The film "Don't Ask" was finally released five years later. Tells the story of four hundred years of Tsinghua people.

As a sentimental literary film, the public's response to it is surprisingly good. Both the box office and word of mouth are Qi Fei, and the "egg" at the end of the film brings us great surprises. It is not an exaggeration to say that it is "China's character". Liang Sicheng, Wang Guowei, Lin, Zhu Ziqing ... It was a distant and yearning era.

Mo Wen West East is a pot of tea, and I tasted one of them-Shen Guangyao.

Shen Guangyao was born in a large family and his ancestors had unlimited scenery. He is a rich boy himself. Different from the rich children we imagined, Shen Guangyao is a "rich N generation" with ideals, blood and compassion.

He is full of enthusiasm for life, will pay attention to it, and will certainly do it. He is confident, brave, kind and sincere. And growing into such a beautiful person depends on his family education.

In the movie, Shen Guangyao told his family about his idea of becoming a soldier. His mother came to him with servants and butlers, and also brought exquisite snacks.

Mother Shen's manners are very good, with the temperament of a noble family. It was also she who showed us the upbringing and family style of a big family.

When they met, Shen's mother's eyes were filled with joy, and then the first thing she did was to make Shen Guangyao kneel down and recite Zuxun.

"Although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifices will be sincere. Although future generations are stupid, they must read the classics. "

"The rich man is a soldier, the pen is an official, the dead are like cows, and the talents are like grass."

Although I have heard of these commandments, I really don't know much about them, and how many families in today's society have family precepts?

Shen's mother misunderstood that Shen Guangyao was pursuing fame, and she felt sorry for his decision to become a soldier. She opposes him not only because he is the only child in the family, but also because she is worried about his youthful spirit and blind obedience.

"At the beginning, your father and I didn't object when you left home to study in this place, because we wanted you to enjoy life, such as studying in thousands of books and going to Wan Li Road, such as marrying a girl you like and having children. Be careful not to give me grandchildren, but to enjoy the fun of being a parent. "

"You want to pursue fame and fortune in my life, is nothing. What your ancestors didn't experience was just an illusion of life. "

"I'm afraid you haven't thought about how to live in this life, and this life will be gone."

Shen's mother's words reveal the tolerance and elegance of a century-old family.

Shenyang family education is very strict, and their family style is also very positive. They educate and raise their children only to make them live a high life. They don't need to inherit the family business, honor their ancestors or pursue vain fame and fortune. They just want their children to live a high life.

This is a real aristocratic family. This is Shen Guangyao's luck, and it is also a height that ordinary people may never reach.

Parents should be like this.

Today, 80 years later, many parents' thoughts and ways of thinking are not as good as those of 1938 in Shenyang. This gap is more than 80 years! Is the aristocratic temperament and tolerance accumulated by this century-old family comparable to that of today's richest man?

After Shen Guangyao's sacrifice, Shen's mother stood in front of the mourning hall in mourning. On the plaque behind her were written the words "Three Generations and Five Generals"-Shen was a real aristocratic family. This aristocratic temperament cannot be cultivated overnight. They don't have a small goal of "one hundred million", but they have the thickness and pride in their bones.

Ordinary people like us may not be as graceful as Shenyang because of the limitations of our experience and our own opinions, but we can remain kind, constantly improve ourselves, and teach our children a correct view of honor and disgrace and right and wrong.

Build a family style, follow the ancestral precepts and pass it on from generation to generation, and you will live out your value.

"Qiu's daughter is not the armpit of a fox; The raft on the terrace is not a branch; Three generations, not a lifetime of wisdom.

02

Ordinary people educate their children, whether they are swearing or cursing, they often join their own emotions and hope that their children will grow up in the direction they want. "I hope that women will become chickens and children will become dragons." Parents expect their children to become talents, but they often fail to set a good example for their children.

However, a wealthy family often pays attention to self-cultivation and sets an example for their children.

Some time ago, "Where is Dad Going? Season 5" was broadcasted on the Internet. The children in it have their own merits and are deeply loved by the audience. Among them, Chun Wu's daughter, Wu Xinyi, was unanimously praised by everyone-she is a kind-hearted but unpretentious little girl from a rich family.

She grew up in Brunei, with a superior family and daily communication in English. Chun Wu took her to a project in China and told her to communicate in Chinese. Xinyi has been trying to speak Chinese with everyone. Even when the village chief asked her to answer questions, she would explain that she didn't know how to express it because her Chinese was not very good.

Xinyi is smart, sensible, strong and independent, and never stingy with her efforts for children in need.

When picking pitaya, she helped other children with their tasks and her finger was pricked and bleeding. She simply looked at it herself, and then went to Uncle Jordan chan for help without crying. When "changing her father", she watched her father leave her with her younger brother. She silently endured her sadness and helped the "new father" to do the task.

Xinyi said, because her father told her to be brave. She doesn't have the femininity and affectation of a rich girl. Her Excellence has a lot to do with her family and education.

Wu Zun has a happy marriage. Their daily life is peaceful, loving and the family atmosphere is good. We often say that a good family is "the father is respected and the mother is spoiled". Chun Wu's family gives people this feeling.

In one program, Chun Wu's lover came to watch the performance, and Chun Wu helped her while cooking. Chun Wu took this opportunity to tell the children the story between him and his mother when he was at school. Tell the children that mom used to take care of herself and help her cook.

Chun Wu's love for his wife is reflected in every look and every movement. This kind of love makes children feel very safe. Both husband and wife attach importance to the education of their children and can set an example.

Chun Wu used more water when his wife took care of her brother to wash his hands. She told him gently, "that's enough, brother, don't waste it."

Once the Wu family's breakfast was porridge and steamed bread, and Xinyi could not bear it. Chun Wu stretched out his hand and took it, and began to eat contentedly. And euphemistically tell them that many people can't eat and waste.

Living in this family, they respect each other and love each other very much. Some things don't have to be said or reprimanded loudly. Children who live in happy families will grow up to be people full of goodwill around them.

When Xiao Pufu and Xinyi's younger brother have difficulty communicating in English, they also talk to Xinyi seriously. Xinyi gently told her that she could speak Chinese.

Chun Wu will also tell them about the joy of work.

He led the children to do the task, and the hard work of "harvesting corn" was very happy for them. Because the division of labor is clear, everyone has his own work to undertake and everyone has his own value, so he feels hard and happy.

After the task was completed, Xinyi said it was a little hard, and Chun Wu went on to say, "But I'm also very happy, aren't I?"

What he wants his children to remember is not how hard it is, but the harvest and happiness afterwards. Hard work is only the way to gain happiness.

Xinyi can be very naughty sometimes. Chun Wu didn't scold her loudly, but taught her patiently.

When interviewed by the media, I asked him: Is the child really not angry or upset when he is naughty?

Chun Wu said: Naughty is children's nature, because they are not sensible and need parents to teach them.

He doesn't want to interfere too much with the child's personality development, just give the child the correct guidance. As the father of children's worship, Chun Wu himself has always insisted on influencing children with a positive image and becoming their role model.

He insisted on fitness, insisted on doing meaningful things, and told the children that only he could cherish what he wanted.

Chun Wu is called "Prince of Brunei" because of his personal charm. The Wu family is also a big family in Brunei.

However, both ordinary people and clan people should pay attention to their own requirements and the cultivation of their children.

The best way to educate and cultivate children is to make them respected, help them distinguish right from wrong, guide them to learn, encourage them to set meaningful goals, think what they think, love what they love and do what they want.

03

We often say that parents are children's first teachers. No matter how good a teacher or school is, it is not as good as a reasonable parent.

Some parents are not well educated. Due to their own limitations, their education of children is often not in place. Some parents even said: "Children are still young, and when they grow up, they will naturally understand."

Every time I hear such rhetoric, I feel anxious for them to shirk their responsibilities. Can you recite ancient poems that you couldn't recite when you were a child now? Have you mastered arithmetic that you didn't know before?

Knowledge is to be learned and children are to be taught. The truth of being a man, one's own ideal, one's own value, and one's own identity … all these need good demonstration from parents.

I have met extraordinary parents who communicate with their children equally and give them due respect. Such children are often confident and loving, lively and intelligent, and full of love for the people around them.

One of my female colleagues, who has become a mother, still maintains a full sense of girlhood. When the husband's family is well-off, the salary can be freely controlled.

She tries to do some part-time jobs, travels when she is free, learns to draw in her spare time, often gets up early to exercise, and then prepares to learn to dance.

She leads a wonderful life and devotes herself to the education of her children. She respects children, encourages them to cultivate their hobbies, educates them to pay attention to their health, and hopes that children can dare to express their ideas.

Her baby just went to kindergarten and received a good education. Children are sensible and polite, and are kind and friendly to the people around them.

Once a colleague took the baby to school, and she went to a meeting, so let me take care of it for a while. The little guy is lively and lovely. He told me a lot. When he saw me looking at my mobile phone, he came over and said, "Mom said looking at my mobile phone would hurt my eyes."

Then he stared at me. I put away my mobile phone and thanked him. He went to play contentedly. After a while, I took out my mobile phone again, and he came over again, repeated what he had just said, and glared at me to put it away.

He was really warm at that time. What a wonderful family this is. Parents love each other and their families are harmonious, so children will be so confident and care about others.

What kind of people are children, what kind of people are the parents behind them. The upbringing and education of children will affect their life.

The sacred amethyst also mentions that "if you don't teach, your nature will change" and "if you don't teach, your father will make mistakes". Parents' education for their children is a lifelong career.

04

Parents love their children and always want them to be the best, but forget that they are ordinary people.

We are all ordinary people. Ordinary people can also strengthen self-discipline, strive to improve themselves, set an example for children, create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere for children, and children worship and recognize their parents. Such parents are successful.

We in China have a long history. From ancient times to the present, we all pay attention to family ties and inheritance. Some modern families also have genealogies, and parents also want to give their children a good education. It's just that sometimes life forces you, but you can't.

The world is beautiful and times are hard. Some people work hard just to survive. What they want to pursue, but they also have to worry about the responsibility behind themselves.

Just like parents, if they can't satisfy their children materially, they can also give them spiritual encouragement. Parents try to improve themselves, live high. Teach children beauty and give them hope.

Maybe we can't be a noble family all our lives, but being better than ourselves in the past is progress and gain.

You may not be excellent, but you can always be a kind person who knows right from wrong.