let's continue the story of the emperor's godson.
On one occasion, Li Shimin and Li Zhi came back from a business trip. Because it was too hot, Li enjoyed the cool under a big tree after supper. Li Shimin saw this, so he began to educate the prince politically.
"Son, come here, you know many big trees are not very straight, most of them are sideways, except for a few poplars. But the bent trunk can be sawed straight after being bent straight by carpenter Mo Dou, and processed into very useful boards. Similarly, many people have produced many fallacies and distorted themselves because of monopolizing power. However, if they can accept effective supervision and listen carefully to the correct advice, just like Qumu accepted the straight saw and became a useful person, then it is not far from leaving Ming Chengzu. " Li Shimin is worthy of being a great writer. He teaches people all kinds of things, has arguments, and is good at supporting his arguments with appropriate arguments. The metaphor is also very apt and handy, and it can be said that every sentence is reasonable. You must admit that he is a bit like God, right?
Li Shimin's third son, Li Ke, is very clever, with his father's demeanor, ability and courage, and won his father's favor. Li Shimin always praised Li Ke for being as brave as he was in front of other ministers, proud of having a father and a son, but it also made him arrogant and extravagant. 1 1 winter, he was transferred to the secretariat of Anzhou, and often went out hunting, which caused great losses to the crops of Anzhou people. Li Shimin flew into a rage and immediately ordered the dismissal of Li Ke. After Li Ke dismissed from office and returned to Beijing, Li Shimin talked to Li Ke alone: "It is human nature for a father to love his son and teach him a lesson. It would be nice to be filial. If you don't follow the instructions and forget the etiquette, you will bring your own destruction. A father loves his son, but what will he do? " It means that it is human nature for a father to love his son. Needless to say, everyone knows what it is. It's better to be a dutiful son. I want to welcome you with both hands. However, if you don't listen to instructions and ignore etiquette, you will be killed. No matter how much your father loves you, there is nothing he can do. I think that after the death of Emperor Wu of Han Dynasty, Emperor Zhao of Han Dynasty succeeded to the throne, and the prince Liu Dan refused to accept it, which caused a big scene. Huo Guang had to kill him. You must never learn from Liu Dan, or you will be beheaded like him. This is why Sun Chang was later killed by Wuji. At that time, when Li Shimin wanted him to be a prince, he told Sun Chang Wuji that Li Ke would treat you like a relative, but Sun Chang Wuji waited on him with severe punishment. Li Ke cursed Sun Chang Wuji before he died.
Wow, what a clear-cut father, he can be said to be distressed but responsible. Such a tutor is absolutely qualified.
Because Li Chenggan and Lee Tae were fighting for the title of prince, Li Shimin once wanted to make Li Ke a prince, but he also knew that Li Ke, who was both civil and military, had ambitions, so he once wrote to him: "I am the ruler, I am the ruler, and I am the symbol of wealth." You live in the land of Mao Qin, but if you put it on the screen, you will think of Joe's way. You are kind and peaceful. Treat people with righteousness, treat people with courtesy, and be careful. Then the rocks will be solidified and the city will be protected forever. Loyal to the monarch and his subjects, filial piety is within the father and son, and self-motivated. If you violate your knees, you love yourself. Leave if you want, interested but afraid of arrogance. Therefore, I swear this word as a court lesson. "
This kind of letter from the emperor is not precious, and the love for his son's adopted son is beyond words, which is rare.