First, try not to hit children. The child made a mistake, so don't hit the child in a hurry. Learn to control your emotions and suppress your anger. You can tell your child how you feel at the moment and let them know that you are dissatisfied with his behavior just now. For example: "Your mother is very sad!" "I'm not satisfied with what you did!" "I don't like you like this!" Wait a minute. This will not only help to calm their emotions, but also help children to think from the perspective of their parents, thus promoting their reflection. Second, punish children in a natural way. In fact, children's mistakes are nothing more than trivial matters. Parents don't need too much criticism and let their children bear the wrong consequences themselves. For example, if milk is spilled, you can't drink it. At the same time, let the children clean up the spilled milk themselves; If the toy is broken, it can't be played. At the same time, ask him to promise to protect his toys in the future, otherwise he won't buy him new toys in the future ... This will not only make the child understand the possible consequences of his mistakes, but also make the child repent in the process of bearing the consequences, which will help prevent the child from making similar mistakes again.

Third, don't get emotional. If a child has to be beaten, parents should first stabilize their emotions and calmly face their children's problems. Beating children when they are emotional will only be counterproductive. Children will only focus on their parents' fierce emotions and will not think it is their own fault. Therefore, if you have to hit your child, you must stabilize your emotions and let your child know that they are paying for their mistakes, not for their parents' bad emotions. Fourth, let the children understand the reasons for being beaten. When you have to hit a child, you should clearly tell the child why he was hit and how to deal with the mistake next time. After beating the child, it is suggested to coax the child to understand that it is also very sad to beat his parents. Beating him just reminds him not to make the same mistake again. This is also the key to avoid psychological harm to children. Fifth, reason with children. Don't hit children under 2 years old and after 6 years old. Children before the age of 2 are immature and lack awareness of rules. Beating them has no warning effect, but it will affect children's psychological development. Children after the age of 6 should be sensible. If they make mistakes, parents should communicate with them in a reasonable way to avoid negative influence on their children.

Parents should also pay attention to ways and means when punishing their children. You can punish the child's hands and buttocks, because the nerve sensitivity here is poor, and the child's corporal punishment will not hurt too much. And when corporal punishment is given to children, don't insult their dignity, and don't do humiliating corporal punishment such as kneeling and slapping! It really works. Since we are going to punish children, we must make up our minds. That's how it works. Otherwise, slapping a sweet jujube will have little effect. Moreover, the child was skinned, and the more he played, the more naughty he became.

1, you can't hit a child with emotions, because you have emotions. At this time, hitting the child is just venting anger, which will ignore the reasons for the child's mistakes and it is difficult to explain to the child why he wants to fight. It's easy to hurt children by mistake. When you are angry and don't want to hit your child, it's time for you to hit, because the rules can't be changed casually. 2. communicate before hitting the child. Let the children know why they were beaten, and let them know that it is not mom and dad who want to beat you, but the rules that want to beat you. The rules are above their parents. This process requires a lot of parents. Parents should be able to control their emotions, be concise, but be firm. 3. You can't hit with your hands or shoes. To be "expert", you need to use a stick (that is, the ancient family law). This has two advantages: first, give yourself time to calm down; The second is to generate shock.

Although we are far-sighted about children's education, the result is not what we want. A good attitude can bring a good mood. If your child is naughty, naughty and disobedient, please don't rush to "label" your child. Try to adjust your mentality, communicate with your children more, and understand their real thoughts. It may have unexpected effects to draw conclusions after the child is "disobedient". Parents should be clear about the purpose of educating their children. Only parents who thoroughly understand the principles of education, study hard, devote themselves wholeheartedly and improve themselves can teach excellent children.

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