According to the survey, girls generally study more actively, get better grades and work harder than boys. The following is a summary of how to educate boys by Xiaobian, hoping to help everyone.

The first sunshine education: adventure education.

Now many parents always educate their sons like this: "You can't go, it's too dangerous." "This place can't stay, it's dangerous."

Educator Richard put it well: "Children who lack adventurous spirit are often used to sticking to the rules, weak in character and not good at innovation."

The second sunshine education: rule education.

On the basis of "adventure education", we should also add a "rule education" to balance adventure and rules. Whatever you do, you should think of the worst result. If the worst result is acceptable, you can try. If you can't bear it, don't do it.

The third kind of sunshine education: frustration education.

Yang Baode, a doctoral student at Xi Jiaotong University, committed suicide because he couldn't bear the harassment of his tutor, and Ou Jianxin, a programmer at ZTE, committed suicide because he couldn't bear being dismissed by the company. To some extent, they chose to commit suicide because of the lack of frustration education.

In fact, what knocks us down in life is definitely not a setback, but a negative evasive attitude when facing setbacks. You should learn to turn every difficulty and setback into an opportunity to learn. When one door closes, another door opens. Or you can open the closed door yourself.

The fourth sunshine education: independent education.

Jiang Yang's father, Yang Yinhang, a famous educator, once said: "It is better to be the first in the exam than to educate children to be independent."

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The key to educating boys

One: Why is it best for boys to be "poor"?

As the saying goes: since ancient times, there have been many rich ladies and never many handsome men. As an educational concept, raising boys in poverty has been accepted by more and more people. Its connotation is: the cultivation of boys' qualities such as hard-working, brave and strong, sincere and frank, witty and decisive, and responsible. "Poor" support is to let boys experience more storms and practice more. As the old saying goes, "When you are in trouble, you are successful." In other words, only when boys are tempered in the necessary "poverty" and "bitterness" can they know how to be proud of their efforts and ashamed of extravagance and waste.

Two: Why are boys so dependent and independent now?

Mr. Tao Xingzhi once wrote a poem: "Drop your own blood, shed your own sweat and do your own thing;" Relying on heaven and relying on Laozi is not a hero. " This poem humorously expresses the wisdom of life: independence is the most precious "wealth" in life for boys, similar to the "stocking" education in modern educational concepts. Tolstoy once said: "Love for children is what an old hen will do. The key is how to educate children. " This sentence is the "soft rib" of modern family education: loving children is not to be their amulet and umbrella, but to make them become independent and strong through training and guidance!

Three: Why should we pay attention to the cultivation of boys' ability?

Boys are in the growth period of growing up and learning knowledge, and it is also the best period to cultivate their various abilities. Whether it is thinking ability, cooperation ability, decision-making ability, competition ability, adaptability or imagination ability, it is an essential capital for boys to achieve their future life.

Four: Why do boys have the courage to take responsibility?

A boy who doesn't understand the importance of responsibility will never grow up and will always be a small role. As Churchill said: the price of greatness is responsibility. Therefore, if parents love their sons, they will subtly influence and cultivate the boy's sense of responsibility, and strive to cultivate the boy into a responsible man.

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Methods of educating boys

First, the earlier an independent boy is, the more promising he will be.

Gender gives the boy great strength, and he will face and deal with some difficult problems without his parents. If parents can let go of their hands and feet and give their son the right to choose his own path in the future, then I think he can make the right choice for himself no matter what challenges and difficulties he encounters in the future, even if he is wrong, he will be responsible for himself. This invisibly cultivated the boy's sense of responsibility and opinion. Moreover, looking at those successful men who have a bright future in our eyes, these two points are essential.

Second, the more responsible boys are, the more promising they are.

Nowadays, many parents' parenting style is that as long as their children are young, both boys and girls are children. But boys are born to be more rebellious than girls. If they don't cultivate their sense of responsibility from an early age, they are likely to become playboys. Moreover, in this competitive society, a responsible boy can gain the trust of his boss and colleagues.

Third, the harder a boy works, the more promising he is.

In children's education, one thing is indispensable, and that is hardship education. Especially if there are boys at home, it is even more difficult to suffer, because a man who is afraid of suffering is doomed to be irresponsible. If you don't let this boy suffer now, he will certainly let the people around him suffer; It will be even more bitter for him when he enters the society in the future!

Fourth, the braver the boy, the more promising he is.

Once, a boy asked me, "Why do boys have to be brave?" What if I'm scared? Can I be a girl? "This question made me silent for a long time, but it was also more determined. Boys need courage more. Because a boy's bravery is a display of masculinity, otherwise how can he want to become a girl if he doesn't want to be brave?

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How to educate boys

1, let go:

Parents teach boys to be bold and let go, and can't stop their children from doing this and that. This is dirty. Children shouldn't touch it. That's dangerous. Children shouldn't touch it. Parents are always worried about this and that. When can children really grow up? Let go and let the children do it themselves, especially boys can't care too much.

2. Practice:

To educate boys, it is necessary to create some opportunities for boys to exercise, so that children can do what they can from an early age. In summer, boys should sweat more. Don't stay in the air-conditioned room all day. Don't worry about children being afraid of the cold in winter. Let children play with snow, push snowmen and have snowball fights, and exercise boys' courage and hard-working spirit. Children can go to school by themselves and solve their own problems.

3. Be responsible for:

As a boy, you should learn to take responsibility. Parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility from an early age and tell boys that you are the head of the family and the future of the family depends on you to change. Give boys a little pressure, let them know that they are boys, take responsibility, dare to take responsibility, face the future, don't let their children's roads be smooth sailing, and arrange everything for them, especially boys. It is not a bad thing to wrestle more, so that children dare to take responsibility.

4. Strong:

Boys should be strong. When they are in trouble, they should not shrink back or cry. Boys should know that men don't cry, sweat and cry, and let children know that boys should be men, be brave in facing failure and have strong willpower. Parents should give boys more difficult and bigger tasks than girls, and should not make the same demands on them. Boys should do more sports, such as climbing mountains, playing ball games and exercising their strong character.