He is just an ordinary rural doctor, but he has successfully trained five doctors and 1 master from six children at home, and finally became a world-famous family education expert.
Lu Yu, a famous host, called him "Doctor Dad" and sincerely praised him: I must ask Teacher Cai for help if I want to have a baby!
Educator Wang Donghua is full of praise for him: his godson experience is like a rich gold mine. ......
Even Cui Yongyuan asked him for the "secret recipe" for raising children. He is Cai, an educator who is known as a "genius magician". His family was also rated as "the most beautiful family in the country".
When referring to the "secret of parenting" to cultivate children, Cai believes that the first step is to pay close attention to early education.
He emphasized that there is no fixed "prescription" for family education, and each child's individual is also very different, so the way of education should not be the same, but we must pay attention to the word "persistence".
As long as parents can think hard and persist in paying, they can find a more suitable family education method for their children from countless educational experiences of others.
In life, although many men get married and have children, they don't know how to be a qualified father, let alone how to shoulder the responsibility of being a father.
Some fathers are too busy to spend time with their children, thinking that as long as they make money and spend it on their children's schooling, they will fulfill their father's responsibilities.
Some fathers, facing their children's problems, either beat or scold, believe in "stick education", and children are afraid when they see him, which seriously hurts the parent-child relationship.
When children grow up with all kinds of problems, such fathers are often helpless and don't know where the problems are.
We know that fathers have a great influence on children. Let's take a look at how Cai Xiaoxiao became a father, hoping to inspire our parents, especially our father.
Cai Xiaoxiao once said: My career is my father! That's what he said, and that's what he did. Once he did it, it was a lifetime.
He made the word "father" no longer just a child's name, but a great career he engaged in all his life.
1, cultivate children's excellent moral quality.
"Raising Children" says:
Cai Xiao Xie consciously cultivates children's mind, tolerance and courage, and requires children to be decisive from an early age; He accompanied the children to study and cultivated their noble sentiments; He guides children to study actively everywhere in life and cultivates their sense of responsibility and perseverance.
The most successful part of Cai Xiaoxiao's family education is the cultivation of children's moral quality. He teaches children to learn to be human first. He asked the children to be virtuous, strong-willed and self-reliant.
2, entertaining, let children develop good habits from an early age.
Learning is hard work, but Cai is good at taking education as art, turning pressure into motivation and turning hardship into happiness.
Instead of forcing children to bury themselves in their studies all day, he tried every means to make them feel happy in their studies, such as learning music, holding competitions, traveling and other cultural and sports activities.
In addition, in terms of learning methods, he helped children develop many good study habits. For example, they should finish their homework immediately after school. Let children have a sense of time and learn to plan their life and study actively; He also encourages children to read widely and cultivate their interest in reading.
The British philosopher Locke once put forward that "the means of education is not to teach homework, but to cultivate children's good habits from an early age."
Good living habits and study habits will play a particularly important role in children's future study and life in elementary school, junior high school, senior high school and university.
Cai Xiaoxiao is an ordinary but great father. Although they live in a dilapidated old house in the countryside, he can cultivate all six children with scientific early education methods.
It can be seen that Cai Xiaoxiao is not only a successful father, but also an outstanding educator. His educational philosophy is known as the "Art of War" of family education.
So, what advanced educational ideas does he have for early childhood education that are worth learning?
1, parental devotion
In order to carry out his early education plan, he chose to become a village doctor. In this way, he has enough time to accompany and cultivate his children.
He and his wife almost sacrificed all meaningless social activities. No matter the doubts of others, no matter the embarrassment of the environment, no matter how hard life is, they must do everything possible to insist on early education for their children.
When the children didn't have toys, he made a table tennis table, and the children could play around after school. He also designed a small dance floor with lights at home, which greatly enriched the children's entertainment activities.
Mrs Carnegie said:
The family will sit around the lamp and read together every night; In the morning, the whole family also listened to English and Japanese programs together, which greatly cultivated children's interest in learning.
2. Read early.
Cai firmly believes: "Read early!" His early education for children can be said to have started from infancy. His method of enlightening children in mathematics is actually very simple.
For example, he pointed his finger at the child's chin, clicked a few times, and then said a few times; Then shoot the child's hand index. Later, when the child was only 8 months old, he could count from 1 to 5 as soon as he could pronounce it. By the time the child is over 1 year old, the number within 10 is already known.
Although this method is simple, it also varies from person to person. Not all children can learn so fast. Therefore, ordinary parents can only learn from it, not necessarily copy the old ones.
3. Education should be adhered to.
Many parents will be enthusiastic for three minutes when educating their children. At first, they were more patient. After a long time, they will get impatient. If education can't persist, the result will fall short. Therefore, the difficulty of education lies in persistence.
However, Cai Xiao's post-education for children can be done day after day, year after year. From birth until the child is two and a half years old and learns simple addition and subtraction ..... until the child goes to school. This perseverance will eventually affect children.
Therefore, his children quickly surpassed other children of the same age as soon as they entered school, and their academic performance has been particularly excellent. The advantages of early education have been reflected after school, and children's learning does not need teachers and parents to worry about.
Cai Xiao said late:
Children's education should not rely entirely on school education, but should pay more attention to family education. And family education is to persist. Especially for the early education of children, parents should pay more attention to it.
Krupskaya once said:
A good family education environment plays a vital role in children's growth. Parents are the creators of the family education environment, and children can keenly feel the family and the surrounding atmosphere from birth.
Cai has been educating children about their aspirations since they were three years old. The walls of his house are covered with portraits of scientists. He often tells easy-to-understand inspirational stories to children. He also intends to teach children to recite some inspirational poems and guide them to set up lofty ideals.
Mr. and Mrs. Cai have been committed to creating a good atmosphere for their children to learn and become talents. Sometimes it's not how good the economic conditions are, the key is that parents create a warm atmosphere full of love.
Parents are the most solid foundation for children's growth. As Cai said, it is necessary to "create a good learning and success atmosphere for children with love"
Cai Xiaoxiao's idea of paying attention to children's early education was still very advanced at that time. Only when parents bring their children together can they have the confidence to fly upwards. Parents' love and companionship enable children to learn self-growth and temper their courage to face challenges.
Now most parents understand the importance of early education and have learned some knowledge about early education, but many parents always quarrel, beat and scold because of trivial matters, and even divorce.
This kind of family relationship will cause great influence and harm to children. In a family where parents are not harmonious, children cannot feel love and harmony. If parents focus on trivial matters such as quarreling, they will ignore the education and growth of their children.
Therefore, our parents should learn to respect their children, communicate with them with love, and build a good environment for their children to become talents.
Cai Xiaoxiao's daughter, 14 years old, went to the juvenile class of the Chinese University of Science and Technology and left home to live in the school dormitory. To this end, he used letters to communicate with children. So there is no gap between him and his children, and the children tell their parents what their problems are.
When Cai Xiaoxiao's fourth son was in middle school, he was fascinated by martial arts novels and wanted to become a martial arts expert. Cai Xiaoxiao did not object rudely like other parents, but chose to respect him and sent him to the martial arts school.
Later, the child found that it was not the place where he should go. After a semester, he went home and began to concentrate on his studies. Finally, he was admitted to West China University of Medical Sciences.
Tolstoy said:
Parents are the first teachers of the children. What kind of person do you want your children to be, then you have to make great efforts.