Many mothers are very upset about this, but they also express their helplessness.
Cherrie Ying once suggested that if her son wanted to get what he wanted by crying, she would never compromise and let him roll on the ground until he calmed down.
After coming down several times, Jasper stopped rolling around asking for things.
In fact, the process of making rules is implied here. The process of a baby learning rules is like this: finding the impossible-crying and cheating-knowing that it is impossible to get-calming down emotions-looking for opportunities to explore-confirming that it is really impossible to get-knowing where the rules are and never trying to break them again.
Many times, the root of the problem is that adults are out of control.
Do a good job in emotional management, calm down before getting angry, take a deep breath and ask yourself, "Why am I angry? Can anger solve the problem? If not, how can I solve it? "
No matter what the circumstances, let your children feel your love and security.
In the picture book "David, No", David is a naughty boy, and his mother is a strict and even a little rude person, but her heart is full of warmth and deep love. The article used a lot of space to describe David's naughty. His mother said "David, don't" to him, but when David was really in trouble, he chose to let his mother give him a warm hug.
So, before you are ready to hit your child, do your own emotional management first!
Psychologist Bandura believes that children gain social behavior by observing the behaviors of important people in their lives, and the observation results will be further transformed into role models.
Family is the main place for children to imitate.
Parents are the main targets of children's imitation.
He will learn and imitate the way his parents speak and do things.
Parents use rough methods, and children will follow with rough methods.
And parents use love, and children will learn to use love.
Jordan chan and Cherrie Ying have to be mentioned again here. They are model couples in the entertainment circle. When they quarrel, Jordan chan will not hesitate to bow his head and admit his mistake. Cherrie Ying will also have a crush on her husband for a second, praising his singing and acting skills.
It is because parents love and respect each other that Jasper is so warm-hearted. Every day, he said to his father in a voice of milk and milk: Dad, I love you forever. Seeing his careless scratch, he will chase him and say, you are hurt, I want to see it. ...
Should Xiong Haizi's "bear behavior" be punished?
Sure!
The natural punishment method is shared in Spencer's Encyclopedia of Happy Education, which refers to making children realize the natural consequences of their wrong actions, so as to learn from their experiences and make up their minds not to make mistakes again.
For example, when I came back from work, I found the children throwing toys everywhere, which made the living room a mess. The way of natural punishment is to let the child clean up by himself and tell him not to play with toys until he cleans up next time.
In this way, children will remember their actions and consequences, understand the causal relationship, and then judge whether they can do this when they experience similar situations in the future. At the same time, it also avoids the emotional confrontation caused by parents' artificial punishment.
A primary school student in Nanjing took two pebbles from the exhibition hall when he visited the Six Dynasties Museum. A few days later, accompanied by his mother, he sent them back and submitted an apology letter.
Mothers use natural punishment to make their children responsible for their actions. On the one hand, let him realize that he should abide by social norms and restrain his behavior, and he won't make such mistakes again in the future. On the other hand, it also cultivates the quality that children correct mistakes when they know them.
It should be noted that children under one year old are at an important stage of establishing an attachment relationship with their mothers, so no form of punishment should be imposed.